So I just posted this on the "Trivial Things That Annoy You" thread and it got me thinking
When casually chatting with a member of the opposite sex and the subject of being single comes up and you make it clear that you have no time for a boyfriend. He says you are just making excuses and I say I'm not, I simply have no interest in dating right now. He turns on the "charm" and asks me to go to the cinema. I tell him I don't have the disposable income right now (which is true) and I'd rather focus on the things that need sorting now, which will get me a better standard of living in the long run, than blowing money I don't have on seeing a movie that I could probably find on the internet if I really wanted to see it.
He then says "don't worry, I'll take care of that". No thanks. I've made it clear that I'm not into dating at the moment and a guy paying for me to go to the cinema is definitely moving from the friendzone to the datezone. It's not going to happen. Let it go. I admire your courage in putting yourself out there but please don't make it awkward after I've made it perfectly clear to you that I'm not interested by pushing the idea that we should do "date" stuff. I'm not going to change my mind. If you want to date someone, then find women who want to date.
What goes through the minds of guys when they are asking someone out and how do they handle rejection? I was clearly not interested in dating anyone, yet this guy kept pushing it. At first it was funny but then it just got annoying. I was polite and kept it casual but part of me wanted to tell him to fcuk off as I'm simply not interested. We were both sober at the time and he was quite pushy. If it had been in a nightclub setting where some men seem to think that alcohol turns them into a Casanova, and "ladies"
loose their inhibitions, I think I'd probably have turned into one of those "stuck up b1tches" who spurned his advances and told him to fcuk off.
What do AH'ers make of the whole asking people out malarkey? On the one hand I commend people who have the balls to ask someone out but on the other it annoys me no end when someone thinks that asking you out and being told "sorry, not interested" (no matter how politely it is put across) means that they feel entitled to cross exam you to the point where you feel awkward.
So my questions are;
Ladies:
How do you deal with advances you reject?
How do you feel/react if you make the advances and they are rejected?
If you ask someone out and have been rejected, is there any answer that the other person can say which lessons the blow?
If you have been rejected, do you move on or do you push it?
Gentlemen:
How do you deal with advances you reject?
How do you feel/react if you make the advances and they are rejected?
If you ask someone out and have been rejected, is there any answer that the other person can say which lessons the blow?
If you have been rejected, do you move on or do you push it?
I know the questions are the same for both genders but I think the answers will be different. I'm all for equality but men and women are not the same. As a woman (I don't speak for all women) it gets on my goat how someone thinks that chatting me up means that I somehow owe them my time. No. I. Don't. I would be interested to hear if men get this same thing.
