chicken fingers wrote: » Ok great post, very condescending. The thing is that people all have different values. You might value hippie stuff like not harming animals, others have different values. To present yours as "wisdom" and mine as inexperience is your choice, but it doesn't necessarily make you correct. I'm 28, I've been to more countries than most people can name. I have a good job that does benefit the worst of the worst-off people in the world, (I also earn well and so does the big evil corp I work for, oh no!). Its cute how you think that we're all equal and everybody has a wonderful spirit. I don't agree, but thats fine, we can have differing views, I don't have to tell you that I am right and you're wrong. I can accept that we differ. I know powerful, social people, people who do more good for the world with harsh words and tough actions, but ultimately are a force of "good", winners. I also know lazy, lonely, unsociable, unemployable, unskilled people who have little real potential in life. To me, those are the losers. Yeah they might love their kids, but they're losers. The guys who can't talk to a woman? Losers. Theres around 3.5 billion women walking around, and some people can only communicate properly with their female family members. Sorry, but they lose at life. They let norms and quirks of society prevent them from developing a personality that can allow them to effectively communicate with 50% of the population. Its nice to pretend that the world is all love and happiness, and that if you dont harm a man or an animal then you're a winner. However, to me, that stinks of massive inexperience of the world. Have you ever seen a child die? Ever seen somebody blow themselves up? Ever been hungry and not eaten for 3 or 4 days for want of food? (still dont want to kill an animal?) Have you ever made a decision that has saved (or dammed) lives? Ever seen a man kill another man over food worth less than a quarter? I have, and more. More than I can bring myself write about. I consider myself a winner, and I consider most people to be losers. What did they lose? They lost their chance, you probably only get one life, and spending it working during the week, watching tv, drinking at the weekend, repeat, well, to me that is losing the biggest opportunity you will ever have (to live)
chicken fingers wrote: » I have, and more. More than I can bring myself write about. I consider myself a winner, and I consider most people to be losers. What did they lose? They lost their chance, you probably only get one life, and spending it working during the week, watching tv, drinking at the weekend, repeat, well, to me that is losing the biggest opportunity you will ever have (to live)
A Primal Nut wrote: » Alternatively, walk into a bar and rip your shirt off as in that Hulk Hogan video! Deserves a hundred thanks!!
LighterGuy wrote: » Jesus you are a horrible person. Doesnt take a detective to know the OP is speaking from the heart. And is obviously upset about being lonely/not having someone! Yeah, thats what we'll do, kick him down some more?
luvbulmers01 wrote: » Bit of a dick arent yeh really:rolleyes: You make me think of this or these type
A Primal Nut wrote: » A possible tip to get you started is its usually easier to talk to a girl standing close to you in a bar or walking past you, rather than you walking straight up to her. If you walk straight up to her and she blanks you, its fairly humiliating and uncomfortable, and damaging to your self-esteem; having to walk away from her again. On the other hand if you are just standing around having a laugh with your mates and a girl walks by you can say "well, how's it going"; if she doesn't stop you can laugh it off with your mates, if she stops, she might just be interested. Alternatively, walk into a bar and rip your shirt off as in that Hulk Hogan video! Deserves a hundred thanks!!
Eve_Dublin wrote: » Right OP, I think I'm a good bit older than you and I'm going to give you some advice as someone whose been chatted up a fair bit in her life (most women have been by the time they hit 31) and this is what I found got my attention (disclaimer: I'm nice to ALL men approach me unless they're out and pricks...) - See the very hot chick in the corner with the big, grumpy face on her who think she's the hottest woman in the bar and has a few men hovering around her trying to pluck up the courage to talk to her? Chances are, she's not going to talk to you. She's going to be a wagon if you talk to her and possibly rude. See the other good-looking girl whose laughing and has a big, open face and doesn't seem so full of herself but perhaps is not the first woman you'd clap your eyes on when you walk into the bar? She's your best bet. Classic mistake of many men: approaching ht women who are so obviously bitches and have a million men vying for their attention. I can spot them a mile off...why can't you? I know not to approach the man in a Rugby jersey waving his willy about in a bar...why can't men spot the female equivalent??? - Be cool, be friendly and listen. Ask questions. We love a man who is interested in what we have to say and not just our boobage. Be genuinely interested in her. If you're not GENUINELY interested in what she has to say, make your excuses and leave. We know if a man is being sincere or just trying to get into our knickers. We've had years of experience of it and we might be slightly/very hostile if you continue on with this insincerity just because we've our baps out. - Don't take yourself so seriously. Work on your sense of humour and relax. Women LOVE funny men. If you don't see her laughing at your jokes, you've got a humour clash. Move on. Make your jokes and stories inclusive. Find common ground for things to laugh about. If she doesn't click with your humour, bite the bullet and leave. It's going nowhere. Keep your dignity and move on. - Low self-esteem in not an attractive trait in either gender. We all suffer from it now and then and some more than others. Don't go in with the frame of mind that she's out of your league. You don't know that and really, these league tables are subjective. We can sense if a man is unsure of himself. You're as good as anyone...this girl might not be the one for you but that doesn't make you any less of a person, it just means you don't click. Sad fatc for both genders that the person you fancy doesn't always fancy you back. Finding someone is not easy but don't discount the process before you even started. I've met most of my exes in bars...not Copper Face Jacks style bars but bars around the Camden area when I lived in Dublin. Relaxed and with people who are open to talking to randomers...or at least they were when I lived there. -My biggest piece of advice is approach approachable girls. If you approach someone who clearly doesn't want to be approached then you do so at your own risk and you'll be on here complaining about what a bunch of wagons we all are I know the men I shouldn't go near so I don't and I've had no problems. Use your gut instinct. Does she seem nice and approachable? Have you made a bit of eye contact prior to the advances? Don't think only with your dick or you'll get burned....we know the deal. Good luck!
longhalloween wrote: » Dont be yourself... Be a better version of yourself. Always
starviewadams wrote: » Don't be yourself,it doesn't work. Well don't be me anyways. Maybe try acting like a cocky prick,that seems to work.
longhalloween wrote: You make me think of this or these type https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y-AXTx4PcKI
sexter wrote: » The advice given in this thread is all well and good in theory. But in practice it can be useless. You have been programmed to view yourself in a negative light, which is very difficult to overcome in reality. There are different countries in this world than Ireland. As a rough guideline, the higher GDP a country has, the less interested the females in that country tend to be in the males. consequently, the more interested the males are in the females. Resulting in rigorous competitiveness between the males for the females. Any scrap of low confidence can potentially be a death sentence with women in this system. In the countries with a lower GDP, this competitiveness does not exist. Simply being a decent guy who's interested in a relationship is more than enough to succeed romantically. So, what I'm getting at is don't be influenced by those who say foreign women only want your money, or those who say abroad is a dating paradise. Look into it and decide for yourself whether going over-seas to meet women is worth taking a chance on.
sexter wrote: » The advice given in this thread is all well and good in theory. But in practice it can be useless. You have been programmed to view yourself in a negative light, which is very difficult to overcome in reality.
There are different countries in this world than Ireland. As a rough guideline, the higher GDP a country has, the less interested the females in that country tend to be in the males. consequently, the more interested the males are in the females. Resulting in rigorous competitiveness between the males for the females. Any scrap of low confidence can potentially be a death sentence with women in this system. In the countries with a lower GDP, this competitiveness does not exist. Simply being a decent guy who's interested in a relationship is more than enough to succeed romantically.
dirtypanties wrote: » My Husband is a total nerd....Adds to his appeal IMO-There must be more women like me out there that like geek chic (+hopefully they will have clean panties;)) Don't give up OP-you never know who you might meet tomorrow/next week/next year:)
