Some emotions experienced following Miscarriage Your Emotions * Anger – Why me? Other women succeed effortlessly to have babies, what happens to you seems completely unfair. * Disappointment, your hopes and excitement are crushed. * There is often a reaction of pity from outsiders, which you may dislike. * Guilt, had I neglected nutrition or rest ? Had I been too anxious ? etc. * The difference between a woman who has had one miscarriage, to those who have had more, is the timing and intensity. Physical fear is part of every woman's experience. * Feeling sad or depressed for weeks or even months after a miscarriage seems to be the norm. Many women say they were unable to get over their feelings of sadness until they were pregnant again. When we miscarry, our body hormonal balance changes as abruptly as they do after childbirth. Hence we are subject to as much chemically induced emotional disorder with none of the usual rewards. There is no baby, no happy visitors showering us with gifts and attention, no approval, no fun. * Many women experience guilt and become detectives, continuing to look back for months after they have miscarried, looking for some probable cause in their own behaviour, just prior to the miscarriage. Some blame the doctors, feeling they could have done more. * Many women after discussing their miscarriage with outsiders, made themselves feel guiltier. * There comes a sense of relief period, that you have come out of it alive and that you can try again. But don't be surprised if after a period of relief you find yourself once again depressed, angry or sad. * For some, the period of adjustment goes on for many years, whilst for others it is much shorter. There is no right or wrong interval, after which you adjust to your emotional feelings. All of us are different. About the best you can do is to be open to your needs and the needs of those close to you. If you need outside help, seek it openly.
Fittle wrote: » My pregnancy was also unplanned and my friends also think (I think) that I'm far better off without a young child. A brother of mine even told me 'Ah sure you're better off having lost it':rolleyes: I think you're right, and they have forgotten it, because life has moved on for all of us. I still don't think it's fair though.:(
