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How to forget about things

TeddyTedson

I feel alright myself now, thankfully. But there have been a few times over the last few weeks where I think I'm just going to implode.
Just wondering how people deal with that sort of crap.
I good session in the gym can do it I find, or training at whatever sport.
Sometimes I just want to get out of my head but can't. Alcohol can do it I guess but probably just adding fuel to the next fire.
A psychologist or psychiatrist perhaps, but I couldn't see myself going to one personally. I wouldn't feel comfortable. The things in your mind you just wish you could delete, surely there's away to take your mind off them if even temporarily excluding alcohol and recreational drugs?

Do any of the senior boardsies have good advice for this.

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Queen-Mise

TeddyTedson wrote: »

What's this? I know it's MiB but I've never seen it.

It is the 'mind blanker' thingy. They used it to wipe people's minds when they had seen aliens.

Wompa1

Throw yourself into your work. Everybody has skeletons in their closet, your legacy will be determined by how you overcome adversity. Don't let it dictate your actions in life

TeddyTedson

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I'm not exactly sure, Teddy. Get you to talk about it, acknowledge your feelings and help you to deal with your emotions (anger, guilt etc)?

If you have suppressed a memory it means that you were unable to deal with your emotions at the time, if the memory resurfaces you need to deal with it or it will always be an issue. Maybe try the PI forum. I think there is a psychology forum too - try that or PM one of the mods.

In don't think I'd be capable of walking into a psychiatrists tbh. That was a hypothetical situation, I was just wondering.

Surely though back in the stone age days people would have had ways of not caring about such things and gotten over them. There would be no need for counseling?

TeddyTedson

What do most people do to forget about everything.
Go on a holiday I guess and just keep busy?

shopaholic01

TeddyTedson wrote: »

In don't think I'd be capable of walking into a psychiatrists tbh. That was a hypothetical situation, I was just wondering.

Surely though back in the stone age days people would have had ways of not caring about such things and gotten over them. There would be no need for counseling?

Less complicated time - smaller social groups, no religion, no morals imposed by society etc.

Queen-Mise

TeddyTedson wrote: »

In don't think I'd be capable of walking into a psychiatrists tbh. That was a hypothetical situation, I was just wondering.

Surely though back in the stone age days people would have had ways of not caring about such things and gotten over them. There would be no need for counseling?

There always was counselling - but called by different names. And the stone age comment is a back handed insult to yourself... Be careful - pressure like that on the brain is exhausting & hard to cope with. And then when it goes, it is like as if it was never there, until the next time.

A psychiatrist wouldn't be really what you are need probably - as they prescribe drugs, and rarely counsel per se. Start with your doctor or go over here http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=604 on boards.

marcsignal

Merkin wrote: »

A good sex session normally works wonders

I agree, and it's even better if you have company.

Failing that, there's always alcohol and drugs..

SomeFool

The Roy Keane method, a long walk talking to the dog.

Queen-Mise

SomeFool wrote: »

The Roy Keane method, a long walk talking to the dog.

Ah no - it obviously didn't work. Try it with the cat

:D:D:D

Spread

I drink to forget. And then I forget to stop. Alles Klar TeddyBoy!

Dangerous Man

TeddyTedson wrote: »

What do most people do to forget about everything.
Go on a holiday I guess and just keep busy?

If you can, go speak to a psychologist - or if you're not comfortable with that try talking to someone with whom you are comfortable.

Don't use alcohol as it will only exacerbate your situation.

trodsky

I usually get hammered

JuliusCaesar

It's a psychologist's job to make people comfortable enough to talk about extremely personal stuff.

However, there are some self-help options included over in 604 (Science >Psychology) - have a look at this.

[Deleted User]

TeddyTedson wrote: »

How to forget about things

I try not to. I try to incorporate the good AND the bad about my life into who and what I am. I try to face the bad - not lock it in a metaphorical box to be avoided and forgotten - which tends to work in the short term but they come back eventually and often worse for the delay. Best to face the bad now than let it grow and fester. Treating an injury early is always better than treating it after infection has set in.

As for _how_ to do this - that depends on what exactly the problems are you are retreating from and so any advice would have to be witheld for more details. I do however find that vipassana mindfulness meditation - which is a meditation technique sans the usual woo woo spiritual nonsense that comes with many things under the banner of meditation - helps greatly. I practice it a lot and I even do a class on it which I have found people telling me has helped them with things like stress, addiction, concentration issues, sleep problems, motivation and much more.

However mindfulness meditation will not help you take your mind off such things. The technique is more inclined to teach you how to put yourself outside those things and contemplate your own thoughts and feelings about them impartially. As one writer put it - it trains you not to calm the rough seas of your mind but to hold yourself above the rough seas and observe it and learn from it - and what it means to you - so as to better help you travel it in your own life.

giant_midget

weed...

SafeSurfer

Dr. Dennis Leary offers some practical advice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oAVoQfoU0dQ

Seriously though, I do know what you mean. I think that many people develop a sort of internal turrets syndrome, an internal dialogue where they tell unwelcome thoughts or memories to fcuk off. The unwelcome memory will probably try to dominate your subconscious until you confront and deal with it.

Spread

Well I guess it had to happen. As the median age goes into the upper air ............ AH gets serious. All this anal thinking surely is for O&O.

Mr Benevolent

This technique should be taught from a very early age. Works wonders, I use it all the time. Just say to yourself inside your head:

"SHUT THE FUCK UP!"

Keep saying it until the thoughts stop. Believe me. I'm qualified as a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, and the above is one of the most effective ways of stopping bad thoughts. If the thought comes back, say it again. Rinse and repeat.

Bergkamp 10

Funny I'm having the same problems. Usually it affects me more at night trying to sleep, by keeping me awake.

I'm only young but I would strongly disagree with using drink to deal with it. Been there really, alot of my issues are from drinking too much and ****ing things up badly. The frequency of these incidents start getting worse, and the guilt and shame worse as well. I think I overthink things and need to relax a little. Drinking can relax you slightly but when the next day comes and you cant remember things, find out what you done and get that black cloud of depression its best not to use drink as a crutch. I'm just glad I'm realising this at my age, hopefully I can start practising it in reality.

Queen-Mise

Confab wrote: »

This technique should be taught from a very early age. Works wonders, I use it all the time. Just say to yourself inside your head:

"SHUT THE FUCK UP!"

Keep saying it until the thoughts stop. Believe me. I'm qualified as a psychotherapist, hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner, and the above is one of the most effective ways of stopping bad thoughts. If the thought comes back, say it again. Rinse and repeat.

Are you serious?

I wonder if it would work

:eek:

mosath

TeddyTedson wrote: »

This is completely a genuine hypothetical situation now but imagine you witnessed a murder or something traumatic as a child though and you went years without thinking about it and then it started playing on your mind and started messing up your head. How could you stop it?

Is this a wind up ?? if not you definitly need help mate, good luck.