dudara wrote: » He's made a decision about not contacting you and it appears that he is sticking to it. He is making his feelings clear. He doesn't want to talk to you. You need to firmly accept that and stop mooning after this man. Why want someone who clearly doesn't want you? By continuing to focus on him, you are sabotaging any future relationships that you may start.
yearlater wrote: » He won't talk to me so no there's no hope. I've made a fool of myself contacting him loads.
Ronaldo2 wrote: » Ya like everyone else says the best thing to do is to put him out of your head. Heartbreak can turn to obsession. The fact you have been contacting him a lot and he wont get back to you says a lot. I know its a cliche, but things will get better with time. And you will meet someone else prob when you least expect it. However chances of that happening will be much slimmer if you are still obsessing about an ex. Best of luck
Jimmy Bottlehead wrote: » I think you said already that you seen a councellor, but maybe see one again? Or possibly a psychotherapist, if you feel like loving him has become an obsession.
donotworry. wrote: » Hi OP...I know what you are going through...I was going out with my gf for almost 7 years..and broke up over a year and a half ago...at the beginning I missed her so so so much, but lately this has changed from missing her and talking to her to missing having somebody to share those moments with..are you sure you are not confusing the two..I know its hard but you have to move on with your life..Best of luck though..
yearlater wrote: » My ex broke it off with me a year ago and I’m still not over him. I’ve gone travelling, gone out with someone else, got fit, tried counselling, read every self help book there is and still I truly believe I’ll never love anyone like him again. We went out three years and it wasn’t all roses but I always thought he was the one for me and still do. What the hell am I supposed to do? This is really affecting my work and life in general. I just can’t get him out of my head. Am I just crazy? Have been in a long term relationship before and though it took me a long time to go out with someone again I was over the initial heartache in a few months. With this one it just won’t go away. I pushed myself to get out there again but that backfired as I just wasn’t ready. Has anyone else had it this bad? I need to get over him.
No Name McGee wrote: » Its been about five years and I have yet to meet someone that makes me feel the way my ex made me feel. I feel that my true love might have come in my life before I was ready to handle it. Once you realize that your first love is someone that will always have a special place, you learn to accept that and then try to move on with someone else and learn to love them but for different reasons. I think the probablem that I had is the one you're currently having. You feel that there is going to be a moment when you wake up and you no longer love that person--I don't feel that ever happens. The reason why you could move on from other relationships after a few months is because you just really liked those people, but you weren't in love. True love, the real stuff..kicks our asses and never truly disappears.. we just need to open our minds that eventually the feelings for our true love can be contained and that we stand a chance of being able to find true love twice.
yearlater wrote: » Really hoping someone can help me get past this. .
yearlater wrote: » I feel like I've lost myself and don't know if I'll ever find who I was again.
Marksie wrote: » The simple and direct answer is the only person who can do this is you. I think earlier you mentioned you had so muhc to say. Write it down, all of it. Get it into print and out of your head. Even if you never send it to him. At the moment i am picking up that you are your own worst enemy, not allowing yourself to move past, looking backwards, scanning around for signs of him. you simply have to let him go. Why after a year do you not have control over the way you feel? what is he actively doing? Its important to realise that you and only you are responsible for your own happiness or unhappiness...no one else. true love is something that exists in arabic poems, mills and boon and films about large green creatures. you are holding onto the feelings jealously: actually turning what you had into something very unhealthy. Let them go. Have you actually tried asking yourself and looking at yourself, trying to find the bit of you thats smothered in this ?
