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I can't control my drinking

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Im female, 18 and have been drinking socially for the past 3 years. When I go out I would always drink, and be drunk - Id have maybe 4 beers, 2 vodkas, a few shots and about half a naggin of vodka before I go out, when getting ready with friends.

Over the past while Ive found myself getting so drunk that I pass out in the club and friends have to look after me and I make a total fool out of myself, and cant remember what happened the next day.

Over the past while, after a night out Ive promised myself that the next time I go out I wont drink, to prove to myself that I can. But its never happened - I'll have one drink, and I cant seem to stop at one, I have to have more and more until Im waisted. For example, out at a party in a pub, feel too self consious (and i dont really understand why, im not shy and am generally confident) so I had a drink, and just couldnt stop at one. Even when I only have the money for one and a taxi home, I end up borrowing money or getting someone to buy me a drink.

Another thing Ive noticed recently - Ive been getting kindof agressive (thats a bit strong and not the right word) when Im drunk - for example I started on a girl who was in my old school a while back for no reason whatsoever, I started on and ended up fighting a random guy who disrespected me, and I slapped a guy who my friend was dancing with on the face for no reason. I dont know why I do this, and immediatly after I get very upset and apologise. This is only really in the last 5 or 6 months, and not each time I go out.

I am under a huge amount of pressure at the moment and I suppose at times I have felt myself go 'god, id love a drink right now' - but thats normal, right?

I was talking to a chap who is a recovered alcoholic (while i was drunk ironically) and he was saying I should really keep an eye on it - my question is what is normal, and what is abnormal? where is the line between having a night out to relax and to forget your worries for a night, and where it becomes a problem? Do I appear to have a problem?

I guess even writing this means that Im concerned about this - and I am, but I dont want to stop drinking, Im only young and I feel that alot of social events are centered around drink, I love going out but feel self consious and get a drink, but then cant stop.

What do I do? Should I be concerned or am I over reacting?

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gags89

hmm i agree with the vodka- mixing does create different drunken mind states for example - on beer im a lad, loud and singing, vodka im a lil tense and agressive sometimes and kind of blackout, on whiskey i am a sleaze. messy and have a terrible hangover on it!

I would put this down to social pressure '' the need not to miss out on anything'' You know what i mean, the texts that fly around prior to a friday/saturday night ''what u doin 2nit,whos goin etc?'' its just people not confident enough to know they can have a good time regardless need a certain amount of group leaders there so it makes it a popular activity to do. You just feel the need to fit it. Social value is not based on following the crowd and sharing in the stories of ''omg what happened last night . i remember nothing typa thing, ' Its on i did what i wanted to do, I went out and hit on women/men left right and centre and scored wuhoo!, I stayed in and watched a dvd because i was tired (do you ever feel anxious when you havnt seen your phone in a while or that again if you dont show your face, your missing out on some great thing?)

Its a very commen trait of teens these days, including myself when i was one i think im growing out of it now but it does need to be addressed

You dont need help ie addiction etc etc, just need to learn to be confident, and stronger in yourself and socially. easily done though, i did it!google it/pm me for advice

LegacyUser

Just do what I do, leave the atm card at home and take a tenner for 2 drinks, works a charm.

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TheDollyParton wrote: »

It's a common misconception that in order to be an alcoholic you have to drink all day every day or as you said, grab a drink first thing upon waking up. There are lots of alcoholics out there who hold down steady jobs and live perfectly "normal" lives Monday to Friday, or even go for weeks and months without a drink and still have a dependency. A limited amount of research on the net will support me on this point. It's not about how much you drink, it's about the effect the drinking has on you.

http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/tests/a/aa040130.htm

i could not have put it better myself.i have a problem wit drink an can go for quite a time wit out one but cant seem to not want one for most/all off the time.and a lot of the time i wont drink till the night but cant wait till the night and know full well this is not helpin my drink problem.