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I need a girlfriend/help.

Samich

Ok, basically I'm an early 20's fella, absolutely awful with women.

I go out quite regularly but haven't the testicle fortitude to approach women.

I don't have a good body and have never felt a girl has been interested in me.

I have approached a few women before in clubs asking how their night is but most just shrugged me away.

There is a girl I like but don't we well, doesn't mean she likes me. I've met her once, but chat alot on facebook (me always starting the chat). I don't think she likes me, she's just very friendly I think, no hints or anything from her.

Near the end of the club I always feel depressed when I think I'm absolute failure with girls.

What do ye think of telling that one girl? Good/bad idea? Don't want to ruin the friendship or make it awkward, her friend added me on fb aswell, I hadn't met her before.

Or else I need something to take my mind off women as I'm always thinking about it.

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Samich

I'll let ye know the next time I'm going out and I'll try do something.

Jazzy

HARDEN THE F**K UP

Chuck Stone

I want you to win OP and I think you will Sir.

darkmaster2

Learn to play Guitar

I can't myself, but I know it works wonders!

Aodan83

Could always mention you're psychic....
http://i53.tinypic.com/206gbiv.gif

Micky Dolenz

WhoSays wrote: »

Hey OP, first off, you're an absolute loser posting on this trying to get a GF....get your act together and buy a long rope just in case.

Banned

Samich

Ha he's edited it so he doesn't get banned :P

WhoSays

sorry big guy

Sinfonia

WhoSays wrote: »

you're an absolute loser

...................................................................................................who says?

Edit: Got there before the ninja edit ohhhhhhhhhhyeaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Topper Harley

WhoSays wrote: »

Hey OP, first off, you're an absolute loser posting on this trying to get a GF....get your act together and buy a long rope just in case.

Keep your erotic asphyxiation fantasies to yourself.

BlueNemo

WhoSays wrote: »

Hey OP, first off, you're an absolute loser posting on this trying to get a GF....get your act together and buy a long rope just in case.

I hope you're banned.

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

Pah! real women? All that talking & emotional stuff. Get yourself a pretty mannequin.

You seem like a mannequin sort of guy.

Getting a mannequin worked out pretty damn well for Andrew McCarthy in 'Mannequin' :rolleyes:

Samich

WhoSays wrote: »

Hey OP, first off, you're an absolute loser posting on this trying to get a GF....get your act together and buy a long rope just in case.

Banned?

fonecrusher1

Pah! real women? All that talking & emotional stuff. Get yourself a pretty mannequin.

You seem like a mannequin sort of guy.

WhoSays

Hey OP, first off, you're an absolute legend posting on this trying to get a GF....get your act together and buy a big ring just in case.

TrixIrl

Forget clubs, too many distractions for you & the ladies - and you can never tell whose really single or if they're just sluttin it up on a girls night out.

House parties pre or post club are the way to go! That way you have a small select group of ppl whose "relationship status" can be easily sussed out, and
theres much less score-pressure!! There is always someone to talk to - and one drunken girl that wants to stay up talking utter sh ite!

Aim for a friendly, light-hearted banter, dont mention how desperate you are or the length of time you've been singe. Its all in the mystery. Aim to get a number not a kiss!

El Weirdo

mikemac wrote: »

Jobs are scare but maybe get yourself a barman job at the weekends, some extra cash for you and you'll be out meeting people

Actually, that's a great idea. It'll really help with the confidence, too. I've worked in loads of bars and seen loads of shy, quiet young fellas start and watched their confidence just grow and grow. I'm not talking about confidence with women in particular, just in general.

Samich

billyhead wrote: »

Op,

You need to grow a set of b**ls and just start chatting to women a lot more whether in a club or on the street. TBH you should enjoy being young free and single rather then in a relationship and the commitment that entails. If your that desperate for a woman just act like your man from American Pie (Spinsmeister) when your in a club and walk up to them in bars and clubs and not give too ****es.

I know that dude, just getting the balls to begin with is the thing.

billyhead

Op,

You need to grow a set of b**ls and just start chatting to women a lot more whether in a club or on the street. TBH you should enjoy being young free and single rather then in a relationship and the commitment that entails. If your that desperate for a woman just act like your man from American Pie (Spinsmeister) when your in a club and walk up to them in bars and clubs and not give too ****es.

Don Juan DeMagoo

Samich wrote: »

I'm afraid I'm not heading out tonight, dislocated a shoulder so no out.

Sorry to hear man, get better soon.........

Wait we can use this, say you got injured trying out for some rugby team or you got knocked of your horse will galloping on the beach.......... No wait you dislocated your shoulder while saving your horse who was drowning at sea. This can work man, get on your dancing shoes and get out there!!

BBDBB

Samich wrote: »

What's it about?

Two cowboys pushed together by circumstances, tested by the elements and their situation, alone on the trail for those long lonely nights under the stars they seek comfort in each other.........

Samich

Don Juan DeMagoo wrote: »

I watched all of this and at the end of it I was wondering if I was actually gay. :rolleyes:

What's it about?

Don Juan DeMagoo

Siuin wrote: »

One word: P90X

My boyfriend did it. It works

I watched all of this and at the end of it I was wondering if I was actually gay. :rolleyes:

Micky Dolenz

alcomoholic wrote: »

head out tonight, drink at least a litre of vodka.
then come home, head out the back garden and hang yourself off your fathers ladder in the shed.

leave a note for the girl telling her that you loved her so much you gave your life for her.
she'll be kneeling down in front of you in no time.... you'll be six feet under, but who cares!

Banned.

Don Juan DeMagoo

RichieC wrote: »

you gotta know your target audience, I wouldnt walk up to a super model and ask her for a lick out.. no, I would ask her middle of the road/okay mate if she would she like a drink.

Deep stuff

Don Juan DeMagoo

Samich wrote: »

Anyone have any experience of telling a girl they liked them without any clear signals?

Oh god yes and more often than not it goes down like the Hindenburg disaster.
But over time you will improve, just try not to do this in front of her mates, try to corral her on her own. In groups, women can (sometimes) behave like sheep. If you scare one they are all gone, but just remember you are a talented sheep dog. On a final note don't bite her, if you do we will be left with no option other than to put you down. :pac:

Wolfe Tone

Chances are the problem is that you don't actually have fun when you are out, you go out with the aim of scoring and become increasingly more desperate as you come towards the end of an unsuccessful night and start to beat yourself up.

You should forget about trying to get a woman or whatever, and just go out for the craic. Chances are you will realize that night clubs generally suck. What I would do would be to join some clubs and stuff, like Irish classes, or something which you enjoy. You will be more relaxed, have more fun and feel less pressured when meeting new people, and who knows what might happen! It's obvious what you are doing now isn't working, so you need a change.

mikemac

Are you working OP?
Tag rugby is great for meeting the wimmins
If you don't have a team set one up

Jobs are scare but maybe get yourself a barman job at the weekends, some extra cash for you and you'll be out meeting people

Sinfonia

Samich, can I assume that when you deal with people generally, like shopkeepers, sales assistants, delivery people, whatever, you handle the situation quickly with the bare minimum of speech and interaction? I've always been the same way. With friends, totally fine, talkative, confident etc. With strangers, shy, distant, quiet. I would recommend changing that for a start. You don't need to get into a full blown conversation with everyone you meet, but just say something, any auld shi'e, or even just make the most basic of small talk, with your head up, making eye contact (don't stare though!).

I honestly think that the effort to increase levels of confidence when it comes to talking to girls takes two things:
1) Increasing the level of confidence when talking to anyone (as above)
2) Realising that girls are just people, not goddesses (certain cases excepted :P ), and step 1 helps with that too.

mikemac

alcomoholic wrote: »

head out tonight, drink at least a litre of vodka.
then come home, head out the back garden and hang yourself off your fathers ladder in the shed.

leave a note for the girl telling her that you loved her so much you gave your life for her.
she'll be kneeling down in front of you in no time.... you'll be six feet under, but who cares!

What's disturbing about this post is young men actually do this

That realy is a disturbing post

mikemac

Look around the pub or party OP
Too many lads in the corner staring into their pint like their dog just died and then wondering why they're not attracting anyone

As said "would you chat you up?"

You don't need to be good looking and it's not just your Mammy who will tell you that
If you get people laughing you're halfway there

Tbh, you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself going to a pub or nightclub where you have to shout over music and it's pretty likely to be shot down

Thinking back on people I've been with were college, a night class or once I signed up to tennis classes on my own and met a girl there

While I've not done it I've heard great things about dancing classes like tango dancing,

Girls love to dance so you show up and have the craic