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What would you do with these monies

  • 23-12-2014 7:35pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭


    Okay figured I'd receive most variety of responses in here so if I may Please...

    Long story short I've come by some monies that had me in tears reading the amount. Anywhoo, my Late Loving Dad passed away on December 20th of lastyear and I owed him circa 2-grand.

    Monies will be sent anonymously to varying charities or else I'd use Dads' name and it won't come back to me in any way, but I'm trying to find another fitting way to spend these monies since I can't physically give Dad the monies that I owe him :(

    What suggestions would you have for me Please?
    Many Many Thanks
    kerry4sam


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,428 ✭✭✭Talib Fiasco


    What in the name of J are "monies"?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,973 ✭✭✭Sh1tbag OToole


    Spend it on pints of Beamish for yourself, just like he would have wanted you to


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,169 ✭✭✭The Peanut


    Any charities that he was particularly supportive of? Perhaps some local charity that would know your Dad?

    Lovely thought, btw.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,028 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


    LauraLynn Children's Hospice

    https://lauralynn.ie/


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,246 ✭✭✭ardinn


    In his memory - stop using the term monies!!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 692 ✭✭✭fuerte1976


    kerry4sam wrote:
    Monies will be sent anonymously to varying charities or else I'd use Dads' name and it won't come back to me in any way, but I'm trying to find another fitting way to spend these monies since I can't physically give Dad the monies that I owe him 


    good on ya re the charities.
    I'll forward you me bank details !
    you'll get some quare answers here (as I'm sure you're well aware) !


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,070 ✭✭✭✭My name is URL


    Santa Strike Force?

    Either that or Médecins Sans Frontières... or some locally run charities / community initiatives in your area.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,169 ✭✭✭The Peanut


    There was a lot of damage done by the storms on your part of the country last winter; perhaps sponsor the planting of new trees in some parks? You'ld have the pleasure of seeing them grow over the years.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,557 ✭✭✭KeithM89


    Aids for Africa.

    I think thats what its called....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,800 ✭✭✭Senna


    Keep it local, small charities working in your area will appreciate it much more than larger charities that act like businesses.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,381 ✭✭✭✭Allyall


    Whatever you spend it on charities/good cause make you sure you can see what it does and where it goes.
    I wouldn't give a red cent to a charity without seeing every step my money takes.

    Also, if you have a Son/Daughter, and they owed you €2,000 while you were ill/dying, would you not prefer they kept it?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,223 ✭✭✭Canyon86


    give half to charity, make it as local as you can,

    maybe a local meals and wheels org maybe, personally dont trust the bigger charities after all thats gone on!

    maybe set up a fixed term a/c and deposit the rest in that,
    put a lock on it so you cant access it for a couple of years
    you ll be thankful when in 2019 you ll be able to buy a new car ;)


  • Registered Users Posts: 11,101 ✭✭✭✭martingriff


    kerry4sam wrote: »
    Okay figured I'd receive most variety of responses in here so if I may Please...

    Long story short I've come by some monies that had me in tears reading the amount. Anywhoo, my Late Loving Dad passed away on December 20th of lastyear and I owed him circa 2-grand.

    Monies will be sent anonymously to varying charities or else I'd use Dads' name and it won't come back to me in any way, but I'm trying to find another fitting way to spend these monies since I can't physically give Dad the monies that I owe him :(

    What suggestions would you have for me Please?
    Many Many Thanks
    kerry4sam

    Why has the amount have you in tears. Did you come about this money immoral in some way. To answer your question as the one of the posts says I say your father would wish you to use the money to help youself in someway especially if giving it away would make your financial situation bad. I applaud you wanting to settle your debt and giving it to charities is great but using it yourself to pay off bills/mortgage to relieve money stresses might be a something you might considering doing. I say you father may like you to do that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭anncoates


    A charity that benefits children to signify /remember your relationship with him.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,011 ✭✭✭Tugboats


    Buy 400 copies of Do they know it's Christmas


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,647 ✭✭✭✭El Weirdo


    KeithM89 wrote: »
    Aids for Africa.

    I think thats what its called....

    Pretty sure Africa has enough AIDS.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    Nothing immoral with how I received them Thank God. Just took my breath away is all & all I wanted to do was tell my Dad as he knew the pain & suffering I went to these past few years and was there every step of the way with me!

    Wow some lovely ideas in here...Thank You!

    I've a few charities in mind alright but need to give thought to the meaning and ensuring monies go directly where Dad would like them to go and not lining anothers pocket un-necessarily you know.

    These monies won't be saved by me, not these 2-grand - have to be spent for my Dad, adamant about that; the meals on wheels and homeless-charities sound wonderful to me ; the assistance re:flood relief sounds real nice also; a hospice will also benefit as they done tremendous work for a cousin of mine before he passed away...

    Keep the ideas coming if you don't mind,
    kerry4sam


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,305 ✭✭✭Cantremember


    It depends on your dad and what he was like. Personally I wouldn't give a cent to third world charities and I know some of the clientele of the local ones have multiple supports in place. If it was England, the RHS so that gardening could be promoted and ordinary people would have places to enjoy. If you're a sea going family the RNLI do very valuable work. IMHO be wary of local groups who'd piss it away on the 'disadvantaged".


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,647 ✭✭✭✭El Weirdo


    SVdP always need money this time of year.

    They do great work, too.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,249 ✭✭✭Irishmale0399


    Take the money, go to your local supermarket and buy a **** load of non perishable food (rice, pasta, tined stuff) and take it to the local soup kitchen.........sure there are people who would be greatful of it at this time of year.

    Alternatively ring them and ask what it is they need and go out an buy it.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,489 ✭✭✭Yamanoto


    I remember reading your post about the circumstances of your Dad's death at the time & feeling heartbroken for you K4S (I've always been very close to my own Dad, so it certainly resonated).

    I saw a feature on BBC News this evening, where a retired teacher gathered many older folks together for a Christmas knees-up featuring a great looking feed & a sing-song. There were a fair few attendees and I was surprised to see it came in on a budget of £1000stg. Obviously wouldn't be feasible this year, but doing something simple like that on a local level for folks (some of whom might have known your Dad) could be quite special.

    Alternatively, I think the Irish Hospice Foundation is a terrific organisation, which not only helps to provide dignity to those at the end of their lives, but also funds bereavement programmes to make life a little easier for those who naturally struggle with the loss of their nearest & dearest.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,381 ✭✭✭✭Allyall


    A few of the aforementioned charities also accept food and material contributions, which may not be a bad idea.
    You could buy a fair bit for a few different places.

    EDIT.
    I was on the phone there when I started typing, and the above two posts seem to say the same thing or similar.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    What in the name of J are "monies"?



    You know.

    Dinero, moolah, cabbage, cheddar, Benjamins, scratch, shekels.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    Yamanoto: Many Thank You. Yeah my thread in the Kerry forum here is now bringing some new ideas to the fore for me with the Great Work being done by Good Samaritans throughout this country :)

    Yey! 2015 - Oh so looking forward to starting 2015 Now! Oh I really need to do this right :o

    Thanks Again,
    kerry4sam


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 776 ✭✭✭seventeen sheep


    LauraLynn Children's Hospice

    https://lauralynn.ie/

    Exactly what I was going to suggest.

    It's so tragic that a hospice just for babies and children has to exist. My heart breaks for the founder, who lost two babies to cancer.

    It's the top of my last when I have money spare to donate to charity. And as an organisation it's always been unimpeachable from a moral/ethical point of view, from everything I've read.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,939 ✭✭✭maxwell smart


    kerry4sam wrote: »
    Yamanoto: Many Thank You. Yeah my thread in the Kerry forum here is now bringing some new ideas to the fore for me with the Great Work being done by Good Samaritans throughout this country :)

    Yey! 2015 - Oh so looking forward to starting 2015 Now! Oh I really need to do this right :o

    Thanks Again,
    kerry4sam

    Just read your post from last year, very very touching indeed.

    I see why you feel the need to do something with the money and as said already, donating to the usual big charities won't go anywhere. Go local with the cash, it will go so much further. meals on wheels would do great work with it and you could probably even deliver some of the stuff yourself.


    And you call the 'monies' anything you want to, I personally prefer the term spondulics :D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 423 ✭✭madrabui


    I'm going to be very boring, but invest the money in a reliable savings scheme e.g. http://www.anpost.ie/AnPost/MainContent/Personal+Customers/Money+Matters/Savings+and+Investments/

    Give the interest to charity. It'll also give you time to think about which charity to give the money.

    (also fair fecks to ya.)


  • Registered Users Posts: 289 ✭✭Basil Fawlty


    I would also like to suggest Laura Lynn. The last I read it was the only children's hospice and it receives no state funding. Its my first thought any time I think of a charity, who wouldn't want a child with such a short life to enjoy the most of their time here.

    For what its worth I think no matter what you do with the cash its a great idea. Money comes and goes but at least you can look back and say your dads money did some good for others rather than paying bills etc. Just make sure whoever you donate it to is genuine.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,180 ✭✭✭hfallada


    OP give it in your name and get the tax credit for it.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    Thanks Again Everyone ^^^
    hfallada wrote: »
    OP give it in your name and get the tax credit for it.

    No it's not mine, but Thank You. I remember before though when I donated a large sum to a charity, they e-mailed me a form that I'd to complete and send back so they could claim the tax back... That's another option :)

    Thanks,
    kerry4sam


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,243 ✭✭✭✭Jesus Wept


    /hug


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,066 ✭✭✭bop1977


    Use it to clear your depts. use it to live a little. Last thing your old man (sympathies by the way) wanted was for you to worry about money.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,923 ✭✭✭To Elland Back


    What were your Da's interests? Spend it there rather than a mainstream charity. BTW, what is this fascination with SVP, don't like them much personally.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 421 ✭✭e.r


    Stick it on a 3/1 shot.
    If it comes in €2000 grand for charity
    And €4000 for yerself


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,771 ✭✭✭dmc17


    e.r wrote: »
    Stick it on a 3/1 shot.
    If it comes in €2000 grand for charity
    And €4000 for yerself

    You've lost €2000 in there somewhere


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,379 ✭✭✭CarrickMcJoe


    Without Jackie Healy Rae, a few potholes are due to appear in those motorways around Kerry. Maybe pay for the repairs.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 421 ✭✭e.r


    dmc17 wrote: »
    You've lost €2000 in there somewhere

    2000 times 3 = 6000 or am i missing something


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,766 ✭✭✭Bongalongherb


    Well if I was you I'd donate them monies to Bongalongherb's website through my hassle-free donation tab-box so I can grow a few plants.

    Thank you for your kind donation.

    Best wishes

    Bong


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,047 ✭✭✭Truckermal


    Hey OP a charity close to your own home and one I like to support is Bumbleance.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 692 ✭✭✭fuerte1976


    Truckermal wrote: »
    Hey OP a charity close to your own home and one I like to support is Bumbleance.

    This option just came to mind before I read the above reply.

    Was in manor yesterday evening where the collection was been held and to put a few quid in Liam & Saoirse's bucket held by their dad put a lump in my throat... (2 young children ourselves)
    Wanted to say something to him but what do you say ...


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,771 ✭✭✭dmc17


    e.r wrote: »
    2000 times 3 = 6000 or am i missing something

    You win 6 and get your 2 back


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,047 ✭✭✭Truckermal


    fuerte1976 wrote: »
    This option just came to mind before I read the above reply.

    Was in manor yesterdy evening where the collection was been held and to put a few quid in Liam & Saoirse's bucket held by their dad put a lump in my throat... (2 young children ourselves)
    Wanted to say something to him but what do you say ...

    I know anytime your having a bad day just read the story on the website and you cop on again, it's so sad I would love to win the euro millions and spend it all on making kid's like that better.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,127 ✭✭✭✭kerry4sam


    ^^^ Incredible suggestions,

    Many Thanks to You All :)
    kerry4sam


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,744 ✭✭✭diomed


    I contributed to these charities this Christmas

    Lodwar school, Turkana, Kenya
    http://www.merrionroadchurch.ie/home,80,0
    I sent a cheque payable to Merrion Road parish. They collect and forward.

    World Bicycle Relief
    http://www.worldbicyclerelief.org/
    I bought one bicycle for $134. This month a generous doner is matching donations up $1,000,000 i.e. the donor bought another for $134 to match mine.
    Every time I win on the horses, golf, soccer I buy a bicycle.

    St Vincent de Paul
    http://www.svp.ie/
    My father (RIP) was in the SVP for about 50 years.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,622 ✭✭✭Ruu


    Put it all on black!

    Travel, travel and travel some more.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,766 ✭✭✭Bongalongherb


    Ruu wrote: »
    Put it all on black!

    Travel, travel and travel some more.

    WOW, I put it all on black on roulette online on paddy power before. I asked my friend if he could score me a fiver to play online and he said yes no problem, so I went into roulette and won 96 euro continuously playing on the roulette table and stopped there as I wasn't greedy.

    I was happy with this win, but as I was spluttering on to my other mate half drunk, I heard my other friend that loaned me the fiver shouting Feck Feck, so I wobbled over to him and said whats up dude and he said I just lost it all, and I said all of what ? the guy gambled on my win money of 96 euro on the same machine and lost all of my money.

    Have a guess what happened after that bad news ? :mad:


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,221 ✭✭✭braddun


    wine women and song


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 637 ✭✭✭Cathy.C


    Do something with at least some of it that your Dad would have enjoyed doing.

    On my Dad's anniversary (and birthdays) I always try and do something he would like to do if he were still here. He was a Spurs fan and someday I plan to attend White Heart Lane and see them play a match, maybe hire an old classic car which he loved.

    Stuff like that.

    A little to charity is fine but if you owed it to him then at least some should spent in ways you feel that he would have enjoyed splashing it out on.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭molly09


    I just read what happened to your dad, I am sorry for ur loss, this time of the year must be so difficult for you and your family. In some small way i wonder did your dad help you receive this money somehow. You knew your dad and in your heart you will know what charities he held close to his heart.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,766 ✭✭✭Bongalongherb


    Fecking after-hours again and I get carried away. Sh!t.
    my Late Loving Dad passed away on December 20th of last year

    Sorry my friend, I just zoomed through your first comment without reading it properly.

    Yes I am an arsehole with my spluttering fast-tracked comment missing important text. Sorry for your loss kerry4sam

    Some-one hit me a slap on the face for being stupid.


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