job seeker wrote: » Taking chances is something that scares some people. Maybe the fear of getting rejected or perhaps it’s just the fear of the unknown. But why? What is it that makes somebody think they aren't good enough to be in a relationship with that special someone? Like that lady or fella down at the local spar. Each day you go in and go to ask him or her out. But before you know it your walking out the door with that 7th packet of wriggles extra chewing gum that week, or maybe that co-worker you see every day, you feel like you need to take the chance to ask him/ or her out. In your head you’re telling yourself you must but only a “hello” leaves your mouth, you then trod over to your desk and computer surrounded my matchbox racers and a photo of your dog where you take a seat. Or maybe even it’s that person who sings at mass every Sunday and there voice is so unbelievable they sound like an angle. For me it was last year I started work, went in and I was introduced to everyone, this one girl stood out to me, she was just perfect. We got along well. I really wanted to take this chance to ask her out but there was always the voice in the back of my head which was telling me “No, don’t do this” etc. etc. I don’t know, I’d generally consider myself to be an outgoing person. But for some reason this was never something I could take a chance in. So to make a long story short, I never took my chance, she left work for a better job and I said to myself “Augh, plenty more fish in the sea”. I’ve been on a few dates since, but I’ve not been attracted to another girl since. So this has me thinking ‘Is there really more fish in the sea’? I really don’t think there is at this point. I used to, but I would have been younger and more foolish then. Or this ling of ‘whatever will be, will be’ kind of attitude . It won’t be though, not if you don’t take that chance. Life is short, but it’s far too short to be beating around the bush. So this is one very important lesson I’ve learned in the past 10 months. So AFTER HOURS did you ever miss out a chance, which you now look back on and think “I really should have took it” Or maybe you did and how did it work out???
Valetta wrote: » I've backed Galway to beat Kilkenny . Does that count?
BunkMoreland wrote: » Did you contact her? I don't take chances on anything and am reduced to living vicariously through posts like this.
Landrover Lenny wrote: » The most liberating thing I ever did was walk over to two women sitting at a table in a nightclub, I sat down at their table and chatted away with them, that was about 11 years ago or so, before that I was afraid to talk to any women. I would hate to think what the last 11 years would have been like of I didn't learn that it is no big deal to walk over to talk to whoever you want.
job seeker wrote: » For me it was last year I started work, went in and I was introduced to everyone, this one girl stood out to me, she was just perfect. We got along well. I really wanted to take this chance to ask her out but there was always the voice in the back of my head which was telling me “No, don’t do this” etc. etc. I don’t know, I’d generally consider myself to be an outgoing person. But for some reason this was never something I could take a chance in. So to make a long story short, I never took my chance, she left work for a better job and I said to myself “Augh, plenty more fish in the sea”.
job seeker wrote: » Added her as a friend on facebook.. Gonna take baby steps...:P
Yellowblackbird wrote: » "Next to knowing when to seize an opportunity, the most important thing in life is to know when to forego an advantage." Benny.
The Corinthian wrote: » This. When I was 20, there was a girl, a woman, in one of my classes I had a dreadful crush on. If I wanted to pursue her I could have, and had a number of opportunities where I could have done so, but I repeatedly hesitated on the basis that the conditions were not 'right'. She died. We never met. And so I undertook never to hesitate again, and to this end few opportunities went untried - sometimes with success, sometimes with embarrassing failure, rarely with regret. However, I did learn that sometimes there's a reason for that hesitation, why fools rush in where angels fear to tread. There are occasions where success is worse than failure - where there's a good reason why you don't pursue someone and why instinctively you 'know' this. So my advice is carpe diem, but don't ignore the little voice at the back of your head if it's telling you she's a bunny boiler.
PARlance wrote: » So you hesitated because instinctively you knew she was going to die???
job seeker wrote: » Facebook, But I don't know f I should.
job seeker wrote: » Life is short, but it’s far too short to be beating around the bush. So this is one very important lesson I’ve learned in the past 10 months.
donegaLroad wrote: » a friend of mine was out in Dublin one night and was in the same bar as a bunch of girls on a night out. He saw one particular girl he liked and went over and started to chat her up. He asked her if she was in a relationship to which she replied, yes, but it wasn't going that well etc. So he gave her his phone number and told her if she ever finished with that guy and wanted a night out, to give him a call.A year later she rang him.
dodderangler wrote: » Failed interview in army and never went back t try again. Still regret it t this day
black and amber wrote: » What does an angle sound like?
The Corinthian wrote: » No. Try to read what I actually wrote.
PARlance wrote: » I did. You said "However, I did learn that sometimes there's a reason for that hesitation" and offered up nothing other than the fact that things "weren't right" and then she died.
The Corinthian wrote: » No, I told my original story where the girl died. Then I went on to say to "undertook never to hesitate again", after which "I did learn that sometimes there's a reason for that hesitation". See? Reverse order to what you're suggesting. I even give the reason to hesitate in the last sentence, FFS. It's because sometimes you can detect that the person you're about to get into a relationship with is nuts! And from this you somehow inferred that I "hesitated because instinctively you knew she was going to die"? WTF!? How much more clear could I have been? Would finger puppets help? You didn't read what I wrote properly. Deal with it and stop trying to dig a deeper hole for yourself by having me spell why to you and everyone else here.
PARlance wrote: » Ah cool, at least everyone else has gotten to hear the story now.
magicmushroom wrote: » And what happened? Don't leave us hanging!
whatawaster81 wrote: » Yep wish I had emigrated 5/6 years ago, went back to college to another qualification, career still in the doldrums, going grey now, no significant other and long gone past going to the party, and will be gone before Christmas anyway if the right opportunity doesn't come along. Really hate the place.
IrishLoriii wrote: » I was offered an assessment day for a 4 year course I really was interested in but stupidly didnt go because my parents thought it was silly and that Id never get anything out of it but they didnt understand enough about it and I didnt try hard enough to make them understand..ill always wonder now if I should of gone for it, reapply next year or just stick with the course im starting tomorrow ..time will tell
DoYouEvenLift wrote: » Normal social interaction was the most liberating thing you ever did?...
ThinkProgress wrote: » That voice in your head was probably the voice of reason, trying to tell you that she was out of your league! In my experience... if two people have a genuine attraction, it usually doesn't need to be forced by one or the other. I just happens!
