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Will you marry?

c_man

I've been reading a lot about how the current generation are leaving it much longer to marry compared to their parents before them, and how many are opting out of it completely seeing it as archaic. I have to agree, hardly any of the Lads look like getting hitched any time soon and we're all pushing thirty. I would wager that most of our parents were married in very early twenties. Why is that? Are we just not arsed, or does the commitment frighten us?

Curious to see he result here. I think I'd like to get married but not for a while yet. And let's be honest, the odds of it aren't going up given that you can see I'm posting this on a Saturday night.

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Czarcasm

Fuzzy wrote: »

When we remove the religion from the institution, I will consider it.
My gay friends can't get married, that's not a club myself or my partner would be interested in joining.

Religion was never part of the institution in the first place, and in recent times it isn't part of it at all unless a person wants to incorporate the ceremony into their marriage.

My wife and I were married in the registry office, bunged the registrar €20 for keeping it short and simple, legally married the same way as my brother and his wife who chose to spend €42k on their wedding which incorporated a religious ceremony.

I'm not sure what effect your friends being able to marry or not would have on your relationship. That just seems a tad silly as they're unlikely to benefit or lose out either way based on your decision whether or not to get married.

Czarcasm

NZ_2014 wrote: »

Mindblowingly expensive, tiring and time consuming?

Yeah but they're great entertainment

Cienciano

Worth doing if you're going to have kids.

mickydoomsux wrote: »

I don't think so. Look at the amount of miserable men in the country who are trapped with some hag that gave up once she got the ring on her finger and shot out a kid or two or the women who are stuck with some tub of ****e with a beer gut who gave up once he'd landed a woman to replace his mammy.

Honestly. Go for a walk tomorrow in a fairly busy area and ask yourself would you want to be stuck with any of the 40/50/60/70 year old people you meet along the way?

The divorce rate in the US is pushing 60% at this stage. Marriage is a bizarre concept that just doesn't work in my opinion.

That makes no sense. That's nothing to do with the act of marriage, that's the specific person. And when you're 40/50/60/70 do you think you'll be going out with an 18 year old?

Czarcasm

Cienciano wrote: »

Worth doing if you're going to have kids.

That makes no sense. That's nothing to do with the act of marriage, that's the specific person. And when you're 40/50/60/70 do you think you'll be going out with an 18 year old?

No harm in being optimistic

Fox_In_Socks

Cienciano wrote: »

That makes no sense. That's nothing to do with the act of marriage, that's the specific person. And when you're 40/50/60/70 do you think you'll be going out with an 18 year old?

I think he means, when you're 40, do you want to be stuck with some of the 40 year old articles that you encounter on a daily basis. Likewise, when you are 50/60/70 etc.

It would make me pause, having known/worked with some absolutely awful people and knowing that they were married and wondering what their day to day life at home was like.

mickydoomsux

Cienciano wrote: »

Worth doing if you're going to have kids.

That makes no sense. That's nothing to do with the act of marriage, that's the specific person. And when you're 40/50/60/70 do you think you'll be going out with an 18 year old?

You're pretty much stuck with them unless you get divorced and you can expect to be taken to the cleaners in that case.

"Cheaper to keep her" is the phrase i've heard used.

I know i'd rather stay alone that stuck with someone who i despise who also looks like a wet bag of dog****e now compared to when i married them.

Filmer Paradise

marie12 wrote: »

Do happily married couples log onto boards?

Yes, because we can't go to pubs/clubs etc.

Make no mistake. I was a serious party animal in the past. Blew a small fortune on drink, travelling, fast women & slow horses.

In my 30's, I decided I needed to go to the 'next level'. I was tired of being a 35 year old teenager & wanted to do something new.

onethreefive

When/If I get married I'd love to spend as little as possible on the actual marriage and go all out on a honeymoon to remember!

Buzz Killington the third

The idea of the eternal commitment or whatever it is, is appealing to a lot of people. However, living in Ireland makes it a big gamble because if the divorce laws. I mean who the fcuk wants to wait 4 years to be free from someone?

Dump that dumb law and make a marriage licence a few grand and a quick fire divorce grant a few grand. Government makes money through divorce and marriage and people can be free when they want.

Czarcasm

Filmer Paradise wrote: »

Yes, because we can't go to pubs/clubs etc.

Make no mistake. I was a serious party animal in the past. Blew a small fortune on drink, travelling, fast women & slow horses.

In my 30's, I decided I needed to go to the 'next level'. I was tired of being a 35 year old teenager & wanted to do something new.

Whaaaa'?

I'm only two years older than you and I still go out for dinner and drinks and then hit the club with my mates, my wife does the same with her mates, and then my wife and I will go out together once a week for dinner and drinks.

It's a bit like the idea of marriage itself - works for some people, doesn't work for others, some people are mature about it, some people are just silly.

Cienciano

Fox_In_Socks wrote: »

I think he means, when you're 40, do you want to be stuck with some of the 40 year old articles that you encounter on a daily basis. Likewise, when you are 50/60/70 etc.

It would make me pause, having known/worked with some absolutely awful people and knowing that they were married and wondering what their day to day life at home was like.

Same goes for single people. I know a few single people in work and their life sounds pathetically dull. Marriage doesn't change it. Kids do :pac:
It depends on their personality, not their relationship status.

Pherekydes

Poll is broken. I need to pick divorced and already married.

[Deleted User]

I don't know. It's never been something I've really err..aimed for. Many girls dream about the dress/venue/whatever...but I never have. Maybe it's because my parents were never married to each other.

I would never get pressure from my parents to marry either. I just don't really see the point of it tbh. If you're with someone and you're happy with them, why need to get married? Maybe I would for tax reasons/children. But it would be very low key! I am in very happy ltr for the record!

Daenarys

marie12 wrote: »

Do happily married couples log onto boards?

Do happily married couples converse with each other constantly over Facebook to tell each other how much they love/are proud of/or feeling happy with...

efb

Change the law and find me a man who can put up with my shít and me his.

V Doubtful.

marie12

Daenarys wrote: »

Do happily married couples converse with each other constantly over Facebook to tell each other how much they love/are proud of/or feeling happy with...

I don't know I'm not on Facebook :-D

Supercell

Daenarys wrote: »

Do happily married couples converse with each other constantly over Facebook to tell each other how much they love/are proud of/or feeling happy with...

Sure why would we need to do it online when we can do it every night snuggled up together in bed

Daenarys

Supercell wrote: »

Sure why would we need to do it online when we can do it every night snuggled up together in bed

Exactly!! IMO if a couple needs to plaster their love all over Facebook instead of turning to each other and saying it, there is something fundamentally wrong with that marriage.

Pwindedd

Daenarys wrote: »

Do happily married couples converse with each other constantly over Facebook to tell each other how much they love/are proud of/or feeling happy with...

Only occasionally, birthdays or anniversarys - we stood up in front of all our family and friends and declared our commitment, not going to stop now. I don't have any couples on Facebook that use it as a daily communication tool or drive me mad with the luvvie duvvie crap. (Oh crap that means it's us doesn't it?)

xzanti

I'm engaged

Help me

Duggy747

First comes the nagging from everyone for marriage.

Then you marry.

Then comes the nagging for kids.

:eek:

Buzz Killington the third

xzanti wrote: »

I'm engaged

Help me

No, you got yourself into this mess! :P

_Whimsical_

Lots of married people hanging out on AH on a Saturday night.
I thought the job conditions were better than that now... already reconsidering my "I'd like to marry" vote.

suicide_circus

If she'll have me

Czarcasm

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Lots of married people hanging out on AH on a Saturday night.
I thought the job conditions were better than that now... already reconsidering my "I'd like to marry" vote.

Shark week

AlanS181824

Have a girlfriend, not planning on getting married any time soon!

+ I'm underage so that's a thing too :pac:

Really hope the marriage equality referendum goes through next year.

C'mon Ireland, do something good for once!

Pwindedd

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

Lots of married people hanging out on AH on a Saturday night.
I thought the job conditions were better than that now... already reconsidering my "I'd like to marry" vote.

Was out on the rip last night with "ma girlies" been dying on the sofa all day, husband and I got a swag bag from tesco and are now slowly slipping into a diabetic coma. There's no one else on the planet I could do this with.

(*swag bag - results of a one aisle trip to the express supermarket, where only munchies are purchased and they have to be on some kind of special offer to qualify for purchase)

December2012

I suppose if you marry while worrying about how long a divorce will take you shouldn't get married.

foxy farmer

For some people the question should be altered to Should You Marry?

Buzz Killington the third

December2012 wrote: »

I suppose if you marry while worrying about how long a divorce will take you shouldn't get married.

Depends. You can want to show commitment but at the end of the day people fall in and out of love.