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Single life as a guy...

LordNorbury

Hi folks, just thought I'd start this thread, I'm a guy in my mid 30's and single, it occurred to me to start a general discussion on single life for guys in their 20's and 30's (and upwards!)... I'm single a few years now, after a few really long term relationships, was never married and never had kids.

I don't want this to be a thread on internet dating or how to pull women as a single guy, more about the pro's and the con's of single life, the best and the worst of it, aspirations for the future, maybe regrets about the past, what you do that is important to you to have and to enjoy your life, that is generally configured very differently from many people around you, (who at this age are generally settled down with a partner and kids)...

Just interested in generating some discussion on the subject, as your man on Star Trek says, "engage!"...

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Wibbs

There once was a man from Nantucket…

Sorry to hear of your breakup JSM. Over the chrimbo apropos of nothing I was thinking of a few breakups I had over the years and a fair percentage that hurt at the time had a very different feel as time went by. In many what I thought was a sense of loss, was in fact a weird sense of relief. A strong emotion, but I misread it at the time. Hard to explain. Kinda like a boil on your face, low level throb but then it bursts, shape pain that hurts like buggery, but then slowly but surely relief, but a weird part of you is used to looking at the boil.

Jayzuz, that reads like I'm comparing an ex or two to boils, :eek: I'm not, I mean the relationship itself.

There's defo a sense of more of a loss of the familiar and trepidation of the future, rather than the loss of the person themselves.

Gael23

silverbolt wrote: »

I dont drink. I cant be bothered with it.

I live alone (cept for two dogs) as i own my own home.

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Confucius say wrote: »

About to move into house I bought alone but may rent room out here and there to earn a few quid. Dying to move in now!

Ive only ever been in a shared house since I lived away from home? Ive always thought that you'd learn better domestic skills living alone. Cooking is grand but cleaning and ironing etc is harder when in a shared house IMO.

silverbolt

Gael23 wrote: »

Ive only ever been in a shared house since I lived away from home? Ive always thought that you'd learn better domestic skills living alone. Cooking is grand but cleaning and ironing etc is harder when in a shared house IMO.

cooking as a singleton is a pain in the backside. You have to cook meals in bulk which means your either eat the same thing several days in a row (cottage pie for the last six days) or you have to freeze it. Anything you buy has to be eaten in succession or it will go off.

I never iron unless im going out, my everday clothes never bother with it.

Cleaning - I actually have myself a rota that im very good at sticking too. That being said I am as Stephen King described at "boy neat" the house isnt untidy or messy but i dont dust as much as i should lol

Confucius say

silverbolt wrote: »

cooking as a singleton is a pain in the backside. You have to cook meals in bulk which means your either eat the same thing several days in a row (cottage pie for the last six days) or you have to freeze it. Anything you buy has to be eaten in succession or it will go off.

I never iron unless im going out, my everday clothes never bother with it.

Cleaning - I actually have myself a rota that im very good at sticking too. That being said I am as Stephen King described at "boy neat" the house isnt untidy or messy but i dont dust as much as i should lol

I don't understand. I cook for myself every day. Why can't you make a piece of fish or meat with some veg, or a stir fry or curry, or anything really for one person? To be honest cooking for myself is usually the highlight of my day!

Mister Vain

silverbolt wrote: »

cooking as a singleton is a pain in the backside. You have to cook meals in bulk which means your either eat the same thing several days in a row (cottage pie for the last six days) or you have to freeze it. Anything you buy has to be eaten in succession or it will go off.

Why would you have to cook meals in bulk? Just buy and cook what you need.

mzungu

Confucius say wrote: »

I don't understand. I cook for myself every day. Why can't you make a piece of fish or meat with some veg, or a stir fry or curry, or anything really for one person? To be honest cooking for myself is usually the highlight of my day!

Completely this. Cooking is one of the things I look forward to every evening. Throw on the radio, tune out the world and cook up a storm. I find it is a great way to relax after a long hard day.

Gael23

Confucius say wrote: »

I don't understand. I cook for myself every day. Why can't you make a piece of fish or meat with some veg, or a stir fry or curry, or anything really for one person? To be honest cooking for myself is usually the highlight of my day!

Cooking isn't that hard, but there are certain dishes you can't make for one person.
I do agree with what he said about cleaning, a rota to keep yourself motivated probably works best

BlibBlab

Cookings not hard, but after a long day it can feel like a lot of effort and it can be as easy to eat out instead. I like cooking when I'm in the mood, but there are times when the thoughts of prepping, cooking and cleaning are the last things I want to do.

Kai123

BlibBlab wrote: »

Cookings not hard, but after a long day it can feel like a lot of effort and it can be as easy to eat out instead. I like cooking when I'm in the mood, but there are times when the thoughts of prepping, cooking and cleaning are the last things I want to do.

I eat cold beans from the tin, solves alot of problems.

I recommend Lidl beans in-case anyone is wondering.

Pawwed Rig

I would never get time to cook everyday. I don't like eating too late either never mind that cooking is a pain in the arse. If I was to cook everyday it would be after 10 before I got to eat.

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Kai123 wrote: »

I eat cold beans from the tin, solves alot of problems.

I recommend Lidl beans in-case anyone is wondering.

They the ones with the slight BBQ type-flavour?

tomwaterford

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

I would never get time to cook everyday. I don't like eating too late either never mind that cooking is a pain in the arse. If I was to cook everyday it would be after 10 before I got to eat.

Cook the night before and heat in microwave??

Like cook tomorrow's dinner today etc....not great but an option?

Pawwed Rig

That would still mean cooking every night. Just wouldn't be willing to sacrifice my only me time in the day doing chores.

astonaidan

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

I would never get time to cook everyday. I don't like eating too late either never mind that cooking is a pain in the arse. If I was to cook everyday it would be after 10 before I got to eat.

Get a Argentine girlfriend, whos culture means dinner is only starting around 9.30, you will be loved for your late dinners

eeguy

Confucius say wrote: »

About to move into house I bought alone but may rent room out here and there to earn a few quid. Dying to move in now!

Friends if mine rented 3 rooms to 3 women(all friends).

He's a mechanic and one of the girls car broke down.
Sure enough he sourced parts and fixed it for no charge.

Came home the next day to his dinner made and washing done and folded on his bed

fits

Cooking for one is a pain, no doubt about it. My flatmate and i often cook for one another when we are both there. She is italian so score!!!

ancapailldorcha

fits wrote: »

Cooking for one is a pain, no doubt about it. My flatmate and i often cook for one another when we are both there. She is italian so score!!!

Lucky you. Mine is British-Indian so anything he cooks would likely kill me.

Gael23

fits wrote: »

Cooking for one is a pain, no doubt about it. My flatmate and i often cook for one another when we are both there. She is italian so score!!!

For me the only problem is that I find myself eating the same things over and over again. Im fussy and I don't really like reheating food if I can help it so I try to stick to things that I can make in single portions. Less tidying up after too

Confucius say

eeguy wrote: »

Friends if mine rented 3 rooms to 3 women(all friends).

He's a mechanic and one of the girls car broke down.
Sure enough he sourced parts and fixed it for no charge.

Came home the next day to his dinner made and washing done and folded on his bed

To be honest I'd hate people making me dinner during the week as it means I don't get to cook for myself and I'm a bit of a health freak when it comes to food too most of the time!
I still don't understand how anyone has any gripes cooking for one.

SarahMollie

Confucius say wrote: »

To be honest I'd hate people making me dinner during the week as it means I don't get to cook for myself and I'm a bit of a health freak when it comes to food too most of the time!
I still don't understand how anyone has any gripes cooking for one.

Turkey burgers with a side of avocado for one?

Personally, I prefer cooking for more than one. When I lived alone, I used to go for the easiest option a lot, and then eat in front of the TV. Way too much pasta. Now that its a joint effort, (including taking turns going to the butchers, fishmongers etc) I think the standard of dinners has improved in Casa Sarahmollie.

smash

I never minded cooking for myself. A lump of salmon in the oven, a few baby potatoes in a pot and then boil some asparagus for 3/4 minutes while your draining the potatoes and putting your salmon on a plate. Healthy, tasty and only 20 minutes.

SarahMollie

smash wrote: »

I never minded cooking for myself. A lump of salmon in the oven, a few baby potatoes in a pot and then boil some asparagus for 3/4 minutes while your draining the potatoes and putting your salmon on a plate. Healthy, tasty and only 20 minutes.

Haha true - im ashamed to say that this is reflective of the current situation. Single life was more of a pasta/pesto combo.

Ah sure who knows, maybe I would have grown out of eating like a student eventually anyway!

mansize

My nephew sometimes stays in my spare room, his rent?, cooking me dinner

woodchuck

Mister Vain wrote: »

Why would you have to cook meals in bulk? Just buy and cook what you need.

I think it depends on what you're cooking. If you make or buy a jar of bolognese, korma or chilli, you're going to end up with a big enough pot of it. At least 2 or 3 servings from a jar, waaay more if you cook it yourself! So if you're on your own, you're eating the same thing for days unless you freeze some of it.

Or what if you want to make a roast chicken? Enough in that to feed a family!

Confucius say

SarahMollie wrote: »

Turkey burgers with a side of avocado for one?

Actually I had something made with Turkey mince and avocado last night.
Later for e.g. I'll be having mackerel fillets with a couple of baby potatoes and sprouts. No prep involved and maybe 30 minutes total. At the weekends I'd spend more time and maybe cook for a friend or family members too. Or eat out.
I've been cooking for myself since I'm about 15 so I suppose it's quite natural to me, I've been around people though who seem to think cooking is a major hassle. I don't think there's anything I enjoy more!

Dial Hard

I absolutely love cooking, I find it really relaxing and it's how I switch off after the work day. Into the civvies, pour a glass of wine, iPod on and get cracking. I live with my sister now and do all the cooking for both of us but I went through plenty of extended periods of cooking for one when my ex was overseas for six months at a time.

I guess if you see cooking as a chore, you'll see it that way whether it's for one or ten. Likewise, if you enjoy cooking, having to do it for one won't generally bother you.

When I was at home alone and really fancied something that wasn't worth cooking for one (a lamb leg or something) I'd just invite people over for dinner. Seemples!

Confucius say

woodchuck wrote: »

I think it depends on what you're cooking. If you make or buy a jar of bolognese, korma or chilli, you're going to end up with a big enough pot of it. At least 2 or 3 servings from a jar, waaay more if you cook it yourself! So if you're on your own, you're eating the same thing for days unless you freeze some of it.

Why not use err half of the jar or whatever you need? Then it's good to use for about a week or so if you store it in the fridge?

Confucius say

Dial Hard wrote: »

I absolutely love cooking, I find it really relaxing and it's how I switch off after the work day. Into the civvies, pour a glass of wine, iPod on and get cracking. I live with my sister now and do all the cooking for both of us but I went through plenty of extended periods of cooking for one when my ex was overseas for six months at a time.

I guess if you see cooking as a chore, you'll see it that way whether it's for one or ten. Likewise, if you enjoy cooking, having to do it for one won't generally bother you.

When I was at home alone and really fancied something that wasn't worth cooking for one (a lamb leg or something) I'd just invite people over for dinner. Seemples!

Agree with all that. I made a lamb leg on Sunday actually but shared it with my Dad and brother

woodchuck

Confucius say wrote: »

Why not use err half of the jar or whatever you need? Then it's good to use for about a week or so if you store it in the fridge?

You still have the hassle of having to use it within a certain space of time (usually advised within 3 days of opening). And it's not just the sauce, but the meat and whatever other veg you use. It often makes more sense to make a pot of it in one go, otherwise you're just going to have to do it all over again within a few days anyway before the other half of the ingredients go off.

It's not impossible or anything, but cooking for one is generally more of a hassle (less variety or more wasteful) than cooking for two.

Confucius say

woodchuck wrote: »

You still have the hassle of having to use it within a certain space of time (usually advised within 3 days of opening). And it's not just the sauce, but the meat and whatever other veg you use. It often makes more sense to make a pot of it in one go, otherwise you're just going to have to do it all over again within a few days anyway before the other half of the ingredients go off.

It's not impossible or anything, but cooking for one is generally more of a hassle (less variety or more wasteful) than cooking for two.

It's really not! Why is it a hassle using something within a week? That 3 days thing is nonsense anyway.

Maybe only buy enough meat for one? Or freeze what you don't need?

I hate cooking in bulk because even if I cooked enough for 4 portions I'd eat it all at once.