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Could you go out with someone who doesn't drink?

Rocket19

I met a guy in a club over the weekend, he took my number and we went on a date last night.
It didn't take me long to discover that he doesn't drink (he's a personal trainer). Kind of embarassing that I didn't realise this when we met (I was pretty drunk, he must have been sober), but oh well.

While I totally respect that he chooses not to drink, it was admittedly unchartered territory for me. While I have other hobbies, I'm college age and a lot of my social life revolves around alcohol (like most people I guess).

He seems a lovely guy and is great craic but I couldn't help thinking he would feel somewhat removed from my social life. (Although I did meet him in a club, so I can assume he still does the 'normal' things, just without the drink). Aren't drunk people really annoying and unattractive when you're sober though?
Also, I think I'd feel weird getting drunk and acting the fool, while he soberly watched this unfold. :pac:

Could you go out with someone who doesn't drink (assuming you are a regular drinker).
I'm aware our dependence on alcohol for a good time is awful in Ireland, and I really don't get very drunk ever, but at the same time, I couldn't help thinking "what the hell am I gonna do with him!!?

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sparks24

nope dont trust people who dont drink at all... why not? are they mental? does the drink release the demon in there head?

didn't trust obama till he had a nice sup in monegall lol

azezil

Yes I would. I'd find someone very boring if all they ever wanted to do was get drunk every weekend, I prefer spend my money on other stuff.

Also, would you not take it as a compliment that a sober person asked for your number? I certainly would and did that one time I met (I was extremely drunk) a sober guy in a club. Damn fun sex that night, horniest guy I've met in years ^_^

Caraville

biko wrote: »

I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day.

Ah, Mr. Sinatra, is it yourself that's in it?

flutterflye

Rocket19 wrote: »

I couldn't help thinking "what the hell am I gonna do with him!!?

Maybe he can show you ways to have fun outside of drinking?

Caoimhín

Of course.

Seriously, if your choice of partners is decided by how much you can drink when with them, maybe you need to have a good look at your drinking habits.

Guill

Caoimhín wrote: »

Of course.

Seriously, if your choice of partners is decided by how much you can drink when with them, maybe you need to have a good look at your drinking habits.

Or a find good drinking game.

Big Nasty

Drink is your friend!:pac:

Cupcake_Crisis

My ex wasn't a drinker at all. Had it upsides and its downsides .I always had soLeone to take me hone and put me safely into bed when i had one many, but i also had so.eons.e to moan at ne the next day fir getting drunk. There's nithi.g wrong with not being a drinker as long as your not a dry shite about it.

He was a dry shite about it.

Novella

Yup, a non-drinker would be right up my street. I'm just not a fan of the going out every weekend just to get drunk mentality. I'd prefer a non-drinker to a person whose entire social life revolved around alcohol. Different strokes and all that.

Mayo Miss

My boyfriend doesn't drink but he has never looked badly on anyone who does. I was far from sober the night I met him.

I don't drink now as much as I used to but I'm still out every weekend, even more than I used to be before I met him. I almost had to retrain myself on how to socialise in pubs etc without relying on alcohol. Although it's been 2 months since I last had a big drink so I'm rounding up the women and planning on getting well merry this weekend.

Spread

Why does he not drink? Did he/does he have issues with it? Will his intolerance of personal alcohol consumption blur the boundaries of your enjoyment if you were an item? Getting pi$$ed together (very occasionally) is a great way of bonding. A lot of Personal Trainers are emotionally void, like the auld control thing, are narcissistic and tend to FART a lot (a diet rich in chick peas, legumes, fruit and raw veg etc). So if you want to live a life away from Big Irish Breakfasts, Bacon Cabbage and Spuds, a good blast in the pub/party, the odd visit to McDonalds and not having the bathroom mostly to yourself before heading out for the night, ......... go for it. But the ealry nights in, rigorous gym sessions, raw carrots in a self-closing bag, lack of spontaneity can get a trifle

stifling after the first bloom. Let us know how you get on. If you really fancy him ...... disregard every iota from above. And enjoy!

Evonatron

My bf is a non-drinker, we have been going out about 4 years. We get on great but we do not socialise together when there is alcohol involved its pointless, I get drunk and start messing and he gets bored by 12.30 when I keep repeating myself. Occasionally at weddings/family events we will go out and its grand and we have a laugh but we would never get into the habit of it . I go drinking with my friends at the weekend or I go for dinner/cinema with bf. I generally dont drink at home,I think because my parents never did but if I want a glass of wine Ill buy a bottle.

He once recorded me drunkingly rambling and believe me never did it again! But then we are settled down,living together have a baby etc If I was aged 18-23 I would have found it really hard to date a non drinker when your whole life revolves around going out. When I was pregnant going out wrecked my head and I could never enjoy myself when everyone else got drunk, its not the same buzz so I can understand why he is allergic to going out.

Give it go, see where it goes you dont have to marry the guy but you might have a good time finding out if he is bf material, but I wouldnt even worry about that your young, go out have a laugh if something comes of it then great.........

Vinta81

My friends boyfriend doesn't drink but he has no problem with her or anyone being drunk etc... He's a laugh on a night out.

For me? If he didn't have a problem with me drinking and all that then it's fine, wouldn't bother me.

Caraville

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

My ex wasn't a drinker at all. Had it upsides and its downsides .I always had soLeone to take me hone and put me safely into bed when i had one many, but i also had so.eons.e to moan at ne the next day fir getting drunk. There's nithi.g wrong with not being a drinker as long as your not a dry shite about it.

He was a dry shite about it.

Are you drunk now???

Big Nasty

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

My ex wasn't a drinker at all. Had it upsides and its downsides .I always had soLeone to take me hone and put me safely into bed when i had one many, but i also had so.eons.e to moan at ne the next day fir getting drunk. There's nithi.g wrong with not being a drinker as long as your not a dry shite about it.

He was a dry shite about it.

Are you drunk now!?!:eek::D:eek:

COYW

Rocket19 wrote: »

Of course not!
I just couldn't help feeling he would be bored if I took him out with my friends and we were all drinking.
I just know I would be paranoid thinking he would be thinking we're idiotic, destroying our bodies, etc! Surely he would wanna be doing something else?

He doesn't seem judgemental or anything, and I don't have a problem with it because I think he's weird, or anything like that. Its just that I can't help feeling he'd feel alienated from my social life.

It seems 'normal' to have a few drinks with a guy (not get really drunk) but that's something I couldn't suggest with him.
Obviously there are other things we can do, but its just different I guess.

Are you sure you don't have a problem with him being teetotal? Looking at the post above, I think you are trying to convince yourself that he is not "weird".

You make his teetotal nature sound like a disability. If you actually like this guy, I really can't see the issue in him having a non-alcoholic drink and you have an alcoholic one when you go out at night.

Scanlas The 2nd

Rocket19 wrote: »

Of course not!
I just couldn't help feeling he would be bored if I took him out with my friends and we were all drinking.
I just know I would be paranoid thinking he would be thinking we're idiotic, destroying our bodies, etc! Surely he would wanna be doing something else?

He doesn't seem judgemental or anything, and I don't have a problem with it because I think he's weird, or anything like that. Its just that I can't help feeling he'd feel alienated from my social life.

It seems 'normal' to have a few drinks with a guy (not get really drunk) but that's something I couldn't suggest with him.
Obviously there are other things we can do, but its just different I guess.

Ask him to eat caramels with you.

DWCommuter

Rocket19 wrote: »

I met a guy in a club over the weekend, he took my number and we went on a date last night.
It didn't take me long to discover that he doesn't drink (he's a personal trainer). Kind of embarassing that I didn't realise this when we met (I was pretty drunk, he must have been sober), but oh well.

While I totally respect that he chooses not to drink, it was admittedly unchartered territory for me. While I have other hobbies, I'm college age and a lot of my social life revolves around alcohol (like most people I guess).

He seems a lovely guy and is great craic but I couldn't help thinking he would feel somewhat removed from my social life. (Although I did meet him in a club, so I can assume he still does the 'normal' things, just without the drink). Aren't drunk people really annoying and unattractive when you're sober though?
Also, I think I'd feel weird getting drunk and acting the fool, while he soberly watched this unfold. :pac:

Could you go out with someone who doesn't drink (assuming you are a regular drinker).
I'm aware our dependence on alcohol for a good time is awful in Ireland, and I really don't get very drunk ever, but at the same time, I couldn't help thinking "what the hell am I gonna do with him!!?

If he doesn't drink, he's not a man. GTFO of Dodge.

Show Time

It is more of a pain in the backside to be a non drinker going out with someone who needs to go drinking on a date.

Shelga

I'm a regular drinker, my boyfriend is pretty much teetotal. I much prefer it that way to a guy who drinks as much as or more than me. Nothing more unattractive than Irish guys in their 20s bragging about how hammered they were last Saturday, like it's an achievement. :rolleyes:

I get too drunk sometimes, but he doesn't judge (much!), and overall it's a good balance.

DWCommuter

Shelga wrote: »

I'm a regular drinker, my boyfriend is pretty much teetotal. I much prefer it that way to a guy who drinks as much as or more than me. Nothing more unattractive than Irish guys in their 20s bragging about how hammered they were last Saturday, like it's an achievement. :rolleyes:

I get too drunk sometimes, but he doesn't judge (much!), and overall it's a good balance.

I can see the benefits. You get smashed and he's nice and sober enough to deliver a quality shag.

Ficheall

I don't drink. I would prefer if my better half did not drink, granted, but I certainly wouldn't let it be a major issue.
Would OP take offense if someone wouldn't go out with her because she drank?

If the OP's question had been about weed instead of alcohol, would people's opinions on the matter be different?

Guill

OP I drink, Pm me!

:pac:

Guill

Ficheall wrote: »

I don't drink. I would prefer if my better half did not drink, granted, but I certainly wouldn't let it be a major issue.
Would OP take offense if someone wouldn't go out with her because she drank?

If the OP's question had been about weed instead of alcohol, would people's opinions on the matter be different?

OP, I get high, PM me.

Rocket19

flutterflye wrote: »

Maybe he can show you ways to have fun outside of drinking?

But I can. I don't understand why people assume I couldn't have fun "outside of drinking" just because I drink.

I play hockey, have a horse which takes up a lot of time, go shopping, do the general "hanging out" in parks and coffee shops and stuff. Am I missing something?
On a friday/saturday night or whatever, my friends go to bars/go clubbing and I go along. I like doing this, I do it regularly, but its not like its the only thing I know how to do.

I'm gonna see the guy again - he was cool, but if it does go further, I can see it potentially being an issue. But I guess this is totally dependent on his attitude towards my drinking. Tbh I couldn't care less if he doesn't drink, so long as he is cool with the fact I do.

Princess Peach

My boyfriend can't drink for medical reasons. Never once entered into my head that it could be a problem. He still goes out and dances and has a good time, I don't ever feel bad for drinking with him, and he doesnt mind me drinking at all either.

Might be a different story if it was his choice not to drink, but I guess it all depends on the person. If he doesnt mind you drinking and can still go out and have fun with you I don't see the problem at all then.

J_E

I don't drink. I don't really plan on drinking, and if I do, it won't be to get drunk. I have my own personal reasons for this.

What I have a problem with is Ireland's passive attitude towards drinking. It seems nowadays that people can't seem to be able to go out and have a good time and function without alcohol in their system. How come I can have a better time than my friends without alcohol, and they don't know what to do themselves without it? It really gets to me.
I am a little worried that when I go to uni next year I'm going to be judged for not drinking. I just hope people can see beyond that. What I'd hate is to go out with someone who can't seem to have a night out without getting drunk and acting stupid.

Show Time

DWCommuter wrote: »

If he doesn't drink, he's not a man. GTFO of Dodge.

He is a personal trainer and to the best of my knowledge the fit folks do not care for ingesting anything that fecks up their body.
There are also plenty of other reasons why some people do not drink ranging from not being able to hold a drink to medical reasons.

I would class myself in the medical/common sense category for not drinking anymore for the simple reason i have only one working kidney(Born that way)and have no wish to be hooked up to a dialysis machine later in life.

And i am not the type of person who has never had a drink because from 16-32 i would have been able to drink with the best of them, But as i got on in years i was turning into a functional alcoholic and did not want to go down the path of drink dependence like most of the rest of the country or spend a few hours a day on dialysis.

Just to finish up with a saying i got many years ago from a wise old man. "It takes a good man to have a drink but a better man can go without."

pmurphy00

Shelga wrote: »

Nothing more unattractive than Irish guys in their 20s bragging about how hammered they were last Saturday, like it's an achievement. :rolleyes:

cant believe how many people still go on like this..
and have been drinking for 10 years..
out last night..rotten etc..
during my last relationship(6 months) i wasn't drinking
it wasnt a problem we met i was sober
got on good..went out blah blah drink never came into it

Ficheall

Cydoniac wrote: »

I am a little worried that when I go to uni next year I'm going to be judged for not drinking. I just hope people can see beyond that.

There are plenty of people in college who don't drink that much - they're just not the vocal majority.