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Was my comment inappropriate?

Rhotheta

I got chatting to a woman who works in my office on a night out. Never spoke to her before, just noticed her gliding around the office. Anyway at one point I told her I thought she was beautiful and if I wasn't married I would attempt to chat her her up. She laughed and we chatted some more before making our way back to our friends. A colleague overheard and thought that comment was innapropriate as I'm a married man.

What is the opinion of after hours on the matter?

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Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Rhotheta wrote: »

I got chatting to a woman who works in my office on a night out. Never spoke to her before, just noticed her gliding around the office. Anyway at one point I told her I thought she was beautiful and if I wasn't married I would attempt to chat her her up. She laughed and we chatted some more before making our way back to our friends. A colleague overheard and thought that comment was innapropriate?

What is the opinion of after hours on the matter?

Your colleague is a nut - what's wrong with paying someone a complimnet?

Virgil°

This colleague of yours, he obviously fancies you.

Roger_007

Rhotheta wrote: »

I got chatting to a woman who works in my office on a night out. Never spoke to her before, just noticed her gliding around the office. Anyway at one point I told her I thought she was beautiful and if I wasn't married I would attempt to chat her her up. She laughed and we chatted some more before making our way back to our friends. A colleague overheard and thought that comment was innapropriate as I'm a married man.

What is the opinion of after hours on the matter?

There must be very little to chat about in your office.

sopretty

Rhotheta wrote: »

I got chatting to a woman who works in my office on a night out. Never spoke to her before, just noticed her gliding around the office. Anyway at one point I told her I thought she was beautiful and if I wasn't married I would attempt to chat her her up. She laughed and we chatted some more before making our way back to our friends. A colleague overheard and thought that comment was innapropriate as I'm a married man.

What is the opinion of after hours on the matter?

Ask your wife what she thinks?

Seriously though, on a professional level, it was inappropriate. She could have construed it as sexual harassment. Personally, I'd hate to have to work with some lecherous married dude who was gawking at me in the workplace.

Plazaman

Tell Eavesdropper Mc Earwig to mind their own business and take a hike.

ElleEm

Would you have said that comment in front of your wife?

It's fine to compliment someone, but personally, I don't think it is okay to say you would chat her up if you weren't married.

Rhotheta

sopretty wrote: »

Ask your wife what she thinks?

Seriously though, on a professional level, it was inappropriate. She could have construed it as sexual harassment. Personally, I'd hate to have to work with some lecherous married dude who was gawking at me in the workplace.

Noticing attractive members of the opposite sex is lechoursly gawking now? I assume you are asexual. :rolleyes:

Roger_007

sopretty wrote: »

Ask your wife what she thinks?

Seriously though, on a professional level, it was inappropriate. She could have construed it as sexual harassment. Personally, I'd hate to have to work with some lecherous married dude who was gawking at me in the workplace.

You have to expect a bit of attention because you are 'so pretty'.:pac:

sopretty

Rhotheta wrote: »

Noticing attractive members of the opposite sex is lechoursly gawking now? I assume you are asexual. :rolleyes:

Telling a colleague you think they are beautiful is a bit creepy. I'd be getting the shivers every times I'd have to pass you, wondering what part of me you were admiring at any given time.

CarMe

I think it's quite peculiar to be honest.

AtomicHorror

Rhotheta wrote: »

Noticing attractive members of the opposite sex is lechoursly gawking now? I assume you are asexual. :rolleyes:

Noticing and telling are different verbs.

sopretty

Roger_007 wrote: »

You have to expect a bit of attention because you are 'so pretty'.:pac:

Lol.

eviltwin

sopretty wrote: »

Telling a colleague you think they are beautiful is a bit creepy. I'd be getting the shivers every times I'd have to pass you, wondering what part of me you were admiring at any given time.

Especially if that is the FIRST time you ever have spoken to her...what's wrong with a hello and an introduction?

Roger_007

sopretty wrote: »

Telling a colleague you think they are beautiful is a bit creepy. I'd be getting the shivers every times I'd have to pass you, wondering what part of me you were admiring at any given time.

I think that could be easily narrowed down............?

galwayredgirl

Rhotheta wrote: »

Never spoke to her before, just noticed her gliding around the office.

Hang-gliding? Para-Gliding? How does one "glide" around an office?

Davarus Walrus

A work night out isn't considered a success unless some drunk married man attempts to chat up a female work colleague. Office infidelity is the finest form of infidelity.

Vito Corleone

Completely pointless comment tbh. Why say it?

Rhotheta

sopretty wrote: »

Telling a colleague you think they are beautiful is a bit creepy. I'd be getting the shivers every times I'd have to pass you, wondering what part of me you were admiring at any given time.

Shivers??

see a doctor about that.

Cee-Jay-Cee

Your colleague is an unsocial ass who should go back to the 60's whence he came.

Rhotheta

Vito Corleone wrote: »

Completely pointless comment tbh. Why say it?

Small talk drives me insane, I much prefer to say what I'm actually thinking. Life is generally more interesting that way I find.

eviltwin

Rhotheta wrote: »

Small talk drives me insane, I much prefer to say what I'm actually thinking. Life is generally more interesting that way I find.

A filter wouldn't go amiss. Its work, not the pub.

peejay1986

I doubt she took it as anything offensive. Still, nothing a firm slap to the buttocks couldn't solve. That'll make sure things stay good and professional.

whitewave

galwayredgirl wrote: »

Hang-gliding? Para-Gliding? How does one "glide" around an office?

Is it like how nuns glide when they're out and about? They always seem to move really quickly but not be actually walking, kinda gliding along in their shiny white runners?

peejay1986

Vito Corleone wrote: »

Completely pointless comment tbh. Why say it?

He had to say something. Would've been awkward otherwise.

Obliq

Rhotheta wrote: »

Noticing attractive members of the opposite sex is lechoursly gawking now? I assume you are asexual. :rolleyes:

Rhotheta wrote: »

Shivers?? see a doctor about that.

Not sure why you posted the question if you have already determined that it was completely ok to put a work colleague in the position of (potentially, as we don't know) feeling uncomfortable in your company?

loalae

I'd find it creepy if it was said to me in a work environment. The married part isn't the creepy part - it's just an inappropriate comment to make in a work place. Especially since you had never spoken to her before.

Boskowski

All about context and situation.
Some people will be flattered and ok about it some will have you down as the office creep.

Generally speaking it's probably not something I'd advise doing. What were you trying to achieve anyway? On paper it sounds you were at least fishing for something here. But then again it's all about the context and the situation. Only you can know for sure whether it was flirty and lighthearted and most importantly whether it has been perceived that way by your colleague or not or whether there was really more to it. Technically speaking even if you were fishing it would be ok if your colleague was on the same wavelength. Only you would know yourself.

But on paper and with no other info don't be doing that. Not much good can come out of it but it can lead to embarrassment and worse.

Slicemeister

Happened to me once OP, told a customer if I wasn't married I'd show her the way to Amarillo.
Ended up back at hers that night. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

bucketybuck

eviltwin wrote: »

A filter wouldn't go amiss. Its work, not the pub.

It was a night out, it probably was the pub.

Red Pepper

sopretty wrote: »

Seriously though, on a professional level, it was inappropriate. She could have construed it as sexual harassment.

You're sopretty.