JimiTime wrote: » Like what I alluded to earlier in relation to how men and women react differently to the release of oxytocin brought on by the arrival of their child. The mans reaction to the same dose of the chemical in their blood manifests itself differently to how it manifests in a woman. A woman exhibits affectionate parenting behaviour, while the man exhibits stimulous paenting behaviour. And that is NOT social science, but real science. Measuring the chemicals, and studying the responses.
King Mob wrote: » No, you're dishonest because you use dishonest tactics and lie. I don't have to guess anything.
And I have looked at the studies that are relevant. You are claiming stuff about these other studies, but are unable to provide them. If you are claiming something, you have to back it up. But you can't back it up, making your claim a lie.
Is it impossible that same sex parents are capable of filling the roles of the opposite gender? Yes or no?
Do the studies you are claiming to quote say that same sex parents are not capable of doing that? yes or no?
And I have, all the relevant well conducted studies bring me to one conclusion, that you are wrong.
If you think these studies are all somehow tainted, you're welcome to back that up too.
But you cannot point to these differences you continue to natter on about. You cannot show that they are exclusive to one gender or the other. You cannot show that they are essential or more beneficial to child rearing. This makes it look exactly like such differences do not exist. You keep saying they are obvious, yet we've yet to see you even try to point them out.
So until you do start to back up your claim, you should do the honest thing and not make it.
Again, I can back up all of those using what you've posted. If you don't like people calling you those things, stop posting as if you were those things.
NuMarvel wrote: » We're talking about adoption, not childbirth. A hormone released during and after childbirth would hardly seem relevant here, would it? Of course, if you have "real" science examples of how it is relevant to adoption, then please share them.
ShooterSF wrote: » And in this case you've explained why you won't answer; You are "... pretending that the questions you and MDSL propose will lead us down irrelevant rabbit holes" It's simply up to other users to draw their own conclusions on why you pretend to do such!
JimiTime wrote: » Its an example of very real gender differences, but thank you for another example of why spoon feeding is very unwise when people are just looking for a cock fight.
JimiTime wrote: » Its not my fault if you can't be @rsed. You are the one who is so over-reliant on social science. You keep ignoring the fact that I couldn't give a sh1t what studies are there. Be they for or against my point. Studies didn't form my opinion. So if you are actually interested in truth, which I gather you must be with all your sh1te'n about jimi the liar, dishonest 'tactics' (whatever they are) etc. Then look for yourself. You have a computer don't you? You seem to want to have a fisty-cuffs, and shout at me more than anything else.
JimiTime wrote: » Depends what you mean by fill the role. If you are asking can a man be a good mother, or a woman a good father my answer would be that its entirely possible, but it would not be the rule but the exception, and also not ideal. They would also not fill the job of role model. Implicit learning is so important, probably even more-so that explicit learning. Simply growing up with a good loving dad and mum, gives one a great view of the sexes. You see, my position doesn't say that same-sex/single/transgender/bisexual parents can't raise a child. Its only you guys who get bogged down with all that sh1te, because its all spun as equality.
JimiTime wrote: » My position is simply that when it comes to adoption, the best interests of the child are at the forefront at all times. Part of this must be the insistence, in spite of all the political shenanigans, that having a mother and father, a male and female role model to raise a child is the ideal, and best for the child.
JimiTime wrote: » What studies have I quoted? And also, even leaving aside the implicit learning a child gets from observing his male and female role models i.e. mom and dad, this is not about capabilities. For instance, If I said that fathers play fight with their children more, are rougher, and allow the child to be rougher to them. It could easily be said, well a mother COULD do this. The point is though, that in general, they don't. There are natural tendencies (And for the record, the natural insticts of fathers to rough house with their kids the way they do, is said to teach children limits in terms of going too far, resulting in them actually being less violent and aggressive. These things we think innocuous ey. )
JimiTime wrote: » And you are free to trust in these studies. I just think its a mighty risky trust you got, when you consider that its the lives of children that will be affected. You essentially trust the conclusions of studies that must be selective due to there not being enough cases to test, are conducted in an extremely politically charged environment, and still do not deal with the many variants. I.E. even if they showed that lesbians are this, that wouldn't apply to trangenders or gay men and so on and so forth. The only time when the type of study you are suggesting will actually produce anything statistically meaningful, is when there is a random pool big enough to test from. The problem is though, that in order to get anywhere near such a point, children will have to be used as guinea pigs, and that is something I certainly do not wish to happen. Could you detail the studies that have convinced you personally, and link to them after you detail them?
JimiTime wrote: » They ARE obvious.
JimiTime wrote: » To think I'm here, ALONE, having demands to prove that men and women are different, parent differently and are important to children is actually quite surreal. Unfortunately a political ideology seems to have gone to your head and kicked your brain out yer ear.
JimiTime wrote: » Even simply talking about male and female role models is enough to back up the claim that mothers and fathers are important.
JimiTime wrote: » Fire away so. I'm a liar and a bigot, and you are going to show that this is FACT. Can't wait.:)
JimiTime wrote: » Just because I may or may not decide to answer irrelevant, obtuse or stupid questions, or may or may not ignore posters I find a bit stupid or vindictive doesn't mean I don't answer questions. Just for the record;)
JimiTime wrote: » The thing is, when you realise how fathers and mothers parent, you realise that they are important. So in realising that they are generally different, and those differences important, then it is clear that a mother and father is what every child should ideally have.
Penn wrote: » I think we've all established by now that JimiTime's only objection to gay marriage is that men are better at reading maps than women, something which is of course vital to the upbringing of a child.
doctoremma wrote: » Jimi, this logic is fundamentally flawed. Your whole argument rests on conclusions that cannot be drawn from your premises.
If I were to attempt to formalise this type of argument in my field of study, I'd be laughed out the door.
The second sentence baffles me; just because two things are different and important says nothing - NOTHING - about the relative merits of any other two things.
Apples and oranges are different. Most children have one apple and one orange in their lunch boxes. A handful of children, however, have either two apples or two oranges. Now, how would you determine that one apple and one orange offered a better nutritional value than either two apples or two oranges?
According to you, it should be so obvious, we don't even need telling.
You are saying because one apple and one orange are different and, as if it makes any difference, common and conventional, they MUST be better. Why would nature give us both apples and oranges otherwise?
According to us, we propose some medical tests to measure how the different sets of fruit affect the health of the children. This is rational, logical, and, most importantly, the correct thing to do in order to make a proper conclusion.
JimiTime wrote: » No, I'm saying we see the differences, and recognise their importance. To continue with your analogy; It would be like saying we know this vitamin is good for the kidneys, and this one good for the bowels etc, and they are found in apples. Then we say this vitamin is good for the immune stystem and this one for the blood and they are found in oranges. So ideally, eat an apple and an orange for a more full and balanced nutritional intake.
MadsL wrote: » So the fact you are ignoring the question means you are calling me either stupid or vindictive? Don't we have a charter about that? Post reported.
JimiTime wrote: » Could you point out where I objected to gay marriage in and of itself?
King Mob wrote: » You claimed that those studies indicated that fathers and mothers where both essential and can be used to conclude that same sex parents are inferior. You have to back up this claim.
It's not that I'm not arsed to look up these studies, it's that they aren't relevant.
I have made several points about how they aren't relevant,
You see it's a yes or no question, but you can't even answer that directly. I asked if you thought it was impossible, you said it isn't. This means your point that the differences you claim exist are exclusive is not true.
If you are going to now claim that fathers can fill the supposed role of the mother (and vice versa), but not as well, you are going to have to show where in your studies it says this, or provide other studies that back this up. If you can't, or ignore the question, withdraw the point.
lol, you refuse to provide the studies you are making claims about as well as refuse to actually provide your point, yet you expect others to provide the same stuff.:rolleyes: No, I tell you what has informed my opinion, and you tell me what has informed yours. Yours happen to be studies. So I'm asking you to detail them, and then link to them But included in this post is a long list of studies that actually compare same sex couples with comparable straight couples in various different ways using different sample sizes all of which have passed strict peer review. Please provide evidence that all of these studies are tainted by bias or use inadequate sample size. Yeah, I was just wondering about the particular points that convinced YOU. The points from the studies that stood out and made you think, thats it I'm convinced. Also, what was it you were convinced of? That Fathers and mothers are unimportant? That children of same sex parents are as happy as children of nuclear family set up? How do you rate how they rated 'happiness'. Did you find any issues like the info supplied was based on answers given by people with a vested interest in a certain outcome? Or was everything about the studies that convinced you in particular flaw free in your opinion? Did you find that the sample surveyed was reliable, random, statistically meaningful etc? that kind of thing. I'd like to see your thought on these studies which have so convinced you. Of course no bother if you don't wish to talk about it. Thats your prerogative. Strawman argument. No one is arguing that men and women aren't different. No one is arguing that different people don't parent differently. Clever what you did there, maybe even dishonest:eek: I never said people argued what you claim above. What you are arguing is that in general, MEN and WOMEN don't in general parent differently. We are arguing that there are no differences in parenting that are exclusive between genders and are beneficial in a straight couple. Thats exacly what I said but you called it a strawman. Do you even read your posts? haha. We don't believe these exist because you've not being able to point to any, let alone back them up. Funnily enough, I've alluded to some if you were paying attention. But that does not imply that both a mother and a father are required or more beneficial. Indeed, but if we can get you to the point of at least acknowledging the difference, then we can discuss if they are important. But again how can you possibly comment on what a gay couple can and cannot provide when you know absolutely zero about them? Because if we know that men and women provide different parenting styles in general, and that they are important, then it goes without saying that two men, or two women cannot provide the fullness of parenting that a man and woman can. Do you seriously not see how this is implied? Like seriously? Bigot: "a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially: one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance" You regard gay parents as inferiour to straight parents. You are basing this soley on your own opinion which you've admitted is totally ill-informed and rejecting all conflicting opinion and science that might try to inform you. You are by definition a bigot. Really? That reasoning has established the FACT that I'm a bigot? ha ha:D First of all, could you point out where I said gay parents were inferior parents to straight parents? Second of all, do you think paedophiles should be allowed be in charge of scouting trips? No? Well then you are intolerantly devoted to your own opinions, so you are a bigot KM. You talk some sh1te KM. Lol. Seriously though, you're bigot accusation is absolutely retarded, but I realise you put yourself out on a limb when you threw the word at me in your frustration. Not everyone likes the taste of humble pie, but I understand. There does seem to be a certain programming, brain washing if you will, in terms of people name calling when people have any objections to questioning the political agendas of LGBT groups. It reminds me of people being shouted down as racist if they express immigration concerns. Lazy, political weasel terms. they work tremendously well though, as people do seem to run scared of them. Thankfully I'm not one of them. You are a liar because you've claimed that some studies concluded something that they could not possibly conclude. Could you show this claim? If you claim something that isn't true, it's defined as a lie. Actually, if you claim something that isn't true, while knowing its not true, THATS a lie. A very important difference. But I'm happy to chip away at your ignorance, no need to thank me. A liar is someone who lies. Well I never. Further there are numerous examples of you ignoring points while containing you use arguments that those points debunk, using dishonest tactics like shifting the goalposts and strawmaning and of course admitting to feigning a disagreement to avoid a point you can't answer. You see, this is not backing up your accusation, its just restating your accusation. I'm beginning to think even these studies that convinced you, you probably didn't even read. Maybe you had a political ideology already, and you looked at a study that concluded what you wanted it to, it was peer reviewed so you thought, 'That'll do'. Hows my aim? Seriously if you think you're being honest in this debate you need a long hard look at yourself. A more honest man ye wont meet KM!............. Or am I lying? Muwahhh ha ha ha ha.
lol, you refuse to provide the studies you are making claims about as well as refuse to actually provide your point, yet you expect others to provide the same stuff.:rolleyes:
But included in this post is a long list of studies that actually compare same sex couples with comparable straight couples in various different ways using different sample sizes all of which have passed strict peer review. Please provide evidence that all of these studies are tainted by bias or use inadequate sample size.
Strawman argument. No one is arguing that men and women aren't different. No one is arguing that different people don't parent differently.
We are arguing that there are no differences in parenting that are exclusive between genders and are beneficial in a straight couple.
We don't believe these exist because you've not being able to point to any, let alone back them up.
But that does not imply that both a mother and a father are required or more beneficial.
But again how can you possibly comment on what a gay couple can and cannot provide when you know absolutely zero about them?
Bigot: "a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially: one who regards or treats the members of a group (as a racial or ethnic group) with hatred and intolerance" You regard gay parents as inferiour to straight parents. You are basing this soley on your own opinion which you've admitted is totally ill-informed and rejecting all conflicting opinion and science that might try to inform you. You are by definition a bigot.
You are a liar because you've claimed that some studies concluded something that they could not possibly conclude.
If you claim something that isn't true, it's defined as a lie.
A liar is someone who lies.
Further there are numerous examples of you ignoring points while containing you use arguments that those points debunk, using dishonest tactics like shifting the goalposts and strawmaning and of course admitting to feigning a disagreement to avoid a point you can't answer.
Seriously if you think you're being honest in this debate you need a long hard look at yourself.
Penn wrote: » Sorry, you're right. I meant to say gay adoption. Apologies. I think we've all established by now that JimiTime's only objection to gay adoption is that men are better at reading maps than women, something which is of course vital to the upbringing of a child.
Sarky wrote: » That's a whole lot of pages of JimiTime waving his hands vaguely and finding new ways to disguise his prejudices. I wish I'd bought popcorn yesterday
koth wrote: » That's an argument against sat-navs, not gay marriage :pac:
JimiTime wrote: » Welcome to the show, I'm here til Sunday. Try the fish, and don't forget to tip yer waitress
NuMarvel wrote: » Hold on... don't most sat navs have a woman's voice as the default option? That's clearly just political opportunism being spun as equality and runs contrary to what "real science" has proven. This must be stopped IMMEDIATELY!
Sarky wrote: » Perhaps you could just admit you have nothing but your own prejudice to back your laughable position and apologise for wasting everyone's time instead?
JimiTime wrote: » Well you don't want kids getting lost on the way to school now do we?
JimiTime wrote: » I'm not forcing anyone to respond to anything am I? I thought people were voluntarily giving up their own time. Again, its surreal that the position, 'Mothers and fathers are important' is now 'Laughable'. Crazy stuff altogether:)
Penn wrote: » And yet, it's mostly mothers (the ones who aren't good at map reading) who drop their children to school. Argument defeated.
JimiTime wrote: » Your view that mostly mothers drop kids to school is just based on your own personal biases. Show me the study, SHOW ME THE STUDY!