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Do you hug and kiss friends on the cheek?

steddyeddy

A lot of my friends are Italian or Mediterranean and we often greet each other with a hug or a kiss. I would also hug my Irish friends on occasion but some people seem to take offence to it. I generally don’t hug people unless I know they’re alright with it but to be honest I can’t see the big deal. Some of my Mediterranean friends also had a similar reaction over here. They get the impression that some people sexualise the hug and that we’rea prudish people. I have to agree that I think a lack of physical contact with friends is a weird thing to me. Would it bother you if we were more Mediterraneanin our approach to friends?

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Lando Griffin

A male friend of mine I ha-dent seen for a while hugged me down the local a few years back and my arms just froze by my side.
All my mates went Ohhhhhh and the barman pulled me a beer shandy.

steddyeddy

IM0 wrote: »

question, where are you from and lived to early 20's, and m or f ?

I'm Irish, never lived in a mediterranean country and I'm male.

IM0

steddyeddy wrote: »

A lot of my friends are Italian or Mediterranean and we often greet each other with a hug or a kiss. I would also hug my Irish friends on occasion but some people seem to take offence to it. I generally don’t hug people unless I know they’re alright with it but to be honest I can’t see the big deal. Some of my Mediterranean friends also had a similar reaction over here. They get the impression that some people sexualise the hug and that we’rea prudish people. I have to agree that I think a lack of physical contact with friends is a weird thing to me. Would it bother you if we were more Mediterraneanin our approach to friends?

question, where are you from and lived to early 20's? different cultures do different things

steddyeddy

The first friendly hug I got off an Italian girl was when I was sitting down and at eye level with her boobs! She proceeded to give me a very passionate long hug while burying my head in her bits! Why can't more Irish women be like that :P

SEPT 23 1989

I do not

The Pheasant

Might give my female friends a kiss on the cheek, for the lads a slap on the back or a pat on the shoulder or whatever - if I'm drunk or haven't seen 'em in a while they might get a bearhug

Real Life

I would often hug my female friends when i meet them, rarely the male ones though unless they have been away for a while

steddyeddy

Pixie-Fairy wrote: »

I nod at my friends or wave and say hello and then hug them when im leaving. When i lived in France it was non stop hugging and cheek kissing. I like my personal space.

Well that's the attitude that I encountered a lot here. I don't understand it. It comes across as cold to be honest!

enigmatical

You can't go wrong with a bear hug! (unless one party has BO)

Vicar in a tutu

I actually find cheek kissing and hugging extremely put on and fake.

NothingMan

I hug all my friends, male or female. Some males in the one hand clasped and bump shoulders "manly" stlye, some in the bear hug, pick up and squeeze kind of way. I wouldn't kiss my male friends on the cheek though, but would some female friends and my family. Nothing wrong with showing some affection to the people you care about.

Although when I was in France I didn't realise you didn't acually kiss the cheeks on the 2 cheek kiss thing. Wonder if I offended any mademoiselles...

Cody Pomeray

no, i don't mash faces with my acquaintances. a simple Hello has always been adequate.

Don't understand the need to do this but whatever people are into, no harm.

IM0

hugs are for your other half and kids and aunties you havent seen in a long time not day to day friends unless you sense they need it. and male friends? well you better be going through some really bad **** if you want to even contemplate trying to get one

herisson

I nod at my friends or wave and say hello and then hug them when im leaving. When i lived in France it was non stop hugging and cheek kissing. I like my personal space.

steddyeddy

stefan idiot jones wrote: »

My Brother has lived in France for the last eight years and he does this all the time.

However, he knows better than to act gay when he greets me when I visit.

Well I would mainly only give female friends a hug as some Irish men see it as "gay".

stimpson

High five or slap on the arse depending on sex.

stefan idiot jones

My Brother has lived in France for the last eight years and he does this all the time.

However, he knows better than to act gay when he greets me when I visit.

Pilotdude5

I give them that upward nod and a grunt to acknowledge their presence.

Vicar in a tutu

No we usually punch eachother in the tits