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Quickest way you've seen someone ruin their life?

rachelgalvo

Was just watching a YouTube video of an 18yr old girl in the US arrested for driving while drunk. Seemed normal for the first few minutes but when the police demanded to search her car, she threw a massive tantrum for several minutes and had to be restrained.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZ0SARnJMvI

On one hand, I don't feel much sympathy for her but I can imagine how this one incident has completely fucked her opportunities in terms of getting a job, traveling abroad, or even a relationship. Even as a privileged middle class girl, there's no way that her family would ever be able to get rid of all the videos on the internet.

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larrykinney

I started gambling back in November. I was going to a few soccer matches on the continent and couldn't muster up much enthusiasm so I put on a few bob just for fun and excitement. It's now less than three months later and I'm up all night betting on matches in Argentina, Mexico and Brazil. I'm currently waiting for one in Australia to start. I've done this a few times. I'm still in the black money-wise but I'm close to degenerate territory. I've heard a lot of horror stories about people who pissed away fortunes in this manner and I'm getting kinda scared. Certainly an easy way to ruin ones life…

FortuneChip

Gambling. Crypto, stocks, casinos, sportsbook.

Addiction in general is so destructive, but (could get chewed out for this), you can only drink so much, for example, before your body rejects it... you can literally gamble right down until every penny you've ever had is lost, and then you can tap up the bank to help you get some bankroll to try win it all back.

By the time anyone who could help knows about it, like a partner, they too could be unaware that their own financial situation has been decimated.

But Paddy makes hilarious ads, so it's just fun

ittakestwo

You can self exclude from a bookmark so you cant play with them. I love to bet too but if you're betting on matchs you have no interest in like one in Australia it is time to self exclude

Wanderer78

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123175989#Comment_123175989

….get some help right now, oh ive seen this in a more advanced state, its not good, plenty of gambling supports out there, did you have a difficult childhood, as this is a common issue with such addictions?

FortuneChip

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123175989#Comment_123175989

You're in a very fortunate place, in that you can see the behaviour is abnormal, don't be fooled by being the black money-wise, that is a fluke and leads to a hot-hands fallacy where you start to think you're good at this.

Dopamine is what keeps you going from Brazil/Mexico to Australia, then India, eastern Europe and back around again, and it doesn't stop when you're no longer in the black, you'll just get more desperate and up stakes because dopamine doesn't know your bank balance.

At the risk of sounding preachy and as said, self-exclude now. Protect your cards (Revolut has gambling blockers), try GamBan software etc. Just block the access first. Then take some time to evaluate why you're betting on Aussie sports etc, there's more than money here, which people dont always see with gambling, it's already impacting your sleep, and that too starts a chain of destructive events.

phelixoflaherty

https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/against-the-rules/episode-10-anybody-can-win-but-everybodys-gonna-lose

Interesting insight into the industry.

Shower of bastards

worded

Gambling, I found this helped ...

Remove bookmarks and uninstall all gambling aps. The aps are the ruination of families, too tempting. Too dangerous. I've never allowed them on my phone.

Buy one prize bonds a week to satisfy the urge to gamble. You are weaning yourself off the serious stuff. It's just 25 euro a pop

If you have to do the lottery do the in store version, not the ap.

After a few months I forgot some weeks to even get prize bonds.

Gambling is for the thrill, seek healthier ways to get your kicks ...

Ash.J.Williams

Heroin, 8 months ...dead

BrianD3

Ruining one's life usually doesn't happen that quickly and there are generally opportunities to salvage the situation. The scenario described in the op doesn't sound that bad and she hasn't necessarily ruined her life unless she continues with the behaviour.

I can think of one person who ruined their life in less than a minute after making a bad decision. They "borrowed" (more like stole) a motorbike, had very little experience of motorbikes and no helmet. Got a short distance down the road, collided with a car, catastrophic brain injury, survived but severely disabled for the rest of their life.

kippy

Ive seen a few of those traffic stop videos escalating into situations that should have gotten to that level. I'd think that in a lot of cases the judge could be lenient and or the person has a chance to rebuild their reputation.

In relation to destructive behaviours I'd agree fully with all those putting gambling to the top of the list. I've seen it destroy some many individuals and families and unfortunately its worse it is getting. Once upon a time you could only gamble in a certain type of establishment that had set opening times and had some level of simplicity to them. Nowadays every town and village has at least one of these places but of course worse again, 24/7/365 online access to thousands of sites with various different ways to lose money, and again not just the time limited sports books but virtual, casino slots and table games also.

The normalisation of these sites via advertising to the point that young people are getting driven towards them will lead to significant issues down the line.

A lot of the casino type sites are aimed specifically at younger people.

The activities of these sites leaves lots to be desired also. Verification only occurs when you wish to withdraw funds, additional hoops to jump through when withdrawing and slow withdrawal processes all make them scumbags attempting to make it easy to start and continue to deposit but difficult to withdraw.

As others have said you will continue to spend money chasing the impossible until you have robbed your own family, leading onto anxiety, sleepless nights and far far worse.

I don't believe the state do anywhere near enough to police gambling and it is something that requires significant enhancement on, cries of nanny state or not, the state needs to protect it's citizens from these practices!

To anyone dealing with this addiction, my heart goes out to you.

cj maxx

Getting married is a sure fire way to fcuk your life up

Strumms

neighbour of my grandparents. Got an award for saving someone’s life in a near drowning , then ended up in the joy himself for killing someone. He died in the joy in 2022. In the papers years before he was photographed in his tux at the award night… how things unraveled. 😵‍💫

from a newspaper…

“pleaded guilty to manslaughter but a jury found him guilty of murder by a unanimous verdict following a week-long trial the previous month.”

“Xxxxx had been awarded an Irish Water Safety Award in 2000 after he and another man pulled a Bus Eireann driver from the River Liffey.”

“He had helped lift the unconscious driver from a submerged section of the bus after it crashed through a wall at Butt Bridge.”

So literally saved a person from dying, then subsequently murders someone else and dies in the joy.

z80CPU

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123179488#Comment_123179488

Remember this. The bus in the liffey was front page in the evening papers too. I was commuting on Bus Eireann at the time as well.

Ubbquittious

I knew this fella he rammed his life into the ground fairly quickly

https://www.thejournal.ie/cork-garda-ramming-stolen-truck-grand-theft-auto-6625880-Feb2025/

cj maxx

Become an Irish rap band then make political statements against the government just as you are getting traction

Capt'n Midnight

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123179487#Comment_123179487

Shortest sentence in the English language is "I am" The longest sentence is "I do".

Sgt Hartman

A guy I know went to his best friend’s house and stabbed him after they had a drink fuelled argument via text. As a result he’s been locked up for the last 19 years.

cj maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123184986#Comment_123184986

Be sure and let us know how it goes

EmergencyExit

Gambling and booze. Sad thing is it's two of the things most commonly promoted by the media and and celebs. Look at the shite we see like shoving a pint of Guinness into some presidents hand when they visit here everyone laughing thinking it's great crack or the promotion of Cheltenham or other gambling events for free by the media.

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123407959#Comment_123407959

Nah, was because they went against Israel. Had they said nothing about Gaza none of the Tory stuff would have been brought up.

cj maxx

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123410583#Comment_123410583

Maybe , but saying the only good tory was a dead tory didn’t help

EmmetSpiceland

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123410616#Comment_123410616

Oh yeah, and neither is shouting support for terrorist organisations but none of that would be being splashed all over newspapers, tv or radio if they hadn’t gone so far against Israel in the States.

fortwilliam

The manager of the band made an utter fool of himself on Newstalk this morning.

Refusing to answer direct questions, engaging in whataboutery and nonsense.

They are well and truly (In an artistic/showbiz way) dead.

15 mins of fame indeed.

Idiots.

bucketybuck

We all cheered and said "good job" when the UK locked up people who were encouraging riots and hate speech on Twitter last summer.

Either its ok to tell people to go and kill, or it isn't.

The White Wolf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123176180#Comment_123176180

The prize bond is a good idea, never really thought about it as a means to wean off problem gambling.

Bogey Lowenstein

Cheating. A one night stand can torpedo your whole life, esp if you are married with kids, mortgage etc.

Champagne Sally

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123176180#Comment_123176180

I don't know if it's serendipity or what but just seen this news article on RTE which might be of help

https://www.rte.ie/news/business/2025/0507/1511505-bank-of-ireland-gambling-block/

Janet Cooper

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123175989#Comment_123175989

How much would you say you've lost in total?

chrissb8

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123410673#Comment_123410673

As they wear balaclavas and shout "up the RA", who were involved in extortion, kneecapping, racketeering, "policing" their own population through violence and brutality.

I'm not going to dispute the merit and necessity of the IRA, but the fact of the matter is they picked a very specific term for their band name.

Republicanism is a complicated subject, but what isn't is glorifying an organisation that was, at points, largely self serving and not the "noble" cause it purported to be.

Janet Cooper

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123412245#Comment_123412245

What band? I didn't hear this.