Schuhart wrote: » I don't know if this is a useful thought, but I found myself wondering if we could envisage a Rangers supporter choosing to change over to Celtic (or vice versa). To what extent would we feel that supporting Celtic or Rangers would be a choice? Its not an analogy I'd take into too much detail - but I think it does highlight that there are things that are very much part of our identity, seem unchangeable, that are hard to assign a genetic cause to.
Akrasia wrote: » In the rangers scenario, people support the team because of social pressure. In sexuality, people turn out gay in spite of social pressure.
Akrasia wrote: » Its really not a good analogy. Celtic/rangers is a purely socialised allegiance. (in a sectarian sense) Rangers supporters (in NI) tend to be born into communities that are highly unionist and anti irish, while gay people tend to be brought up in societies and families that are strongly in favour of heterosexual relationships. In the rangers scenario, people support the team because of social pressure. In sexuality, people turn out gay in spite of social pressure. This is either one of two things. A rebellion against the norms of their society, or an outcome that is unrelated to the socialisation process. The fact that so many gay people hide their sexuality must lead us to (provisionally) conclude that it is not a rebellion and is caused by something other than conscious choice or socialisation.
JimiTime wrote: » There are then folk who's sexuality leads them to be attracted to children, animals, and bizarrely enough, objects (there is a woman who 'married' the berlin wall, then cheated on 'him' with a fence ) I sometimes find it confusing when people talk about homosexuality as perfectly normal, yet will consider the above, weird. Surely if ones normal, they all are? Psychologically speaking of course, not talking about the actual actions.
Wicknight wrote: » I don't think anyone's sexuality is "normal", straight gay or what ever, as in it is what everyone else does. One person may like feet, another person may like dressing up a batman outfit. These aren't normal, they are a unique factor in a unique person's arousal When people say homosexuality is perfectly normal they mean it is no worse than what anyone else does. It isn't normal as in it is the same as everyone else (10% of the population is gay, but how of the population dress up as batman or like to get their bottom smacked), it is normal as in it is fine.
JimiTime wrote: » If you feel that having an attraction towards children, animals, objects, the oposite sex, the same sex are all the same, psychologically speaking, then fine, thats consistant.
JimiTime wrote: » You would view sexuality as something that can never be improper in its essence, though in certain scenarios (e.g.children), it must be controlled.
JimiTime wrote: » such a stand would mean that having a sexual attraction to a kid, or a dog, or a wall is psychologically sound. Would this be your view?
Wicknight wrote: » Because in the Judo-Christian tradition inflicting suffering on others close to the person is considered a valid way to punish someone More often than not this lands on the unfortunate wife or children of the person being "punished". We are considered the children of Adam and Eve.
BJC wrote: » And therein lies another outstanding reason why following a Church, any Church is ridiculous...
Schuhart wrote: » That's a fair point, and indeed I would not want to push the comparison beyond the point of strong elements of identity coming from things that would not seem to be genetic. I will risk pushing it just a little further, by noting that within the community that would support either celtic or rangers, individual people still turn out differently. For the sake of argument, as I recall (its a while since I read his book) Brian Keenan would be an example of someone from a Northern Protestant background who embraced a Irish nationalist identity. So, indeed, some people can seem almost driven to reject the expectations that social pressures place on them. But, again, that would seem explicable by factors other than genes.
PDN wrote: » So, a particular interpretation by an atheist (Wicknight) of Judeo-Christian attitudes to sin and judgement is an outstanding reason why it is ridiculous to follow any Church. Priceless.
JimiTime wrote: » I'm talking about the attraction itself, not the action. If you feel that having an attraction towards children, animals, objects, the oposite sex, the same sex are all the same, psychologically speaking, then fine, thats consistant. You would view sexuality as something that can never be improper in its essence, though in certain scenarios (e.g.children), it must be controlled. such a stand would mean that having a sexual attraction to a kid, or a dog, or a wall is psychologically sound. Would this be your view?
Wicknight wrote: » I wouldn't call them the same, more they are all equally different and unique. No one persons sexual preference to a member of the opposite sex is the same as another. We simply create these classification ourselves. Bit like we do with things like skin colour, where we group two black guys together compared with two white guys, even if one white guy is the same height and build as the other black guy. We tend to see straight people as "the same", and heterosexual people as "the same" and paedophiles at "the same". I very much doubt nature works in a similar fashion, whether the sexuality is a result of genetics, environment or what ever.
Certainly. Sexual advances towards children are not bad because of the thoughts in the adults head, but because of the damage they do to the child if acted out with a child.
Not sure I would say all are psychologically sound There is strong evidence that paedophilia is often is the result of psychological damage suffered in childhood, though how this manifests itself in adult life as an attraction to children is not fully understood.
In the case of paedophilia a person having such attraction should seek professional help, for their own well being as much as anything else.
Homosexuality appears to have a biological cause, a genetic root, that can trigger homosexuality in certain (as yet unknown) environments. So it is a combination of genetics and environment.
Akrasia wrote: » It is hard to imagine an Irish nationalist who hates Irish people and is desperately trying to be a unionist but is driven by uncontrollable urges to join sinn fein.
JimiTime wrote: » I meant same as in, acceptable, natural feelings to have.
JimiTime wrote: » Would you say once a paedophile, always a paedophile?
JimiTime wrote: » I don't know about such evidence. I've heard this before, but don't know how true it is.
JimiTime wrote: » Also, there are probably plenty that don't have such backround. If a paedophile hadn't got such a backround, would his attraction to children be psychologically sound?
JimiTime wrote: » For the attraction to children? What kind of help?
JimiTime wrote: » Can you elaborate on this?
Akrasia wrote: » Sexuality is sexuality, it's a sexual attraction to someone or something. There is no morality attached to the chemistry in your body. However, there certainly is morality attached to how you deal with these urges. It is wrong to rape children, It is wrong to take advantage of innocent people for your own gratification (whether you're gay or straight) A mutually consensual relationship between two men or two women is very very different from paedophilia which involves one person dominating a helpless child and destroying their life forever.
Akrasia wrote: » Would you care to give us your interpretation of how 'original sin' isn't in fact punishing children for the sins of their parents?
PDN wrote: » The notion was expressed earlier in this thread that if a behaviour attracts ostracism etc. then it cannot be reasonably seen as a choice. However, I believe that notion is exploded by the example of paedophiles who choose to indulge in behaviour even though it attracts much greater negative societal consequences than does homosexuality.
Wicknight wrote: » That doesn't really support your position, in fact quite the opposite. Why would a paedophile choose to be a paedophile given that society is so hostile towards that behaviour?
PDN wrote: » I see original sin as a consequence, not as a punishment. A child inherits sin, it is 'in our blood' (I am using the term in its normal everyday sense, not scientifically). Therefore we are predisposed towards sinful behaviour.
PDN wrote: » We see similar consequences in that a child of a drug addict is statistically much more likely to become an addict themselves. Indeed, a baby may even be born an addict due to its pregnant mother abusing drugs. That is not a punishment, but it is a consequence.
PDN wrote: » While a child inherits this predisposition towards sin (original sin) it would, according to my understanding of the Bible, be totally wrong to see that child as somehow deserving of punishment for that reason. We are accountable for our own sins, not for those of Adam.
PDN wrote: » People often choose things that attract hostility. As a teenager I often suffered hostility because I wore punk gear. But I'm pretty sure that I wore it by choice rather than because I was in the grip of some uncontrollable genetic trait.
Wicknight wrote: » I imagine you wore it because you got a strong sense of satisfaction out of it. And that is probably due to biology. You decided to act in a manner that gave you satisfaction. But you didn't control what gave you satisfaction in the first place.
PDN wrote: » I think you are conflating two separate issues in this thread: 1. Our sexual behaviour is a choice that we make. We all have different urges and, unless we are mentally ill, we control our urges instead of allowing our urges to control us. 2. Certain sexual urges can be indulged legitimately whereas others cannot. Obviously, as a non-Christian, you will not agree with me as to which urges under point 2 are legitimate or not. However, that does not override point one. Sexual behaviour, including homosexual acts, is a matter of choice.
There is a common belief that one's sexuality is inherent and cannot be changed. That, in my opinion, is a myth. Men who consider themselves as solely heterosexual quite happily indulge in homosexual behaviour when they are incarcerated in prison. We all have sexual urges and those urges can be expressed in different ways depending on our upbringing, environment and our choices.
PDN wrote: » Exactly. Different people get satisfaction from different things. Some people get satisfaction from collecting stamps, or posting annoying messages on internet fora, or eating Mars Bars, or raping children, or cheating on their wives, or robbing banks, or joining the Taliban, or torturing dogs etc. It would be nice if people only got satisfaction from doing morally upright things, but unfortunately that is not the case.
PDN wrote: » We all have sexual urges and those urges can be expressed in different ways depending on our upbringing, environment and our choices.
PDN wrote: » There is a common belief that one's sexuality is inherent and cannot be changed. That, in my opinion, is a myth. Men who consider themselves as solely heterosexual quite happily indulge in homosexual behaviour when they are incarcerated in prison.
PDN wrote: » I see original sin as a consequence, not as a punishment. A child inherits sin, it is 'in our blood' (I am using the term in its normal everyday sense, not scientifically). Therefore we are predisposed towards sinful behaviour. We see similar consequences in that a child of a drug addict is statistically much more likely to become an addict themselves. Indeed, a baby may even be born an addict due to its pregnant mother abusing drugs. That is not a punishment, but it is a consequence. While a child inherits this predisposition towards sin (original sin) it would, according to my understanding of the Bible, be totally wrong to see that child as somehow deserving of punishment for that reason. We are accountable for our own sins, not for those of Adam.
Akrasia wrote: » but the punishment takes the form of disease and death and earthquakes and all the nasty things that god sent unto man after the fall...
AtomicHorror wrote: » Then what in fact you advocate is the suppression of any and all sexual urges that do not serve the purpose of reproduction? Why?
How does the homosexual impinge upon anyone's personal rights in his expression of his desire? Do his actions disregard the agency of his partner? Any comparison (outside of a discussion of the biological workings of sexuality) does homosexuals a great disservice.
PDN wrote: » I'm not quite sure where you're getting these ideas about me. If your portrayal of me were accurate then I would have ceased sexual relations with my wife as soon as I had my vasectomy. That certainly was not, and is not the case.
PDN wrote: » I think you're missing the point. No-one is comparing homosexuality to paedophilia. We are simply using the example of paedophilia to demonstrate the rather glaring loopholes in the "How can you say something is wrong if people are born that way?" argument.