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Advantages of being single

Miley30

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Miley30

efb wrote: »

I find, over a certain age, 25, the opposite is the case.

How so ?

kylith

I just had a Chinese for dinner. At 10pm. No-one whinging for his dinner. Fantastic.

efb

Miley30 wrote: »

Do you ever notice that people who are single seem to look better than people who are in long term relationships or Married, just an observation.

I find, over a certain age, 25, the opposite is the case.

Miley30

jaymcg91 wrote: »

Definitely. Statistically when people are in long term relationships - they gain weight because they're not actively looking for a mate anymore.

Then the weight comes, the lack of effort kicks in, the sex slowly stops...then divorce.

Christ we're a cynical lot .

True and probably those single people look so well because they are trying to attract a mate. :pac:

Earthhorse

DivingDuck wrote: »

Single people can be envious of your personalised spoon, too.

True. It's a thing of beauty.

[Deleted User]

DivingDuck wrote: »

A bad partner is someone who shares your bed, feels entitled to half the control over the remote, fridge, decoration, and who would like notice if their lifemate isn't going to be home for a couple of nights, or who would want some say in where and when you went on holidays? I don't think so. It's certainly the least of what I'd expect if I were in a relationship, and it would also be the least of what I would expect to give.

Dont forget you included:

- never having to justify your expenditure to anyone
- the toilet, bath, and shower are always free and available for your use
- you never have to worry about your browsing history
- no complaints if you don't want to go out for the weekend
- no complaints if you want to stay out all weekend
- you can get fat without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- you can get fit without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- there's nobody to disturb if you keep odd hours
- there's nobody disturbing you when you're sleeping off your odd hours

People complaining about your browsing history, waking you when your sleeping, hogging the bathroom, complaining about physical changes, complaining if you want to go out, and making you explain your expenditure.

Good partners don't do those things.

You're right though, you're probably unsuited to a relationship. It's not for everyone. It takes give and take.

jaymcg91

Miley30 wrote: »

Do you ever notice that people who are single seem to look better than people who are in long term relationships or Married, just an observation.

Definitely. Statistically when people are in long term relationships - they gain weight because they're not actively looking for a mate anymore.

Then the weight comes, the lack of effort kicks in, the sex slowly stops...then divorce.

Christ we're a cynical lot

DivingDuck

Earthhorse wrote: »

Just had a bowl of Coco Pops in my room with my personalised spoon from Kellogs that I got in a promotion.

Are you jealous non-single people?

No. You are not. You are envious. Being single I can be as pedantic as I God damned please!

Single people can be envious of your personalised spoon, too.

Miley30

Do you ever notice that people who are single seem to look better than people who are in long term relationships or Married, just an observation.

Earthhorse

Just had a bowl of Coco Pops in my room with my personalised spoon from Kellogs that I got in a promotion.

Are you jealous non-single people?

No. You are not. You are envious. Being single I can be as pedantic as I God damned please!

DivingDuck

Candie wrote: »

What you're describing is better than having a bad partner. Of course there's loads of advantages to being single, but it's only part of the picture to compare best-case-scenario of singledom to worst-case-scenario of coupledom.

Having a good partner and relationship is well worth many small sacrifices. When everything is working well and both are happy and content, there's nothing better than being part of a couple.

A bad partner is someone who shares your bed, feels entitled to half the control over the remote, fridge, decoration, and who would like notice if their lifemate isn't going to be home for a couple of nights, or who would want some say in where and when you went on holidays? I don't think so. It's certainly the least of what I'd expect if I were in a relationship, and it would also be the least of what I would expect to give.

There may be "nothing better than being part of a couple [that works well]" for you personally, but that's your truth, not a universal one. Having a good partner and relationship is well worth many small sacrifices to you, and that's fine. It's your life, and your choice.

Some people, myself included, feel differently. So long as everyone is making an informed choice of their own free will, there's nothing wrong with either one.

Alf Veedersane

Any advantages of single life eroded with the purchase of a bigger bed.

If I was still single, I wouldn't have watched The Shield, Luther and The Killing a second time.

[Deleted User]

Earthhorse wrote: »

The thing I like about being single is not having to explain me jokes. :rolleyes:

Or having a partner explain them to everyone else.

justchecked

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

ha!:D

In the morning, I could up and fly to Belgium. Not going to but it's handy to have the option available.

load of waffle.

[Deleted User]

DivingDuck wrote: »

The list is more or less endless in my book (and admittedly I'm conflating being single with being childless), but the big ones are these:

- never have to consult anyone before making plans, either small (going to the pub after work instead of straight home) or large (going on a long holiday to the destination of your choosing)
- everything is where you last left it in your home (granted this requires you to live alone)
- you don't have to make nice with an entire second family who may or may not hate you unfairly
- full control of the remote, the wifi, and the DVR
- not having to share a bed
- knowing exactly what food is in the fridge, freezer, and cupboards
- never having to justify your expenditure to anyone
- not having to worry how you'd cope if your partner got sick
- the toilet, bath, and shower are always free and available for your use
- you never have to worry about your browsing history
- you can decorate your home in the style you see fit and to the level you see fit
- you never have to worry about anyone else's credit rating when applying for a loan, credit card, or mortgage
- no complaints if you don't want to go out for the weekend
- no complaints if you want to stay out all weekend
- you can get fat without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- you can get fit without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- there's nobody to disturb if you keep odd hours
- there's nobody disturbing you when you're sleeping off your odd hours

Basically you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, providing it's legal and you have the means to do so. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone to spend some time with, then I remember the above and reconsider quickly enough.

What you're describing is better than having a bad partner. Of course there's loads of advantages to being single, but it's only part of the picture to compare best-case-scenario of singledom to worst-case-scenario of coupledom.

Having a good partner and relationship is well worth many small sacrifices. When everything is working well and both are happy and content, there's nothing better than being part of a couple.

Earthhorse

kylith wrote: »

Damn right! My ex used to sleep diagonally.

That's what you get for dating a bishop.

efb

Getting to feel superior on boards

DivingDuck

The list is more or less endless in my book (and admittedly I'm conflating being single with being childless), but the big ones are these:

- never have to consult anyone before making plans, either small (going to the pub after work instead of straight home) or large (going on a long holiday to the destination of your choosing)
- everything is where you last left it in your home (granted this requires you to live alone)
- you don't have to make nice with an entire second family who may or may not hate you unfairly
- full control of the remote, the wifi, and the DVR
- not having to share a bed
- knowing exactly what food is in the fridge, freezer, and cupboards
- never having to justify your expenditure to anyone
- not having to worry how you'd cope if your partner got sick
- the toilet, bath, and shower are always free and available for your use
- you never have to worry about your browsing history
- you can decorate your home in the style you see fit and to the level you see fit
- you never have to worry about anyone else's credit rating when applying for a loan, credit card, or mortgage
- no complaints if you don't want to go out for the weekend
- no complaints if you want to stay out all weekend
- you can get fat without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- you can get fit without anyone complaining about how you've changed
- there's nobody to disturb if you keep odd hours
- there's nobody disturbing you when you're sleeping off your odd hours

Basically you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, providing it's legal and you have the means to do so. Sometimes I think I'd like to have someone to spend some time with, then I remember the above and reconsider quickly enough.

kylith

Earthhorse wrote: »

Wait having the bed to yourself is an advantage of being single? Hmmm.

Damn right! My ex used to sleep diagonally. He used to cuddle me in his sleep too; there's nothing I hate like people touching me when I'm trying to sleep. I am not a snuggly sleeper.

Earthhorse

The thing I like about being single is not having to explain me jokes. :rolleyes:

Eeden

There's only one good reason to be in a relationship, and that is if you meet someone so awesome that you can't resist.

So, just try to avoid that, and all is good!

[Deleted User]

The bed thing is a starfish and duvet hogging thing. I like having the bed to myself. For sleeping.

Richard Hillman

You are a sovereign human being.

Fox_In_Socks

Earthhorse wrote: »

A dot is a type of circle, right?

It is. And a Dot Cotton is my kind of circle, oh yeah!

Earthhorse

kylith wrote: »

I get the entire bed and I can eat whatever the hell I want.

Wait having the bed to yourself is an advantage of being single? Hmmm.

Cold War Kid wrote: »

It's hardly that horrendous being single is it? Maybe it depends on the person/their stage in life/whether they have enough of a social circle

I have a social circle.

A dot is a type of circle, right?

Colser

Have the remote control to yourself...

Miley30

Deleted User wrote: »

less money and less sex tbh.

but the freedom thing is fair. and you only have to hoover when you think it needs doing yrself.

Less money ?

[Deleted User]

No snoring. No dual alarms, no late night news disputes. Your own choice of menu, cleaning schedule and wake/sleep timing.

I'm talking myself into it all here.

keysersoze0330

Less earache

[Deleted User]

less money and less sex tbh.

but the freedom thing is fair. and you only have to hoover when you think it needs doing yrself.