1ZRed wrote: » ****ing crazy! He's only a kid. Why the feck would anyone want to be bogged down so young?
Legs.Eleven wrote: » Engagement is just words. Any auld eejit can get engaged, it's the marriage that's the serious business (although any auld eejit can get married too but it implies a lot more commitment).
baraca wrote: » I'm 24 and my OH is 22, We have a 4yr old son together. We got engaged two years ago and were planning on getting married in 2015. We're young but we're happy so, So what?
aaronjumper wrote: » Well done and congrats! How long were you together before you decided to spend the rest of your lives together, if you don't mind me asking?
baraca wrote: » 5 years to the day
UCDVet wrote: » I've known quite a few couples who were engaged, some for years, without getting married. Engaged is the new dating, IMHO. I moved in with a girl, we got engaged, lived together for four years, and then went our separate ways. From what I understand, it used be that you got 'engaged' when you started planning the wedding and would be married in a few months.
UCDVet wrote: » From what I understand, it used be that you got 'engaged' when you started planning the wedding and would be married in a few months.
Whatsernamex33 wrote: » A girl from my primary school is barely 18 and she's married and has a baby. :cool:
aaronjumper wrote: » Well that's the other thing, they have not even been going out a year and now they are engaged. It feels a little rushed to me.
aaronjumper wrote: » Well if you are going to look at it like that you could say marriage is just a piece of paper. It means more than that to a lot of people though. There is an emotional aspect to it as well. Engagement is just words but it is also the period where people start saving for the honeymoon and/or wedding. It's easier to back out of an engagement, as in it is less messy (at least from the paperwork aspect of things) but an engagement breakup could probably hurt just as much as a marriage break up. Just that you have to go through all the paperwork on top of all the other break up stuff when leaving a marriage and it gets more complicated again if there are kids involved. It's a lot to take into consideration no matter your age but maybe it's a bit better to wait until everyone involved is a bit more mature? Not trying to prove you wrong by the way just trying to think it all out.
rainbowtrout wrote: » Why do you care? Some people know what they want. Maybe this relationship will last, maybe it won't, can't you be happy for your friend instead of looking down on them and saying 'normally this would be fine'? Do they have to conform to what you believe is the 'normal' age for marriage? People in Ireland used to get married much younger than they do now. Then again people in Ireland used to leave school a lot younger and were out working full time in their mid teens and getting into relationships, marriage, buying a house much younger as a result. Now with so many people going to college which has become the norm for a lot of school leavers and then going travelling etc, a lot of people don't contemplate settling down until at least their late 20s, even if they have been in a long term relationship before then. Getting engaged before the age of 25 only seems unusual now because it's not what most people are doing. It doesn't make it weird, abnormal or wrong. Maybe they know what they want. I moved to the town I'm living in now when I left college and got a job. I met a couple through mutual friends, who were getting married that summer, they were about 22 or 23. I was amazed at the time because I was only getting used to having a full time job and a decent wage so the idea of such a huge commitment was beyond my comprehension when I was only getting used to being able to afford a summer holiday. They had left school at 17 and had been doing all that for 6 years. It's 12 years on and they are still married.
rainbowtrout wrote: » Why do you care? Some people know what they know what they want.
I moved to the town I'm living in now when I left college and got a job. I met a couple through mutual friends, who were getting married that summer, they were about 22 or 23. I was amazed at the time because I was only getting used to having a full time job and a decent wage so the idea of such a huge commitment was beyond my comprehension when I was only getting used to being able to afford a summer holiday. They had left school at 17 and had been doing all that for 6 years. It's 12 years on and they are still married.
Czarcasm wrote: » You tear strips off the OP, and then you come out with this- It's perfectly alright for you to be hypocritical though? Yeah, people USED to get married young, and they USED to do lots of things, but society evolves and it IS unusual to be getting married so young nowadays.
rainbowtrout wrote: » I didn't think it was wrong or weird for the couple getting married, I just couldn't imagine myself doing the same at that time of my life, mainly because I had led a completely different life to them for the same period of time. Yes people used to get married young, only that now they are in the minority. It doesn't make them unusual. It would probably still exist in Ireland if free third level education wasn't brought in in the mid 90s. Not everyone wants to spend a couple of years travelling around SE Asia/Australia before they feel they can settle down. Some people just want to get on with it and they are not unusual for wanting that.
Royal.Baby wrote: » I don't understand why anyone would want to get married before at least the age of 30. Some people might have met the 'one' and i just haven't been that lucky maybe? Weddings can be very expensive, im pretty sure i will never be able to afford to get married even if i wanted to.
