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What would you do with these monies

kerry4sam

Okay figured I'd receive most variety of responses in here so if I may Please...

Long story short I've come by some monies that had me in tears reading the amount. Anywhoo, my Late Loving Dad passed away on December 20th of lastyear and I owed him circa 2-grand.

Monies will be sent anonymously to varying charities or else I'd use Dads' name and it won't come back to me in any way, but I'm trying to find another fitting way to spend these monies since I can't physically give Dad the monies that I owe him

What suggestions would you have for me Please?
Many Many Thanks
kerry4sam

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Jesus Wept

/hug

bop1977

Use it to clear your depts. use it to live a little. Last thing your old man (sympathies by the way) wanted was for you to worry about money.

To Elland Back

What were your Da's interests? Spend it there rather than a mainstream charity. BTW, what is this fascination with SVP, don't like them much personally.

e.r

Stick it on a 3/1 shot.
If it comes in €2000 grand for charity
And €4000 for yerself

dmc17

e.r wrote: »

Stick it on a 3/1 shot.
If it comes in €2000 grand for charity
And €4000 for yerself

You've lost €2000 in there somewhere

CarrickMcJoe

Without Jackie Healy Rae, a few potholes are due to appear in those motorways around Kerry. Maybe pay for the repairs.

e.r

dmc17 wrote: »

You've lost €2000 in there somewhere

2000 times 3 = 6000 or am i missing something

Bongalongherb

Well if I was you I'd donate them monies to Bongalongherb's website through my hassle-free donation tab-box so I can grow a few plants.

Thank you for your kind donation.

Best wishes

Bong

Truckermal

Hey OP a charity close to your own home and one I like to support is Bumbleance.

fuerte1976

Truckermal wrote: »

Hey OP a charity close to your own home and one I like to support is Bumbleance.

This option just came to mind before I read the above reply.

Was in manor yesterday evening where the collection was been held and to put a few quid in Liam & Saoirse's bucket held by their dad put a lump in my throat... (2 young children ourselves)
Wanted to say something to him but what do you say ...

dmc17

e.r wrote: »

2000 times 3 = 6000 or am i missing something

You win 6 and get your 2 back

Truckermal

fuerte1976 wrote: »

This option just came to mind before I read the above reply.

Was in manor yesterdy evening where the collection was been held and to put a few quid in Liam & Saoirse's bucket held by their dad put a lump in my throat... (2 young children ourselves)
Wanted to say something to him but what do you say ...

I know anytime your having a bad day just read the story on the website and you cop on again, it's so sad I would love to win the euro millions and spend it all on making kid's like that better.

kerry4sam

^^^ Incredible suggestions,

Many Thanks to You All

kerry4sam

diomed

I contributed to these charities this Christmas

Lodwar school, Turkana, Kenya
http://www.merrionroadchurch.ie/home,80,0
I sent a cheque payable to Merrion Road parish. They collect and forward.

World Bicycle Relief
http://www.worldbicyclerelief.org/
I bought one bicycle for $134. This month a generous doner is matching donations up $1,000,000 i.e. the donor bought another for $134 to match mine.
Every time I win on the horses, golf, soccer I buy a bicycle.

St Vincent de Paul
http://www.svp.ie/
My father (RIP) was in the SVP for about 50 years.

Ruu

Put it all on black!

Travel, travel and travel some more.

Bongalongherb

Ruu wrote: »

Put it all on black!

Travel, travel and travel some more.

WOW, I put it all on black on roulette online on paddy power before. I asked my friend if he could score me a fiver to play online and he said yes no problem, so I went into roulette and won 96 euro continuously playing on the roulette table and stopped there as I wasn't greedy.

I was happy with this win, but as I was spluttering on to my other mate half drunk, I heard my other friend that loaned me the fiver shouting Feck Feck, so I wobbled over to him and said whats up dude and he said I just lost it all, and I said all of what ? the guy gambled on my win money of 96 euro on the same machine and lost all of my money.

Have a guess what happened after that bad news ? :mad:

braddun

wine women and song

Cathy.C

Do something with at least some of it that your Dad would have enjoyed doing.

On my Dad's anniversary (and birthdays) I always try and do something he would like to do if he were still here. He was a Spurs fan and someday I plan to attend White Heart Lane and see them play a match, maybe hire an old classic car which he loved.

Stuff like that.

A little to charity is fine but if you owed it to him then at least some should spent in ways you feel that he would have enjoyed splashing it out on.

molly09

I just read what happened to your dad, I am sorry for ur loss, this time of the year must be so difficult for you and your family. In some small way i wonder did your dad help you receive this money somehow. You knew your dad and in your heart you will know what charities he held close to his heart.

Bongalongherb

Fecking after-hours again and I get carried away. Sh!t.

my Late Loving Dad passed away on December 20th of last year

Sorry my friend, I just zoomed through your first comment without reading it properly.

Yes I am an arsehole with my spluttering fast-tracked comment missing important text. Sorry for your loss kerry4sam

Some-one hit me a slap on the face for being stupid.

murphydublin

Maybe a bench somewhere with a beautiful view. So you can sit and chat for a while .

Tilikum

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

LauraLynn Children's Hospice

https://lauralynn.ie/

Sometime like this ^

I've been saying to myself for years, if I ever come into money. I'm going to send a particular friend of mine into the children's ward of my local hospital.

Totally redecorate it. Fill it with all the latest toys, game consoles & also buy whatever piece of medical equipment they really need for the sick kids.

lazeedaisy

I am sorry to hear this, as we were in a similar situation 6 years ago ths week. Again, 3 good Samaritans, but we got their contact details from the guards I think, not sure how though.

First anniversary, we got them a gift for being kind as family member lay dying n the roadside, and we keep in tch with a Christmas card.

I would use €300 for each of the kind souls, I.e. local childrens charity, buy blankets for a homeless charity and give a local church group money, even to buy flowers, controversial I know but we have to give back.

Then, maybe check out if any social groups are Saving for a defibrillator, put a little towards that, and lastly put something towards helping something that feels right in yourself,

I would not recommend any big charity for the simple reason that you need to keep it local, if you do then you have a good say as to what the money goes on, but if not when making a donation, always stipulate what it goes on, I have experience of this and it's better in this case to keep it local,

Is a journey once the first year and a day are over, it took us maybe 4 years to see the wood for the trees and look after each other,

Field east

My sincere sympathies on the passing of your father
Solicitors must not be following this thread , judging by the responses. It is surprising how little readers of this thread know about inheritance , wills , debt due , etc
Is it not the case that the executors of a will are obliged to collect all debts due to the deceased estate and from that pay out what is owed. The will then lays out what is to be done with the net assets re cash and other possessions.
If there is no will there is another set of regulations to handle the financial situation.
So no matter what way you ' square the circle. ' I would be of the opinion that the monies you owed to your late father before he died should be paid to his estate. I assume that your late father would , in principal,want all his bills paid and supposing he owes someone the amount that you owe him but there are no assets left to meet this bill except what you owe him , would not therefor be the right thing to pay the monies into his estate
He may have, in his will, willed all his assets, cash to some charity anyway but the legal route is for you to pay what you owed him to the executors. I am not a legal person so would welcome a legal opinion on above

Littlekittylou

Very sorry for your loss op especially now. I'm sure your dad would be touched by your gesture.

I know whatever charity you pick will be fine

Perhaps a hospice? To help families like yours and people like your father.

Also maybe use a little to do something nice as a family. Drink out or a meal then use the rest to give to a hospice or a charity. If you go for a drink to as well as giving to charity it sort of marks it for him you can talk about him or just be together as a family.
Hugsxx

StormWarrior

You could spend it on hypnotherapy sessions to train you out of using the words "monies." I think that would be money well spent.

Either that or give it to a charity for the homeless. It must be awful being homeless in the middle of winter. Or you could go round buying copies of the big issue, give each seller a fifty and tell them to keep the change. At least then you know the money has gone directly to the needy.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Are you just donating the same amount you owed your dad to charity or the entire amount?

Why do you feel the need to give it away at all? I'm broke and could do with a few quid if it's going.

Charity begins at home, look after those closest to you first, not the charities where executives take a bigger cut than actually goes to the people most in need.

LynnGrace

First of all, my sympathies on the loss of your dad. I hope you are doing okay, I see that it is just past the first anniversary now.

I would echo some of the suggestions already made about keeping it to a local charity, if possible, or any cause that was meaningful to your dad.

I see BUMBLEance and Jack and Jill mentioned, I'd also add Pieta House, as another one to consider.

Whatever you do, I am sure that the money will be put to good use.
Look after yourself, Christmas time can be especially tough, when you have lost a loved one.

kerry4sam

^^^ Thank You All So Much!

Just back from visiting Dads' graveside and reading these replies is helping me no end.
Wonderful, Wonderful Minds at play here

Hope You All Have A Wonderful Christmas,
kerry4sam

Bongalongherb wrote: »

Fecking after-hours again and I get carried away. Sh!t.

Sorry my friend, I just zoomed through your first comment without reading it properly.

Yes I am an arsehole with my spluttering fast-tracked comment missing important text. Sorry for your loss kerry4sam

Some-one hit me a slap on the face for being stupid.

Yeah I'm just going to offer you a hug instead

Quazzie

Invest the money into your own soul by travelling some. The money might be your Dads, but he gave it to you once, so I'm sure he'd like to do it again to see you fulfill something that many people can't.