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Being nice to your GF/BF... chore or not?

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  • 22-04-2009 11:06am
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    Mr Benevolent
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    Just been talking to a girl here in work. Apparently her boyfriend has told her to buy nicer clothes, glasses and lose weight. For context she's a size 12 and reasonably attractive (and also training to be a massage therapist). As well as all that, she has to work 2 jobs to pay half of (his) mortgage, and he's just bought her a '99 Golf with electrical and fuel problems.

    How in the name of fook can her BF justify saying these things to her without ending up on the wrong end of a shotgun?

    So who's been a twat to their OH and learned their lesson? Who hasn't? What made you rethink your twattery? And what you you think about my poor colleague's BF?

    (No, this ain't a PI)


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    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Eh..Eh... :confused:

    Think I'll pass this one


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    smileysurfer
    Registered Users Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭smileysurfer


    Your colleague should tell her BF to take a running jump imo :eek:


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    BaconZombie
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    The Ricky Lake Show is THAT WAY ====>


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    Gone Drinking
    Registered Users Posts: 2,809 ✭✭✭Gone Drinking


    Hey, lets be honest.. a size 12 isn't exactly tiny, is it?

    *waits to be knifed*


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    Puddleduck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    *Knifes Gone drinking* Now that messy buisness is over with, yes, she should tell him to take a long walk.

    No, I think most people are generally nice to their other halfs...thats why they still have them


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    BadCharlie
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    Well peoples weight can always change, go up and down from time to time. My wife has lost weight and i have gained weight. To be honest i dont think i ever said anything about her weight. But she was always on about her own weight. Then one day she did something about it and started to go for long walks.

    He might be just out of work? hard on his luck dont know the full picture. As long as his trying to do something about it then i would give him time.

    Telling someone to change their image is prob another matter. Kind of sounds like his just not happy with the way she looks. And maybe is more concerned about how she looks, to make him self feel happy.

    Maybe just not happy in the relationship and hopes it would be better if the other person would change. And not looking at him self.


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    Mr Benevolent
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    *waits to be knifed*

    Hope you don't mind me knifing you again a few times :D:rolleyes:

    I find people who need skinny partners hilarious - have they realised that they can't have an orgasm just by looking at 'em?


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    Vain
    Registered Users Posts: 2,689 ✭✭✭Vain


    Ah the classic case of the love, hate relationship.

    *Sits back and smokes pipe while judging


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    Zadkiel
    Registered Users Posts: 687 ✭✭✭Zadkiel


    BadCharlie wrote: »
    Well peoples weight can always change, go up and down from time to time. My wife has lost weight and i have gained weight. To be honest i dont think i ever said anything about her weight. But she was always on about her own weight. Then one day she did something about it and started to go for long walks.

    He might be just out of work? hard on his luck dont know the full picture. As long as his trying to do something about it then i would give him time.

    Telling someone to change their image is prob another matter. Kind of sounds like his just not happy with the way she looks. And maybe is more concerned about how she looks, to make him self feel happy.

    Maybe just not happy in the relationship and hopes it would be better if the other person would change. And not looking at him self.

    All of which still makes him a ****


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    dyl10
    Registered Users Posts: 1,355 ✭✭✭dyl10


    You've only heard one side of the story and as we all know, our OHs can have selective hearing from time to time.

    Don't judge people purely from someone else opinion ;)

    As a side note, if someone has put on weight and it's a big issue for their partner, it's better that the partner mentions it than keep it inside and allow it develop into a bigger problem.


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    #12
    Mr Benevolent
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    Don't judge people purely from someone else opinion

    Are you serious? This is AH!


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    My name is URL
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    His penis must be huge


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    #14
    dyl10
    Registered Users Posts: 1,355 ✭✭✭dyl10


    Confab wrote: »
    Are you serious? This is AH!

    Damn, I've missed the door for personal issues again! :pac:


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    Zadkiel
    Registered Users Posts: 687 ✭✭✭Zadkiel


    Confab wrote: »
    have they realised that they can't have an orgasm just by looking at 'em?

    Came close once ('scuse the pun) lookin at Monica Bellucci in some movie or other, when I was much younger ofc...

    Back on topic, wouldnt normally comment on an OH's weight. He sounds like a control freak tbh, should probably look at himself before trying to redesign his missus.

    Pimp my ride spin off maybe...


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    Lobelia Overhill
    Closed Accounts Posts: 704 ✭✭✭Lobelia Overhill


    Confab wrote: »
    Just been talking to a girl here in work. Apparently her boyfriend has told her to buy nicer clothes, glasses and lose weight.

    If he wants a GF who wears nicer clothes, glasses and is thinner, then go find a woman who answers that description

    Stepford is >>> that way


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    Mr.Lizard
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    She's gotta dump that zero and get herself a hero! mm-huh. *finger clicking motion*


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    me-skywalker
    Registered Users Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭me-skywalker


    Confab wrote: »
    Just been talking to a girl here in work. Apparently her boyfriend has told her to buy nicer clothes, glasses and lose weight. For context she's a size 12 and reasonably attractive (and also training to be a massage therapist). As well as all that, she has to work 2 jobs to pay half of (his) mortgage, and he's just bought her a '99 Golf with electrical and fuel problems.

    How in the name of fook can her BF justify saying these things to her without ending up on the wrong end of a shotgun?

    So who's been a twat to their OH and learned their lesson? Who hasn't? What made you rethink your twattery? And what you you think about my poor colleague's BF?

    (No, this ain't a PI)

    hey i heard her tell that story too im sitting across from you!! go back to work ya punk!


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    Wurly
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    He's not the twat. She's the twat if she's still calling him her boyfriend after that.


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    Mr.Lizard
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    Confab wrote: »
    Just been talking to a girl here in work. Apparently her boyfriend has told her to buy nicer clothes, glasses and lose weight. For context she's a size 12 and reasonably attractive (and also training to be a massage therapist). As well as all that, she has to work 2 jobs to pay half of (his) mortgage, and he's just bought her a '99 Golf with electrical and fuel problems.

    How in the name of fook can her BF justify saying these things to her without ending up on the wrong end of a shotgun?

    So who's been a twat to their OH and learned their lesson? Who hasn't? What made you rethink your twattery? And what you you think about my poor colleague's BF?

    (No, this ain't a PI)

    Fair play to him. He's just telling it how it is. That said tho I'll admit he was wrong to tell her to get new glasses. Enforced lasik is a much better suggestion.


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    dyl10
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    Trí wrote: »
    He's not the twat. She's the twat if she's still calling him her boyfriend after that.

    :eek:


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    veryangryman
    Registered Users Posts: 5,533 ✭✭✭veryangryman


    Regarding the subject title itself, being nice should not be a chore - not if you actually like the other person. It should be rewarding to see them smile at your good deed


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    #23
    Wurly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,095 ✭✭✭Wurly


    dyl10 wrote: »
    :eek:
    Err...:confused:
    :)


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    Millie
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    Mr.Lizard wrote: »
    She's gotta dump that zero and get herself a hero! mm-huh. *finger clicking motion*

    :D


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    #25
    muppetkiller
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    I think it's pretty obvious you fancy her so leave them alone you home wrecker !!!! :D


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    #26
    Latchy
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    I think the thread title is daft .Like being nice to your GF , chore or not ? Not going to do your relationship much good if you have to think about it to much .


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    #27
    Mr Benevolent
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    I think the thread title is daft

    +1.


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    #28
    dyl10
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    veryangryman wrote: »
    Regarding the subject title itself, being nice should not be a chore - not if you actually like the other person. It should be rewarding to see them smile at your good deed

    You must be one selfless bastard...


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    #29
    Acacia
    Registered Users Posts: 2,816 ✭✭✭Acacia


    How is being nice to the person you love a chore? :confused:


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    #30
    Lil' Smiler
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    Yer one must know herself that something is wrong if she's told you that.

    Don't really get how the title is related.. I just see it as the boyfriend being a bit of a pr*ck. Being nice isn't a chore for me, I'd rather be nice than narky to my OH as he gets pretty pissed if I'm whinging about this and that and doesn't enjoy being around me then. I enjoy buying him presents etc coz I get to see the look on his face when he gets them and is happy or the response I get when I send him a nice text first thing in the morning.

    Also... I'm a massage therapist too ;)


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    #31
    starflake
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    Maybe her boyfriend is gay!? Don't think many men give a shiz what women wear?! is it not whats under it that matters?? If he knows that her glasses are outdated then I wonder.... Her boyfriend sounds gay, She sounds like she's leaving out half of the story and the OP needs to ask her out! :)


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