Phil01 wrote: » lol sure, its like whenever a guy would approach a girl he would do his best to have a conversation but the girl is just sitting there humming, turning her head not interested, its the whole body language, she will totally ignore u even though u are sitting right next to you.
Tha Gopher wrote: » Humanji- ive worked with enough to know (large multinational firm, its half west european because they require people who can speak the main European languages). Dont get me wrong, there are some absoloutely stunning Italians and Germans there, but there is a large proportion of Italian women with acne (something im not sure i ever seen on an irish girl older than maybe 16, even then its rare) and when it comes to Germans who are overweight, they arent a bit fat like a fat Irish woman. Theyre bulkier built than the tanks that rolled across Europe in the 40s and tbh when you see a new group of staff joining its depressing tbh.
Phil01 wrote: » sure, its like whenever a guy would approach a girl he would do his best to have a conversation but the girl is just sitting there humming, turning her head not interested, its the whole body language, she will totally ignore u even though u are sitting right next to you. Other things include just been out right rude with what they say.
Phil01 wrote: » I can't defend for lads that do this, this is totally wrong and i know lads that do that are just a***oles. But perhaps they do that becuse of the way you dress. I think guys will threat you with respect if u dress respectfully, and not like a s**t. But i dont know what you dress like so perhaps u do dress respectfully...
Phil01 wrote: sure, its like whenever a guy would approach a girl he would do his best to have a conversation but the girl is just sitting there humming, turning her head not interested, its the whole body language, she will totally ignore u even though u are sitting right next to you. Other things include just been out right rude with what they say.
Wicknight wrote: » Well that is probably because they aren't looking to be picked up where as the guys are probably looking for a score or a shag. Irish guys seem to assume that if a woman is out in a pub or a nightclub she is there to be chatted up, probably because guys who are chatting up women are there to chat up women, so they assume everyone else is on the same page. They tend not to approach random strangers, since you can tell almost nothing about the person and you don't know them at all. As opposed to what exactly? If you were sitting on the bus and some person sat down beside you and started talking to you and wouldn't go away and wanted to be your friend, do you think you would go "Wow that is so great, a new friend", or would you go "Get the f**K away from me" Now imagine the person was trying too hard, not particularly interesting or funny and slightly (or greatly) drunk. Or think of it another way, since you mentioned the friends thing, what would you and your mates do if a guy game up to you and started randomly talking to you and wanted to be friends with you in a nightclub? Again would you go "Wow, a new friend"
Wicknight wrote: » If you were sitting on the bus and some person sat down beside you and started talking to you and wouldn't go away and wanted to be your friend, do you think you would go "Wow that is so great, a new friend", or would you go "Get the f**K away from me"
Why should we have to say, "I'm sorry, I'm just not interested". If a guy acted like that with me I wouldn't hang around and I wouldn't need/like him to point out the obvious.
What's a "respectful dress", and do all girls not wearing it deserve a good groping or rapage? What are you, a Muslim?
LadyJ wrote: » OP, I don't think you realise what women have to deal with in clubs. I had a smelly old man start dancing with me last week. I danced away from him and then he came over and tried to offer me money to go home with him. And before anyone says it, I was dressed totally respectably. We get a lot of **** when we go out so it can be a built in reflex to say "p!ss off!"
Phil01 wrote: » they are much nicer about they whole "i'm sorry i dont want to date you" thing.
So girls should go out of their way to save your ego, eh. Maybe you should learn to take it like a man instead?
Phil01 wrote: » Ok i see your point here, but if that is the case the girl doesn't have to go to the guy and tell him to p**s off, which i have seen been done, part of it is to let the guy down gently. Like put him down with his confidence in tacked. Because even when a guy puts on a brave face in front of his mates he still feels the rejection.
Phil01 wrote: » Because thats more polite than be ignorant and saying nothing!! This is excatly my argument and annoyance.
Phil01 wrote: » No they dont have to look like muslims just not looking like out right sluts, because then they will be treated like that. All girls want is to be treated with respect, but if they dont dress like they respect themselves then they wont get respect.
Hellm0 wrote: » A guy coming up to chat up a group of guys is not really a good example.
Phil01 wrote: » I wonder why any guy would find a girl attractive who has a built in relfex to tell guys to p*ss off. I sure as hell wouldnt tell any girl to piss off. If seem' womens heads swell when they get chatted up, this doesnt give u the right to degrade a guy and tell him to p*ss off.
Wicknight wrote: » Again, is it polite to approach random strangers in bars and attempt to talk to them? A lot of people would say no. Its rude. They aren't here to talk to you, nor do they want to talk to you (obviously). So if you aren't being polite in the first place, why exactly is the person you are talking to supposed to be polite back to you? QUOTE] You sound like a great laugh on a night out. Lol why bother going out at all if you don't want to talk to new people. Might aswell juststay in and be ignorant at home no? Alot cheaper that way.
LadyJ wrote: » I sincerely hope this isn't in reference to me.
LadyJ wrote: » I'm not saying I'm rude to all men who chat me up but sometimes I have to be.
hopalong85 wrote: » why bother going out at all if you don't want to talk to new people.
Wicknight wrote: » Why?
Wicknight wrote: » I'd go out with you ...
Wicknight wrote: » You might as well say "Why bother going to the cinema if you don't want to get to know the people sitting beside you"
Wicknight wrote: » Is that a joke? You might as well say "Why bother going to the cinema if you don't want to get to know the people sitting beside you"
Phil01 wrote: » Is it that hard to let a guy down gently...
Ishmael wrote: » I've found most of them to be fairly ok and not as drastically vindictive as pointed out by the OP.
Who gave you any right to decide what anyone else should or shouldn't wear, or how they feel about themselves at any given time? Keep your eyes in your head and your hands to yourself son, and save the semi-religious victorian chip on the shoulder for Father Rafferty in confession.
