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Bridezilla Stories

ElleEm

I think we were all astounded by the recent thread about WhatdoIcare's horrendous experience of being a bridesmaid. It has spurred on a few conversations where I have been shocked at other people's Bridezilla experiences. A friend of a friend was recently a bridesmaid, and was told to go on a diet a couple of weeks before the wedding, and given strict instructions on what to eat, and what to avoid. The same bride decided that she did not want a meal included on her hen night as she didn't want people consuming extra calories with their drink!
I also remember a very slim friend being berated by her cousin as her "stomach stuck out" in her bridesmaid dress.
What experiences have you had of a Bridezilla?

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Midnight Sundance

amdublin wrote: »

Friend of mine was told she was going to be asked to be bm except "x has a car"

Poor x was the brides chauffeur every Saturday for a year, going on dress appointments, venue appointments, every kind of appointment you can imagine.

I bet you your friend was glad she couldn't drive

Sala

It's for stories like on this thread I decided my bridesmaids could pick their own dresses shoes and hair. (I could nearly have had my own bridezilla moment though when the woman in the shop kindly pointed out she had never met anyone with three size 8 bridesmaid .. feckers!!)

dori_dormer

At my sisters wedding :
So we have a nutter of an aunt and cousin. No one was speaking to them the year of the wedding but they got the obligatory invite because otherwise there would have been war. Sister didn't even know if she and her daughter were going to turn up- but they did. My aunt in a floor length green dress identical to the BMs! She had gotten the info off my granny under the pretence of NOT wanting to match! Everyone thought she was mental. I mean even the invites we're green. Common sense!
Worse still was another aunt who had a floor length blue dress on, which was the exact same style as the nutty aunt. She was already mortified when she saw the BM dresses so similar but the same dress as the nutty aunt just topped it! She actually went upstairs and changed into another dress she had. Nutty aunt wandered around telling everyone she was a spare BM.

Gatica

wow, don't think I've came across any such women. My MIL was at a wedding recently where it turned out she had the same dress as the bridesmaids, so she went and changed after the church, she's such a dear!

Wabbit Ears

Had one of our guests wear what could only be considered a wedding dress to our wedding. was completely fcuked up, had several people ask if there was a second wedding going on in the same hotel. Knowing how vain and shallow this person was, it really didn't bother us at all, in fact we still laugh about it.

ElleEm

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Had one of our guests wear what could only be considered a wedding dress to our wedding. was completely fcuked up, had several people ask if there was a second wedding going on in the same hotel. Knowing how vain and shallow this person was, it really didn't bother us at all, in fact we still laugh about it.

Fair play to you.... I would go fu*$ing nuts!!! I don't even know if I will wear white to my wedding but if anyone else shows up in white, they will be going home! It is probably the only time I would go mental about my wedding.

Wabbit Ears

Same girl who had a two day wedding (polish lass) also wore a wedding dress to the second day of her wedding when its normal to wear just a normal party/reception dress. What makes this remarkable is she wore the exact same dress on the second day as the first, but this one was champagne where her wedding day dress was ivory. She really likes wedding dresses LOL.

Sligo1

ElleEm wrote: »

Fair play to you.... I would go fu*$ing nuts!!! I don't even know if I will wear white to my wedding but if anyone else shows up in white, they will be going home! It is probably the only time I would go mental about my wedding.

I wasn't in the least bit a bridezilla, my bridesmaids did and wore what they wanted and I just paid... But I would've really CRACKED up if someone showed up to my wedding in a long white/ivory dress! I prob wouldn't have said anything to them... But id be seething...

kkcatlou

Loving these stories, they make me feel like less of a beeatch when I have my own mini Bridezilla moments!

While we're all saints here, would love to hear from anyone who saw themselves veering into a Bridezilla and spotted it or saw themselves do something and felt bad afterwards.

I swore and really thought I'd never have those moments, but have witnessed myself have two so far - one was a strop I threw when we passed by a really tacky hen in town and I said to my sisters/ bms "oh God, thank God, ye aren't planning anything tacky like that for me" and they went all quiet and said what's wrong with that, and I threw a wobbler...they were only winding me up, but I fell right for it!

The other is an internal one, but it's being hurt that my best friend who is breastfeeding has already told me she'll be leaving the wedding at 10pm (she's bringing the baby and the husband) and I know I shouldn't be hurt or annoyed, but I am and can't help it! I haven't expressed it to her though, so it's more an inner bridezilla moment!

I was over browsing on the other well known Irish wedding forum this morning, and there are some serious bridezillas in the making there...

xalot

kkcatlou wrote: »

The other is an internal one, but it's being hurt that my best friend who is breastfeeding has already told me she'll be leaving the wedding at 10pm (she's bringing the baby and the husband) and I know I shouldn't be hurt or annoyed, but I am and can't help it! I haven't expressed it to her though, so it's more an inner bridezilla moment!

If I were you I wouldn't express it to her either. New mammy hormones are crazy and breastfeeding can be an exhausting time.

Not a dig at you at all but I'll never understand brides who think that their bridesmaids have to give up their lives to prepare for the bride's big day. The bridesmaid is the one doing the favour not the other way round.

My fav bridezilla story is of a (distant) friend who saw her chief bridesmaid finally sitting down after the first dance only to go over and yell at her that it wasn't 'resting' time and to go to the car and get flip flops cos the brides feet were sore! Was delighted when the bridesmaid told her to P*ss off!

daveohdave

Sligo1 wrote: »

I wasn't in the least bit a bridezilla, my bridesmaids did and wore what they wanted and I just paid... But I would've really CRACKED up if someone showed up to my wedding in a long white/ivory dress! I prob wouldn't have said anything to them... But id be seething...

Is that not bridezilla-ing a little though? If someone turned up in a dress like that at my wedding, my wife would have called them a [rude word] or a moron (depending on which was appropriate), and laughed at / ridiculed them. It certainly wouldn't have caused her to get angry.

sunbeam

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Had one of our guests wear what could only be considered a wedding dress to our wedding. was completely fcuked up, had several people ask if there was a second wedding going on in the same hotel. Knowing how vain and shallow this person was, it really didn't bother us at all, in fact we still laugh about it.

I've really never come close to understanding the mentality of people who do this! If I ever get married I probably would not wear anything resembling a traditional white dress-I think I would be just speechless if somebody else turned up in one.

Sligo1

daveohdave wrote: »

Is that not bridezilla-ing a little though? If someone turned up in a dress like that at my wedding, my wife would have called them a [rude word] or a moron (depending on which was appropriate), and laughed at / ridiculed them. It certainly wouldn't have caused her to get angry.

Na I wouldn't think so. And I wouldn't have ridiculed them... That's just rude and IMO would have just made me look bad. Would've been very annoyed but would've left it at that... So no IMO defo not bridezillerish at all...

bobskii

I saw a bride give her bridesmaids a roasting from the altar cos someone didn't realise it was their time to go up to do a reading . Can't understand people like that.

Neyite

Sligo1 wrote: »

I wasn't in the least bit a bridezilla, my bridesmaids did and wore what they wanted and I just paid... But I would've really CRACKED up if someone showed up to my wedding in a long white/ivory dress! I prob wouldn't have said anything to them... But id be seething...

I think I'd be highly amused. Mainly because they are the ones that look a bit pathetic and desperate and attention seeking.

I've heard of it being done - I'd love to know their logic when choosing the dress to wear, because its bizarre behaviour.

kandr10

I love this thread!!
My faves so far are the nutty aunt and the bride photoshopping her friends dress

Toots

My wedding dress was a dusty pink colour so at least if any of my guests had turned up in a while dress it wouldn't have looked so bad. I don't know if I'd have been angry, but I would have been thinking 'wtf??'

That being said, when my SIL got married one of her cousins showed up in a white dress and I overheard a lot of guests talking about how bad mannered it was. In this girl's case, it wasn't simply that she was a bit clueless about wedding etiquette, she'd been a bit of a bitch to my SIL in the run up to the wedding (I reckon it was jealousy) and it was obvious that she chose the white dress deliberately because she knew how much it would annoy the bride.

bee06

At least 3 people showed up to my wedding in white or cream and I didn't care one bit. I was much too busy enjoying my day to stress over stuff like that.

amandaf675

I feel weird now, I wore a black/white dress to a wedding last week!!

Toots

bee06 wrote: »

At least 3 people showed up to my wedding in white or cream and I didn't care one bit. I was much too busy enjoying my day to stress over stuff like that.

I don't think it's so much as a ban on that colour (several people wore white to my wedding) it's more people turning up in a dress that could easily be confused with a wedding dress. The wedding I mentioned above with the cousin turning up in a white dress, honestly the dress looked like she bought it in Monsoon Bridal.

I think it's more about the reasoning behind it. Some people might be shopping for a wedding outfit and see one that they like that just happens to be white, but unfortunately there are some weirdos who deliberately buy something bridal looking.

Tarzana

amandaf675 wrote: »

I feel weird now, I wore a black/white dress to a wedding last week!!

Black and white is fine, don't worry.

blondie29

There were a few White/Ivory Cream dresses at my wedding but I didn't give a crap! Was too busy enjoying myself.

I suppose it would be different if they were long & bridal type but the above girls had kinda knee length strapless etc.

I see lots White/Cream dresses at weddings nowadays I don't think any one cares anymore. The bride will always stand out.

Sligo1

bee06 wrote: »

At least 3 people showed up to my wedding in white or cream and I didn't care one bit. I was much too busy enjoying my day to stress over stuff like that.

White or cream is fine. But a floor length white/ivory dress is ridic. Surely they weren't wearing floor length white dresses to ur wedding? A normal knee length dress etc wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Neyite

Ah yeah, there is a difference between someone wearing a lovely cream /white knee length shift dress, and wearing a floor length, floaty or embelllished lacy white number.

First one is fine, second one is a bit loopers.

NewMrs2b

This thread is doing things to my head I had a dream I showed up to a wedding in MY wedding dress!!

LynnGrace

amdublin wrote: »

Friend of mine was told she was going to be asked to be bm except "x has a car"

Poor x was the brides chauffeur every Saturday for a year, going on dress appointments, venue appointments, every kind of appointment you can imagine.

This reminded me of the Friends episode when Rachel and Phoebe both want to be Monica's bridesmaid, and at the end Phoebe has a little secret snigger when Monica is telling Rachel all that will be involved

Your friend dodged a bulletzilla there!

LynnGrace

I've never seen someone turn up in a would-be wedding dress, but can only imagine people feeling sorry for them, more than anything else. They wouldn't outshine the bride, and would just look silly, in my opinion.

ronjo

Sligo1 wrote: »

Na I wouldn't think so. And I wouldn't have ridiculed them... That's just rude and IMO would have just made me look bad. Would've been very annoyed but would've left it at that... So no IMO defo not bridezillerish at all...

No way, it would make them look bad not the bride.

hoodwinked

Wabbit Ears wrote: »

Had one of our guests wear what could only be considered a wedding dress to our wedding. was completely fcuked up, had several people ask if there was a second wedding going on in the same hotel. Knowing how vain and shallow this person was, it really didn't bother us at all, in fact we still laugh about it.

the exact same happened us, my husbands sister in law wore the actual top off her wedding dress with a white skirt to our wedding (she got married to my husbands brother two months previous to us)

Neyite wrote: »

I think I'd be highly amused. Mainly because they are the ones that look a bit pathetic and desperate and attention seeking.

I've heard of it being done - I'd love to know their logic when choosing the dress to wear, because its bizarre behaviour.

the only logic we could figure out (as she has avoided us as much as we avoid her since) is that she was insanely jealous of us, her other behaviour in the lead up to the two weddings confirmed this to us and his family who were taken aback by her (and her mothers) awful behaviour.

Toots wrote: »

My wedding dress was a dusty pink colour so at least if any of my guests had turned up in a while dress it wouldn't have looked so bad. I don't know if I'd have been angry, but I would have been thinking 'wtf??'

That being said, when my SIL got married one of her cousins showed up in a white dress and I overheard a lot of guests talking about how bad mannered it was. In this girl's case, it wasn't simply that she was a bit clueless about wedding etiquette, she'd been a bit of a bitch to my SIL in the run up to the wedding (I reckon it was jealousy) and it was obvious that she chose the white dress deliberately because she knew how much it would annoy the bride.

you are spot on i think, on the day my husband and i were asked by the staff did we want her thrown out but we didn't want to give her the drama she so desperately craved, and continued to ignore her and enjoy our day but it has (obviously) been discussed since then and the consensus is the same amongst everyone talking about it, sometimes we do tend to wonder does she even know how much she had her inlaws saying about her behind her back (as they tend to be all nicey nicey to her face)

ABajaninCork

amandaf675 wrote: »

I feel weird now, I wore a black/white dress to a wedding last week!!

Eh? I wore a very nice black and white dress to my friend's wedding a couple of years ago. I've got another wedding coming up, and guess what? I'll be recycling the dress!!

I'll be wearing a beautiful hot pink pashmina to dress it up a bit, and I'll probably have different shoes and bag as well.

You couldn't mistake ME for the bride!!