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How does a child come to their own conclusion that a certain type of religion is the truth? It's not possible without brainwashing them. My child isn't born yet, but I plan to try and teach it to come to its own conclusions based on facts and evidence. I will also try my best to teach it why religion is so widespread and why the majority of the country are delusional. It's not going to be easy thats for sure.

liah

I don't think that a child finding religion through brainwashing is necessarily the only way for them to find religion. They could come to it by hearing about it from a friend, book, the internet, school or inventing a god of their own, much the same way as they'd create any other imaginary friend since that's basically all a god is anyway.

I agree with the rest of your post, though. If I were to ever have children I'd probably raise them in regards to belief the same way as my mother did-- she believes in god and all that rot but she never forced it on me, she never really brought it up at all actually. Just let me figure it out for myself. We did go to church for Easter a couple times, though, but that was as far as it went. I think I was all the better for it.

Only thing is there's a major difference between schools. Religion wasn't taught at our schools in Canada (except in history under mythology) until post-secondary, and then as an elective. I never at any point had it forced down my throat outside of a couple weekends a year when I was sent to stay with my über-religious grandparents (the type who go to church literally every single day). I'm not sure how Irish parents would be able to avoid the religious thing because it's so rampant here, especially at school where it seems that religion is spoon-fed every day.

How do Irish atheist parents deal with religion being taught at schools? That would drive me nuts. School shouldn't be a place for religious indoctrination.

Rev Hellfire

I've found ignoring the whole religion thing works wonders for me.

Sure they get introduced to the whole god in heaven with the dead people thing, but its not a big deal. It's not significantly different to the whole Santa story. Once they're older and past the time for fairy tales they can start to form their own opinion on the subject.

Though if you've a bee in your bonnet about the whole religion thang I can see how some people might get their knickers in a twist.

Handsome Bob

As has already been said, it would be quite difficult to let a child come to his own conclusions on religion without brainwashing him/her. I would bring them to up to question their surroundings first of all. What I would also hope, if I ever do have any children, is that I could bring them up to have respect for people regardless of race, gender, sexuality, and religious creed. That to me would be the most important thing because for me, intelligence is wasted if you do not have the "human touch" in expressing your opinions.

death1234567

liah wrote: »

School shouldn't be a place for religious indoctrination.

+1.

cls wrote: »

How does a child come to their own conclusion that a certain type of religion is the truth? It's not possible without brainwashing them. My child isn't born yet, but I plan to try and teach it to come to its own conclusions based on facts and evidence. I will also try my best to teach it why religion is so widespread and why the majority of the country are delusional. It's not going to be easy thats for sure.

Hmmmm.

I will teach my children that there are very many faiths in the world, and that no one can really know for sure. So just enjoy riding your bike around in circles and don't worry about it until you are an adult and are capable of making these decisions for yourself.

Personally, i think if you as a parent feel that atheism is important, you'd be neglectful, and pretty much an idiot not to teach your children as such. A parent has had so many years of life. When it comes to spiritual matters, if they have reached their conclusion that for example, christianity, is a steaming pile, then I think it would be irresponsible not to pass on this to your child. Similarly with a Christian. If I was to raise a child, you can guarantee I'm going to act responsibly, and teach him/her about Christ etc.

In these forums there is so much talk of delusion. Personally, I think if you think your atheism is not going to influence your child that is delusional. Again, as above, if you believe all religion is a lie, its important you protect your child from it. You can teach your child to think for themselves, but it will take a while. In the meantime, you must give them bounderies, and make them secure in 'your' knowledge.

studiorat

I suppose the best thing you can do it try not to fcuk them up too much!

Kids, even babies always re-evaluate how they see the world as they develop. Tr4ying to convince them one way or another is a pointless pursuit because hopefully they will come to their own conclusions.

Alyosha

I was raised a Catholic but stopped believing about three years ago at 17. I personally don't see any harm in children aged 6-12 believing in God - simply because at that age they are too young to make their own informed choice regarding religion. For me, having a young child calling him/her self an "Atheist" would be on a par with having an 8 year old "Christian" child.

So in that respect, I would not teach anything but the power of critical thinking. This would then hopefully, at the age of 15-18, lead to any child with half a brain leaning towards Atheism. I was lucky enough to make up my own mind just before Dawkin's published his God Delusion, which once I read reaffirmed my belief that I had chosen the right path. I have since read quite a few books on the subject and finally believe I have an informed opinion which I can stand by - and defend a lot more competently than my "religious" friends and family.

JimiTime wrote: »

Personally, i think if you as a parent feel that atheism is important, you'd be neglectful, and pretty much an idiot not to teach your children as such. A parent has had so many years of life. When it comes to spiritual matters, if they have reached their conclusion that for example, christianity, is a steaming pile, then I think it would be irresponsible not to pass on this to your child. Similarly with a Christian. If I was to raise a child, you can guarantee I'm going to act responsibly, and teach him/her about Christ etc.

Yes. Better to teach an infant that dogmatic belief (whatever it is) is important. Better to manipulate their little minds while they are impressionable. How responsible. I think I will instill my child with Marxist ideology, just to see what happens.

Arf, arf...

JimiTime wrote: »

Hmmmm.

You seem to be suggesting I'm contradicting myself. It's convenient how you selectively left out the part where I said I will try to teach them based on facts and evidence. From there they can come to their own conclusions. You wouldn't be religious by any chance? Its just the picking bits out that suit you and ignoring the rest is a familar trend...

robindch

When my own snowflake showed up 2.5 years ago, I thought it would be possible simply to ignore altogether the topics of gods and goddesses, devils, spirits, ghosts, bogeymen and the whole darn shooting match.

Since then, though, I've noticed that there are a lot of adults out there who view it as their solemn duty either to assume the duty without mentioning it, or more often, simply to ignore entirely my wishes on the topic, and fill my child's mind with one kind of religious offal or another. Hell, one member of my extended family even boasted that this was what they'd do knowing full well that I didn't want it.

In such a climate, one doesn't have any choice but to build up her defenses as best one can in the hope, if not the expectation, that she'll be able to deal with it when it does arrive.

It would be great if religious people would respect my wishes as a parent, but it seems that a certain portion of them simply won't.

cls wrote: »

You seem to be suggesting I'm contradicting myself. It's convenient how you selectively left out the part where I said I will try to teach them based on facts and evidence. From there they can come to their own conclusions. You wouldn't be religious by any chance? Its just the picking bits out that suit you and ignoring the rest is a familar trend...

The basis of all religious belief, innit?

robindch wrote: »

When my own snowflake showed up 2.5 years ago, I thought it would be possible simply to ignore altogether the topics of gods and goddesses, devils, spirits, ghosts, bogeymen and the whole darn shooting match.

Since then, though, I've noticed that there are a lot of adults out there who view it as their solemn duty either to assume the duty without mentioning it, or more often, simply to ignore entirely my wishes on the topic, and fill my child's mind with one kind of religious offal or another. Hell, one member of my extended family even boasted that this was what they'd do knowing full well that I didn't want it.

In such a climate, one doesn't have any choice but to build up her defenses as best one can in the hope, if not the expectation, that she'll be able to deal with it when it does arrive.

It would be great if religious people would respect my wishes as a parent, but it seems that a certain portion of them simply won't.

They simply can't.

Handsome Bob

robindch wrote: »

When my own snowflake showed up 2.5 years ago, I thought it would be possible simply to ignore altogether the topics of gods and goddesses, devils, spirits, ghosts, bogeymen and the whole darn shooting match.

Since then, though, I've noticed that there are a lot of adults out there who view it as their solemn duty either to assume the duty without mentioning it, or more often, simply to ignore entirely my wishes on the topic, and fill my child's mind with one kind of religious offal or another. Hell, one member of my extended family even boasted that this was what they'd do knowing full well that I didn't want it.

In such a climate, one doesn't have any choice but to build up her defenses as best one can in the hope, if not the expectation, that she'll be able to deal with it when it does arrive.

It would be great if religious people would respect my wishes as a parent, but it seems that a certain portion of them simply won't.

Maybe you should put your foot down and simply just say "my kid, my rules, my house so if you don't like it you can get out and not come near my house again until you learn some respect."

Flamed Diving wrote: »

Yes. Better to teach an infant that dogmatic belief (whatever it is) is important. Better to manipulate their little minds while they are impressionable. How responsible. I think I will instill my child with Marxist ideology, just to see what happens.

Arf, arf...

Instill marxist ideology just for the heck of it if you want. Doesn't sound very loving that you'd carry out such experiments on your child. What exactly though, does doing things for 'just to see what happens' have to do with my post though?

The point of my post is quite concise, and quite simple. Even to the simple minded I would think.

If you think that all religion is a lie, and that it is delusion etc etc etc. Then it is only right surely, to inform your child of this no? You disagree?

If you think that for example, that Christ is the truth etc. Then it is only right surely, to teach your child as such no?

Surely not to teach your child such things is neglectful? Surely it is idiocy? I can understand someone who is irreligious rather than atheist taking this blasé approach, as they are more 'meh' about it all. However, if you have made the jump to atheism, or indeed Christianity, then surely your child deserves the benefit of your parental wisdom. We surely want whats best for our children? If we are genuine in our atheism or christianity, surely we would like our children to have this wisdom?

BTW. What is the difference between teaching, and indoctrinating?

CerebralCortex

JimiTime wrote: »

...If you think that all religion is a lie, and that it is delusion etc etc etc. Then it is only right surely, to inform your child of this no? You disagree?

If you think that for example, that Christ is the truth etc. Then it is only right surely, to teach your child as such no?....

Ya but Jimi some of us know that religion is a lie

JimiTime wrote: »

If you think that all religion is a lie, and that it is delusion etc etc etc. Then it is only right surely, to inform your child of this no? You disagree?

If you think that for example, that Christ is the truth etc. Then it is only right surely, to teach your child as such no?

No. It is my opinion that children cannot fully appreciate concepts such as god, life, eternity, marxism, etc. Nor is it appropriate to expose children to such concepts as hell, revolution, damnation, the universe imploding, etc.

I think it better to teach them how to ride a bike, be generous (for the sake of being good, not because of fear), how to swim, help them with homework, etc.

Simple and effective parenting. No manipulation. No dogma.

JimiTime wrote: »

BTW. What is the difference between teaching, and indoctrinating?

You teach someone based on facts to which they can and should question and doubt and scrutinize. Indoctrinating cannot be scrutinized or questioned. For example, this is the truth because its written in a big old book, end of story.

Flamed Diving wrote: »

No. It is my opinion that children cannot fully appreciate concepts such as god, life, eternity, marxism, etc. Nor is it appropriate to expose children to such concepts as hell, revolution, damnation, the universe imploding, etc.

I think it better to teach them how to ride a bike, be generous (for the sake of being good, not because of fear), how to swim, help them with homework, etc.

Simple and effective parenting. No manipulation. No dogma.

I totally agree but the problem arises when the child comes home talking about god and heaven and why isn't spot the dog allowed into heaven and crying because they did something bad and don't want to go to hell. Realistically, its not something you can avoid.

cls wrote: »

I totally agree but the problem arises when the child comes home talking about god and heaven and why isn't spot the dog allowed into heaven and crying because they did something bad and don't want to go to hell. Realistically, its not something you can avoid.

I repeat:

I will teach my children that there are very many faiths in the world, and that no one can really know for sure. So just enjoy riding your bike around in circles and don't worry about it until you are an adult and are capable of making these decisions for yourself.

Flamed Diving wrote: »

I repeat:

I will teach my children that there are very many faiths in the world, and that no one can really know for sure. So just enjoy riding your bike around in circles and don't worry about it until you are an adult and are capable of making these decisions for yourself.

Meanwhile other people will be doing a very good job at convincing them otherwise. I'd like to think your method would work though. Do you speak from experience? Do you have kids?

cls wrote: »

Meanwhile other people will be doing a very good job at convincing them otherwise. I'd like to think your method would work though. Do you speak from experience? Do you have kids?

No, but I am in my late-twenties so I guess I should be giving it some thought!