If you see a job that needs doing..
Good luck
Heading to casualty with oh, the 4 times we've gone to casualty it's been at the weekend. He was only discharged on Tuesday
Originally not far from there. Also know people in the area if I can help
When I went to bed last night I was thinking of the above posts about illness, death etc.
I posted something similar on F&F about five years ago:
Do the good deed for yourself, your husband/partner and children and make one of the most important and straight forward legal decisions that you can whilst your alive - Go to your solicitor and make a Will, especially if ye have young ones.
Don't think about it - do it.
You can always change it as your family circumstances change.
Conor Pope - the believing consumer's friend. 😀
I reckon they'll break the £1 million mark. They won't be far off it anyway. There's 246 cattle on the catalogue.
I joined when they were selling those 4 high cost heifers.
The others aren't too bad, but still punchy. You can get a few around the 4k mark.
I'm still not sure about calving those big ended heifers. It works for some folk though.
Thanks for the link, I'd a look see for a while. I'm not in that scene but would I be correct in saying that, while its a roaring trade, prices aren't as inflated above normal as regular stock?
Camera angle is sh1te.
You’d be afraid to touch the phone watching it.
Had a bachelor neighbour here that was fair quick on the tongue, got a stroke and it used to drive him silly being able to think of something witty but struggling bad to say it. Have a sister that couldn't face our dad in his last year and a half, he used to get turns, I take am as I find them.
A neighbouring family that kind of had their own language had a house station one spring, when the priest was halfway through his egg the mother says, there's multi the best farmer in the parish, every weekend he seduce's nine or ten cows, the poor priest nearly choked laughing.
Watching only. Not bidding at these prices!
I've two locals on my bollox list from the time my Uncle died, anyway they are stories for another day. The neighbour that looked after the cattle is the one that I posted about that had a stroke two years ago. He is in full time care in a nursing home and unfortunately only one of the neighbours goes to visit him. His speech was badly affected and it's difficult at times to understand what he is saying. Most of the other neighbours are also older batchelor men that possibly don't want to see one of their own age group in that situation or have the confidence to visit him even though we have offered to accompany them.
OH is more zoned in than I am and can get the jest of what he is saying which he repeats back to him so that they are both on the same wavelength, iykwim.
Anyone watching the Jalex sale?
Jalex Jaw Droppers Heifer Sale | Harrison And Hetherington | MartEye
Have a neighbour here I know since playa
school and he has a touch of autism or something along those lines. He was one of the first fellas to ring me about 8am after my mother passed from cancer during the night before. He was awkward out on the phone as usual and finished up by saying how a well known farmer in the area passed from cancer in the previous week too and that he was riddled with it they opened him up rotted with cancer nothing they could do with it anyway good luck. The last thing I wanted to be hearing at the time however I can laugh a bit at it these days.
As the saying goes there is nothing a queer as folk.
My brother passed away last year and there is a neighbour who hasn't really spoken to me right since. I can see by him that he is awkward any time he meets me (I would be talking to him at least once a werk before that) I do kinda feel sorry for him. I wouldn't be great in similar situations myself, as you would be afraid of saying the wrong thing.
About a month ago a lad rang oh asking him to do a run for him in the lorry, it'd be a year or so since he'd done anything for him. Oh told him not atm. Your man says, yes I heard you weren't well and was wondering how bad it is. Like wtf. He's on my list of bolloxes
I took out a copy of his eulogy and see he lived 5 weeks from diagnosis. A funny episode on the day he received his full pension pot cheque in the hospital , was to request the same colleague to help him dress and go out for a pint. As they entered the hotel bar, whom should they see but the fellow who had earlier delivered the cheque. They saw the funny side of how it could be construed.
Gawkers my mother called them, it was covid times so very few visitors anyway.
I think as farmers we don't have the same people communication skills that the rest of the working society has. We have it in school but then as we go back to our own farms and self work, we lose it somehow through not needing it as much. A lot with the farming nowadays being one person bands just don't have time to talk past the pleasantries. Skills are lost then.
Growing up when I used to go to church there was a rota for different readers every month to stand up in front of the church and read out loud in front of everyone a page or two of a reading. I think whoever started off the practice in the first place in the church was just trying to get country people to learn public speaking and reading in the first place and have more confidence for dealing with different situations.
A different situation of that now would probably be the Toastmasters or maybe Lions club.
On the other side you have plenty of eejits in for gossip so they can tell everyone else
Reminded me of myself years ago. We were all out for work Christmas do while one of our gang was at the hospital receiving news that he had only a month. Others visited him in hospital, I couldn't. One evening as we were finishing work, a colleague said - sit into your car, drive to the hospital, don't think about just do it. It was the best piece of advice I ever got. I stayed for hours chatting to him.
I wouldn't expect a visit, oh doesn't want visitors, only us. Which is fair enough . It's just strange , and as ye say he's probably afraid to ask how he is. Different folks Different strokes
That's it in a nutshell. Friend of mine died of cancer last month. She hated having visitors, felt like a bunch of vultures going away feeling much better about themselves after seeing her in the bed too weak to do anything.
Another reason might be that people would be afraid of passing on some other bug, like the flu or covid and the cancer patient not being able to deal with it.
Thoughts and prayers with you Whelan.
Agree what your saying, my mother has been in hospital since early December and nursing home and only a few visitors, got home Tuesday and has had a steady stream of visitors and a couple of people said they hate going to visit in hospitals and hate when people are sick. An Irish thing fear of sickness
When my late Uncle was receiving palliative care at home his next door neighbour never came to see him. The neighbour would put a round bale of silage along the feed barrier either every morning or evening and kept a eye on the cattle. After my Uncle died he told me that he couldn't face seeing him so sick and thin and wanted to hold onto the memories of him when he was healthy.
I know 4 people very sick at the moment. 3 of them really critical. You'd wonder at times. I suppose it's part of getting older.
Id say you’re right. Just not knowing what to say or should they just talk about ordinary stuff, or would that be wrong.
Don't Know what to say, afraid they might say the wrong thing. Hate the awkwardness and sadness of it coming up in conversation. Escapism I guess. Alot of people aren't half as confident as they let on.
I saw it with my own mam being sick or my OH father after he passed away, some people don't know what to say or do and the easiest thing for them is to say nothing and act like everything is fine.
