Dovies wrote: » Back on the point. No I wouldnt date a non drinker. And its not because I like to go out and get drunk its simply because I like to go out and have a beer or glass of wine every now and then and dont feel comfortable if who Im with isn't.
Shenshen wrote: » I do now... I work with a few of them. None of them brag about drinking, and the few times we've been out as a team they sat and watched just as open-mouthed as me.
Seachmall wrote: » Actually it's an extremely common term to refer to that age group. You'll notice it's used about a half a dozen times in this thread (including the post you originally quoted).
Skyler Brave Shellfish wrote: » Obviously it's not, this is the first thread I have ever heard it in. Never heard it used before. It's a pretty silly term.
Rocket19 wrote: » I met a guy in a club over the weekend, he took my number and we went on a date last night. It didn't take me long to discover that he doesn't drink (he's a personal trainer). Kind of embarassing that I didn't realise this when we met (I was pretty drunk, he must have been sober), but oh well. While I totally respect that he chooses not to drink, it was admittedly unchartered territory for me. While I have other hobbies, I'm college age and a lot of my social life revolves around alcohol (like most people I guess). He seems a lovely guy and is great craic but I couldn't help thinking he would feel somewhat removed from my social life. (Although I did meet him in a club, so I can assume he still does the 'normal' things, just without the drink). Aren't drunk people really annoying and unattractive when you're sober though? Also, I think I'd feel weird getting drunk and acting the fool, while he soberly watched this unfold. :pac: Could you go out with someone who doesn't drink (assuming you are a regular drinker). I'm aware our dependence on alcohol for a good time is awful in Ireland, and I really don't get very drunk ever, but at the same time, I couldn't help thinking "what the hell am I gonna do with him!!?
splendid101 wrote: » ...t*ght m*therf*cker's too f*ckin' t*ght to f*ckin' drink. What a f*ckin' stingey c*nt!
Shenshen wrote: » I didn't know it even existed until I came here. Having fun and a drink is one thing, listening to your 30-40 year old colleagues one-upping each other on a Monday morning about how much they drank and how bad they felt afterwards on the Sunday is... well, one of the odder things of Irish culture.
Seachmall wrote: » It's a grand term when referring to people in that age range. It's even used in medical papers (dated 1995). Just because you haven't heard it used before doesn't make it a ridiculous or uncommon term.
Skyler Brave Shellfish wrote: » Now you are taking the piss...
Spread wrote: » Non drinking is OK, but like drinking - should be practiced in moderation.
Cydoniac wrote: » That makes no sense whatsoever. You're a stupid troll.
Novella wrote: » Yup, a non-drinker would be right up my street. I'm just not a fan of the going out every weekend just to get drunk mentality. I'd prefer a non-drinker to a person whose entire social life revolved around alcohol. Different strokes and all that.
wild_cat wrote: » Ceadaoin why did you like a post insinuating I had an alcohol problem? Assume much?
Who don't know loads of cases where friends just nod along in agreement for the sake of not wishing to find themselves in a sudden drama or bad situation? If your told a number of times by many non-connected people, individually that there might be a problem, I would if I had any sense at least start to look at what they are going on about and see if there was any validation to their notions. Thats if I still had the mental capacity to do so and hopefully not gone down too far one road that I couldn't see alternative views.
ceadaoin. wrote: » I agree with this bit that Biggins posted. Just as general sentiments really, nothing particular to you. Defensive much?
wild_cat wrote: » My apologies I thought you were on an anti drinking buzz after seeing a few of your other posts on boards.ie
kjl wrote: » It's funny, I think the OP is actually insecure. She has a very immature attitude about intoxication and really needs to grow up a little. If you were to ask any of my friends they would tell you that I am the most fun in my group of friends. Just because I don't drink doesn't mean I don't know how to have a good time. I think the people in this country need to realize that it is possible to have a good time without being intoxicated and I think because we have forgotten this fact the attitudes like the OP's arise. Truth is that the main reason people think that a non drinker can't be any fun is because they are no fun without alcohol.
Teamshadowclan wrote: » I've heard of plots on two occassions to get me drunk against my will.
Teamshadowclan wrote: » for reasons some people have expressed in this topic; not trusting non-drinkers,
Teamshadowclan wrote: » I was actually tempted to start a thread like this but found one using the board's search function. Since it's relevant to my interests, I'll post here. Not been too long since the last post so hopefully people won't mind the bump... I'm a non-drinker, 24, who has never drank and never will and who can't stand pubs and clubs. The few times I've been in either, I've counted the seconds till I could get the hell out. Its not that I judge people or anything. If people want to drink, that's up to them. It's more the fact I'm treated like a freak because I'm not drinking. I've heard of plots on two occassions to get me drunk against my will. I've lost contact with a lot of friends over drinking. It's the complete lack of willingness to accept my beliefs which annoy the **** out of me. But the worst for me is the self-confidence issues which come because I'm a non-drinker. I'd have no problem going out with a drinker, provided she didn't expect me to go along to the pubs and clubs. But I can't help but feel the sentiments would not be returned. There was one girl last year who I thought was magnificent; funny, sexy, and I think into me, cause she kind of asked me out in round about ways twice. But the first time I met her, within two minutes, she had told two stories about how drunk she had got in recent times. And over the year I spent working with her, the stories continued. And it's not that I judge her. I want to stress that. We all find fun in our own ways. She didn't know I was a non-drinker and in fairness, these types of stories seem to be the norm in Irish culture. But it left me with a permenant feeling of inadequecy when around her; a feeling that if I revealed I was a nondrinker, it would turn her off (for reasons some people have expressed in this topic; not trusting non-drinkers, thinking they are "dry ****es", etc). Likewise, it carries over to other girls who seem into me but who I'm worried about asking out cause I know in Ireland, drink is such a vital part of life that as a complete non-drinker, I'm going to be rejected and tossed aside with horrible insults thrown at me (as has been done in the past). It's frustrating in Ireland. I find myself stuck in a situation where I know I'd be happiest finding a girl who doesn't drink and would prefer to find social options outside pubs and clubs, but find it impossible to figure out a way to actually meet said girls, since when you ask people where they meet others, it's in the places I want to avoid :S
NTMK wrote: » uh i ****ing hate this i get this from my best friends parents.whats even stranger is the fact they've known me since i was 4 and liked me until they found out i dont drink
NTMK wrote: » whats even stranger is the fact they've known me since i was 4 and liked me until they found out i dont drink
Mike 1972 wrote: » You mean when you were 4 they assumed that you drank ???
