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Where do you move out when moving out from parents?

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For instance, I am from Dublin, I live with my parents in the suburbs here and I want to move out. I have looked on sites such as daft.ie, myhome.ie, gumtree, property.ie etc but I really don't know what I should be looking for. I want a place where I can bring girls to as I've been unable to do so living with my parents. I'm having a lot of difficulty figuring this out. Is it normal for people to have no idea what to do in this regard? I'm professionally diagnosed with autism. Is that the reason?

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wirelessdude01

moving out wrote: »

Another question about the minimum leases: often the listing says "12 months or more", but the text after this says that they accept short term or long term. What does this mean?

They are open to shorter stays than 12months.

moving out

wirelessdude01 wrote: »

They are open to shorter stays than 12months.

Why would it say 12 months or more then?

wirelessdude01

Because obviously the preference is for someone who will stay a long time. Reduces the times they have to view the place and interview people.

CaraMay

There is an Accomodation & Property forum which may help answer your questions About leases etc

MagicMarker

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

Typer Monkey

MagicMarker wrote: »

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

He mentioned an autism diagnosis in the OP, I think that's most of the issue here

[Deleted User]

So the only reason the OP wants to move out is that he wants to get laid more? It has nothing to do with wanting independence or needing to be closer to wherever they are studying, or family issues at home, which would usually be the reasons as to why people would move out. Just because they're a horny person. Are you fully sure you want to move out for that reason alone? I mean really? Sharing with people can be a very tough experience, especially if you are diagnosed with autism. I'm not saying you can't manage it, but you really need to hold these other factors in your head apart from your libido.

moving out

MagicMarker wrote: »

Dude, you're in your last year of college and you're smart enough to not even bother going in and get good grades.

Are these questions you're asking not a little bit obvious? Can you not utilize a little common sense here?

You're talking about apples and oranges here. Academic performance is completely different from this "common sense" you talk about. If you have a link to something that provides all the common sense that exists in the world, I'd be happy to study it as if it was college material. Otherwise, talking about "common sense" is and has always been completely useless to me because some people aren't blessed with the ability to pick it up all the time.

Boombastic

With all these one night stands you plan on having, i hope you know about preventing pregnancy and diseases.

You can move out of home to anywhere you want, but just focussing on being able to score girls, really? My priorties wouldn't be on how close to a disco/luas line it it is, but how far it is from college/work and how expensive. How do people who live in the country side manage?

Tigger99

OP that is completely understandable, however getting advice from strangers who aren't familiar with your circumstances mightnt be the best idea. Do you have someone a bit older like a family friend, that you could trust to ask advice from. It seems to me that this is more than just looking for advice on where to live.

Meauldsegosha

OP common sense would tell you that the possibility of sex should not be a priority when choosing somewhere to live. Cost, access to public transport, location for college/work, shops/amenities, housemates, facilities in the apartment/house - these are what you should consider when moving out.

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Tigger99 wrote: »

OP that is completely understandable, however getting advice from strangers who aren't familiar with your circumstances mightnt be the best idea. Do you have someone a bit older like a family friend, that you could trust to ask advice from. It seems to me that this is more than just looking for advice on where to live.

No, it's not. It's related to that and that only.

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Meauldsegosha wrote: »

OP common sense would tell you that the possibility of sex should not be a priority when choosing somewhere to live. Cost, access to public transport, location for college/work, shops/amenities, housemates, facilities in the apartment/house - these are what you should consider when moving out.

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

Boombastic

moving out wrote: »

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

Sex is an important part of most peoples lives

[Deleted User]

moving out wrote: »

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

If that is your reaction when people give you actual proper advice, then why should we try and help you?

You are obviously not mature enough to move out of home and I would even doubt you're mature enough to be having as much sex as you seemingly think you're going to have.

moving out

Deleted User wrote: »

If that is your reaction when people give you actual proper advice, then why should we try and help you?

You are obviously not mature enough to move out of home and I would even doubt you're mature enough to be having as much sex as you seemingly think you're going to have.

My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

Meauldsegosha

moving out wrote: »

Sex may not be an important part of your life but it is an important part of mine.

I offered you constructive advice which you came on this site looking for. There is no need to be rude.

If you read my post again you will see that I never said that sex wasn't an important part of life but that it not a priority when considering where to live.

I understand that you have autism and that is why I based my first post on common sense which said you didn't have. Perhaps you should talk to your parents or another trusted adult before you make the final decision.

moving out

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

I offered you constructive advice which you came on this site looking for. There is no need to be rude.

If you read my post again you will see that I never said that sex wasn't an important part of life but that it not a priority when considering where to live.

I understand that you have autism and that is why I based my first post on common sense which said you didn't have. Perhaps you should talk to your parents or another trusted adult before you make the final decision.

I was not trying to be rude. Please give a reason why it is not a priority, as I always take advice but I don't take it blindly.

Boombastic

moving out wrote: »

My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

You come across as a bit creepy if sex is more important to you than the things the other poster mentioned when considering moving house, just my opinion

[Deleted User]

moving out wrote: »

My reaction was perfectly fine. He mentioned 6 things that should be important to me instead of sex and my reply was that sex is important for me. Why would a perfectly fine reaction like that imply a lack of maturity?

No, it wasn't. The way it came across was actually quite rude and I'm sure many others will agree with me. And it implies a lack of maturity because you're not willing to consider the other huge factors that come into play when deciding to move out.

Not being rude, but I actually hope you don't move out. I can't imagine many people would be happy to live with someone who is intending to be as disrespectful as you are.

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Deleted User wrote: »

No, it wasn't. The way it came across was actually quite rude and I'm sure many others will agree with me. And it implies a lack of maturity because you're not willing to consider the other huge factors that come into play when deciding to move out.

Not being rude, but I actually hope you don't move out. I can't imagine many people would be happy to live with someone who is intending to be as disrespectful as you are.

I'm willing to consider all factors, I think if you read this thread you'll find I've acknowledged them. I don't see where you've got the idea that I am not willing to consider the other factors. The difference is I also consider the factor of bringing women home. Also, I wasn't intentionally disrespectful.

Big Bag of Chips

OP - to put it simply sex shouldn't be the No. 1 priority in deciding where to live. You need to factor in the rest of your life. Where you are going to work/go to college/socialise.

How often a month do you expect to get sex? Once a weekend? Twice a weekend? So you are willing to pay a months rent for 4 nights sex (if you are being very optimistic about how much you will "get"!) and not factor in the rest of your life at all!

Are you part of any support group? Is there someone you can talk to about where best to live to suit your needs. Because picking a place to live based purely on the possibility of having sex is and ignoring the rest of the factors in your life is silly.

Edit: Sorry, cross posted. I see you say you will consider the other factors in your life - but sex should be fairly far down the list of priorities when it comes to deciding a location. A taxi will have you home pretty quickly where ever you live!

[Deleted User]

moving out wrote: »

I'm willing to consider all factors, I think if you read this thread you'll find I've acknowledged them. I don't see where you've got the idea that I am not willing to consider the other factors. The difference is I also consider the factor of bringing women home. Also, I wasn't intentionally disrespectful.

You're being disrespectful to whoever you end up living with if you intend on bringing women back as much you seemingly intend to.

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Big Bag of Chips wrote: »

OP - to put it simply sex shouldn't be the No. 1 priority in deciding where to live. You need to factor in the rest of your life. Where you are going to work/go to college/socialise.

I will factor all of these things in.

How often a month do you expect to get sex? Once a weekend? Twice a weekend? So you are willing to pay a months rent for 4 nights sex (if you are being very optimistic about how much you will "get"!) and not factor in the rest of your life at all!

When you consider that one hour from a high quality escort is at the very least €100 and a normal woman stays the entire night (and is much better than a clock-watching escort), even a rent of €400 per month is good, even if you are getting only one per weekend. Add in the prospect of friends with benefits or girlfriends and it's even better value. I have never had and will never have an escort by the way, I'm just using it as an example.

Are you part of any support group? Is there someone you can talk to about where best to live to suit your needs. Because picking a place to live based purely on the possibility of having sex is and ignoring the rest of the factors in your life is silly.

I have one family member but she has a completely different personality, brain, life experience and goals to me and can never relate.

Boombastic

moving out wrote: »

I will factor all of these things in.

When you consider that one hour from a high quality escort is at the very least €100 and a normal woman stays the entire night (and is much better than a clock-watching escort), even a rent of €400 per month is good, even if you are getting only one per weekend. Add in the prospect of friends with benefits or girlfriends and it's even better value. I have never had and will never have an escort by the way, I'm just using it as an example.

I have one family member but she has a completely different personality, brain, life experience and goals to me and can never relate.

I can't believe i'm saying this but you also need to factor in the cost of the night out, the cost of drinks, taxi home and the emotional fall out.

moving out

Boombastic wrote: »

I can't believe i'm saying this but you also need to factor in the cost of the night out, the cost of drinks, taxi home and the emotional fall out.

I pay these things already.

Tigger99

By the way some people might use you not having your own place as an excuse for not going home with you. A white lie, just to spare your feelings. They mightnt even intend to go home with you. I get the impression you mightn't always pick up in these different nuances.

Meauldsegosha

OP the reason I mention the other factors should be a priority is because you can't, and won't, be having sex 24/7. You will need to pay rent, shop, use public transport, if the house has no washing machine you will need to bring your clothes to a laundrette. You will also need to get along with your housemates. These are the things you need to consider when renting or buying.

BTW I'm female.

[Deleted User]

moving out wrote: »

I will factor all of these things in.

When you consider that one hour from a high quality escort is at the very least €100 and a normal woman stays the entire night (and is much better than a clock-watching escort), even a rent of €400 per month is good, even if you are getting only one per weekend. Add in the prospect of friends with benefits or girlfriends and it's even better value. I have never had and will never have an escort by the way, I'm just using it as an example.

I have one family member but she has a completely different personality, brain, life experience and goals to me and can never relate.

I'm actually speechless after reading that. Crikey.

moving out

Tigger99 wrote: »

By the way some people might use you not having your own place as an excuse for not going home with you. A white lie, just to spare your feelings. They mightnt even intend to go home with you. I get the impression you mightn't always pick up in these different nuances.

No, because they were enthusiastic about it and when they have their own place I succeed.