Buona Fortuna wrote: » Of all the arguments that we have and have had - never about religion.
Dades wrote: » Can you quote for us the conclusions she has come to? I can only find these ones: I urge you not to continue with this line unless you have something to back it up.
I dunno does he judge a little deep inside though
Brown Bomber wrote: » It's a little rude to proffer ham-fisted psycho-analysitions in the third person, I think. Especially as you couldn't be more wrong. The reason Lisa is being intolerant is that she is forming conclusions on a person based on not what they actually have done or said but what she assumes they have done based on her prejudices against the "other".
nozzferrahhtoo wrote: » And once again I have to repeat my question, which you have consistently dodged thus far including simply ignoring my entire last post on the matter, as to what exactly she has been saying that makes you reach the conclusions you are listing. It is, after all, a little rude to proffer ham-fisted psycho-analysis based on twisting someones words. I have read every post on her thread, several times now, and all I am seeing is a person who recognizes differences between her and her new partner, and is seeking people who have had similar experiences of this particular difference. What is intolerant in that? Where has she "formed conclusions"? Where is this "paranoia" you referred to? Where is her "prejudice"? You appear to simply be making ALL of this up for some reasons of your own that are entirely opaque to me in every way. Posting dictionary definitions of words into a thread does not magically make those words apply to the thread, let alone the OP of it.
Brown Bomber wrote: » OK, well apparently you missed her irrational and completely unsubstantiated thoughts on whether he was secretly judging her BECAUSE he was "religious" on some undefined level. This is by definition prejudice.
Cabaal wrote: » Catholic church teaches that everyone as sinful from the very start, isn't that prejudice? They've already labeled the entire human race as sinful but yet they know nothing about the entire human race,
Brown Bomber wrote: » The fact that she believes that her boyfriend is judging her based solely on the fact that he has some religious beliefs that she isn't sure of.
Cabaal wrote: » Isn't original sin prejudice? It unfairly labels the entire human race as sinful, without providing any evidence to show that a person has committed a sin
Beano wrote: » she has shown a specific prejudice. She has specifically said that she thinks he is judging her. That has nothing to do with original sin.
Nicolas Cage wrote: » Or maybe she is 18 and is simply asking a question because she doesn't know the answer.
Lingua Franca wrote: » She did not say "I think he is judging me", as you claimed she so specifically did, either.
Beano wrote: » she hasnt asked a question she has made an assumption. she did not say "do you think he might be judging me".
xLisaBx wrote: » I dunno does he judge a little deep inside though
Nicolas Cage wrote: » Well, if you're gonna be pedantic about, then her statement isn't grammatically perfect and therefore can be perceived as either a question, a statement or otherwise. Reads to me like it's a thought that crossed her mind and she typed out loud. She doesn't sound prejudiced to me.
Beano wrote: » why wouid she even think in that direction unless she thought there was some truth in it?
Lingua Franca wrote: » Because she is 18 years old and wondering if people with conflicting ideologies can work it out. She was only asking for advice. Why is it so important to you that you make her out to be an intolerant bigot?
Beano wrote: » where have i called her an intolerant bigot?
Lingua Franca wrote: » I said "make her out to be". But I'm sure you'll claim I specifically said otherwise despite the words being there in black and white. The tone at the start of this thread was gentle and caring and loving on her part, and understanding on the part of the respondents.
Lingua Franca wrote: » Congratulations on your part in this thread. I'm sure she'll cherish your advice.
Beano wrote: » Ok then where have i made her out to be an intolerant bigot? Those words werent even mentioned in this thread until you started posting
Nicolas Cage wrote: » When you jumped to the conclusion that she was prejudiced based on a vague sentence
I havent given her any advice.
Lingua Franca wrote: » Here, when you were supporting a post calling her intolerant. Oh, and here, where you called her prejudiced. Precisely.
rozeboosje wrote: » Well, we can try and be kind to OP and how she chose to ask the question. We all know that *some* religious people *do* judge non-believers. You only need to look at the Westboros to see an extreme example of that. So I can understand that she may be worried that he *might* be judging her. What is a bit odd is that she chose to ask a bunch of perfect strangers on a web site to answer that question when the only person who could possibly answer it is her boyfriend himself.
Beano wrote: » so i havent used the word intolerant at all then?
