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Do we ever really know anyone?

Bodhidharma

I've been thinking recently, is it possible to ever really know a person? Everyone has secrets and everyone does things that they would rather keep quiet. What I'm talking about is character, can we ever know a person's true character?

I would like to think that we can, but I'm an optimist and my theory has been thrown back in my face more than once.

So AH, you have the floor, can we ever really know someone, or are we only seeing what they want to show you?

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hondasam

It takes time to get to know someone, you will never know everything about anyone.

themadchef

Christ, i cant say i know myself half the time. Change my mind more often than not. How can i expect anyone else to possibly know me!

We change, we grow up,or we dont grow up as others do in some cases. All fun and games!

whubee

well surely, if you dont the person by now, then you will never never really know them.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=74885784

The Internet Explorer

I've just seen that Grainne Seoige is presenting CrimeCall.

joshrogan

I once heard about this guy call Nickolaus who supposedly knew everything you did naughty or nice and complied it into a list and would give you presents based on the list.

BBDBB

Knowing Me, Knowing You...........aha!

hondasam

The Internet Explorer wrote: »

I've just seen that Grainne Seoige is presenting CrimeCall.

How well do you know her?

MungBean

Well I know people know me if ya know what I'm sayin so I assume that I'd know people well enough. There will always be a few "Jesus I knew he was a bit odd but never thought he'd actually fcukin kill someone" type surprises.

Bobby Baccala

You're a wizard harry.

Gee Bag

If you torture someone long enough and hard enough they'll tell you everything. EVERYTHING!

Gee Bag

joshrogan wrote: »

I once heard about this guy call Nickolaus who supposedly knew everything you did naughty or nice and complied it into a list and would give you presents based on the list.

Oh God, I don't know if I should be the one to tell you this, but.............

The Internet Explorer

hondasam wrote: »

How well do you know her?

I don't know her. It was a mere observation.

4leto

No, people are forever changing as their life priorities change, its why people drift apart or together.

pragmatic1

No I dont think anyone will ever fully know another human. Not even the closest of family. Everyone has their darkside or little things that they would prefer hidden. Added to this, people change all the time. A close friend that you havent seen in a few years can often change into a very different person.

Eathrin

You will never truly know a person. There are deep and dark secrets and other things hidden about a persons past and present that you will never know.

Bobby Baccala

Cian A wrote: »

You will never truly know a person. There are deep and dark secrets and other things hidden about a persons past and present that you will never know.

Horcrux's and stuff.

Kadongy

Yes you can really know someone. Full disclosure of every bit of dirt in the closet is not required for genuine representation of oneself also.
Being genuine and honest is a risk. You stand to gain more in terms of genuine and fulfilling relationships, but you also are open/vulnerable to being cheated if you misjudge who to let in.
Rational answer is to continue seeking genuine and honest relationships and chalk it up to experience when you get ****ed about. Only way you can learn is through experience really.

hondasam

The Internet Explorer wrote: »

I don't know her. It was a mere observation.

I assumed you knew her as the thread is about how well you know someone.
Is it about crimeline?

The Internet Explorer

hondasam wrote: »

I assumed you knew her as the thread is about how well you know someone.
Is it about crimeline?

I'm beginning to feel a bit like Gay Mitchell here. Stop picking on me.

Solnskaya

take em as you find em - nobodys perfect and everyone has secrets, I treat everyone the same until they prove that they need special treatment. Apart from women. Jasus, how could you ever know, or hope to understand fully, a woman. They are an enigma. Up there with "how do they get the figs into fig rolls"....

MungBean

You may never know the secrets but can certainly know the character and the person surely. The likes of FBI profilers and such would be able to figure you out pretty easily so enough time spent with someone and they would know ya well enough.

You'll never know the mind of another but you can certainly say you know them and how they operate.

pragmatic1

MungBean wrote: »

You may never know the secrets but can certainly know the character and the person surely. The likes of FBI profilers and such would be able to figure you out pretty easily so enough time spent with someone and they would know ya well enough.

You'll never know the mind of another but you can certainly say you know them and how they operate.

If you believe that you'll be in for a big surprise sometime. People aint always predictable.

Novella

No. I don't think we ever really do. I have thought at times that I knew certain people, then they went and they did things I never in a million years would have expected them to ever do.

Baked.noodle

It is debatable weather or not we will ever really know anything. We have a sensory conceptualisation of reality that is built from neurological wiring, prejudgment and prior interpretation. Observation may be the closest we can come to "knowing" anything. Nevertheless, how well do we know ourselves? How much of our time do we spend observing ourselves? Is this even practically possible? Perhaps we know others better than we know ourselves. I'm sure many married people would agree.

MungBean

pragmatic1 wrote: »

If you believe that you'll be in for a big surprise sometime. People aint always predictable.

As I said there's always gonna be a surprise but not everyone will surprise ya. You might not know all their secrets but you can know their character from what you see and know about them.

A better question to ask is do we ever pay enough attention to others to know their true character. We dont analyse all their decisions and acts to determine who they really are. We just make a general assumption based on the little we notice. Just as you could be surprised a friend is gay, you may also not have been surprised if you had of paid closer attention to them and not just assumed they were something they were not and based your sense of their character on top of those assumptions.

I think we could know someones true character if we paid enough attention to them but thats unlikely unless your studying them constantly. Still, assumptions can be right some of the time too so you cant rule out the possibility of knowing someones true character simply by assuming based of what little you do know.

flutterflye

People don't just have one true character.
Different or new circumstances bring out different behaviours.
You may think you know someone, but you never, ever will.

You may believe that x person would never and could never do a certain thing, and they themselves may also believe this, but faced with a series of particular circumstances, they very easily could.

As we learn more, and are exposed to different cultures, societies, opinions, views, experiences, situations etc... our perceptions can alter.

We even act differently in the company of different people on a daily basis.

We have no set 'us'.
Our 'character' is just the behaviour brought about from our ever changing cluster of subjective perceptions of our experiences.

vampire of kilmainham

Solnskaya wrote: »

take em as you find em - nobodys perfect and everyone has secrets, I treat everyone the same until they prove that they need special treatment. Apart from women. Jasus, how could you ever know, or hope to understand fully, a woman. They are an enigma. Up there with "how do they get the figs into fig rolls"....

ha ha very true

LandL84

I don't believe it's possible to know somebody inside out..
People are constanly changing, furthermore in every new situation, circumstances they disclose new responses, traits etc which they have never felt or experienced before.. I wouldn't say I know myself very well, because I constantly surprise myself, so in my opinion, knowing other person's real character it's truly impossible.

Snakeblood

Bodhidharma wrote: »

I've been thinking recently, is it possible to ever really know a person? Everyone has secrets and everyone does things that they would rather keep quiet. What I'm talking about is character, can we ever know a person's true character?

I would like to think that we can, but I'm an optimist and my theory has been thrown back in my face more than once.

So AH, you have the floor, can we ever really know someone, or are we only seeing what they want to show you?

I think as long as man has a secret porn stash, you'll never really know them fully.

VenusPlays

The most you'll ever have is a perception of someone. And that's going to be influenced on what you know about them, how they portray themselves in your company and your own personal influences and beliefs. Its like whole 'street devil, house angel' thing. Your mammy thinks you're a saint while all your mates know you're a sinner.

So no, you'll never really know anyone.