People who use the Irish language version of their name.
For example, people who were born, christened and registered as Paul Murphy, for example, who start going by Pól Ó'Murachú.
You cant trust anyone who claims to be your friend but cuts contact because of marriage and kids. sure what loyalty will they have to their wife/husband either when you think about it. There is something very off about such people.
"I think smart people stay single".....
Everyone else is an idiot except me.
It makes sense when you think about it logically, especially these days.
some coupled up people seem very angry about single people having this opinion for some reason and just love to have a go at them for it.
pros and cons of single v being married of course but no ties is what makes sense to me, I dont care what other people do but I prefer being single.
Nothing wrong with single people. Do your own thing. Couldn't give a flying feck.
But! Is it jealousy? 🤔
is what jealousy?
Wanting a relationship?
who wants one? 🙄
Get off the dating apps so.
I don't use Dating apps to get relationships.
Agree. Lost a few, gained a few rediscovered some, but by and large don't regret losing most of those that did eventually fall off because real friends are always there. Maybe if people live far away hard to meet up with.
Except one, that is now RIP. Regret that loss every time 😔
You say some 'married' people seem very angry about the opinion you give but to be honest, you come across angry at your married friend and appear to be tarring every married person accordingly.
Its not the most reliable position to be taking..
Live and let live. If your friend has let you down, thats a pity. But you may not be privy anymore to everything that is going on in their life.
That happens, people move on. Some reconnect, others don't. Move on and get new friends, but don't dwell on it
Real friends are always there works both ways. Do you think its acceptable to cut contact with a friend for a few years because you are busy with your kids and then suddenly contact them again a few years later when you have more time on your hands?
I always make sure to text or call back anyone I consider a friend because I always think you dont know what that friend is going through when they reach out to you.
not at all. Just the people who ditch friends for a partner and kids. no problem with married people at all.
In answer to your question, no, I don't think it acceptable not to stay in contact. But its not always possible to live the life you did as a single person when married and your friend is not obliged to either. They have made a commitment whether in law, or any other measure to this other person and by not recognising that you disrespect them and their choices, never mind their partner.
You say you told your friend. Did you listen to what they were saying at all?
I do sympathise ( sorry, if not coming across) because some are very good at keeping contact, others less so. But you cannot take it personally or you will be forever being upset by people.
Accept they are not what you thought they were and concentrate on those friends that do value you and don't take you for granted. The disappointment will fade.
There is a big difference in living the old life you had and keeping in contact in fairness.
what friend? the one I was going to have a word with about the woman he is going to marry? I didn't say anything to him. no point, he wouldnt listen.
Anybody who mentions “thinking logically’ on this particular thread has to be up there in the upper echelons of the tosserti classes.
Jeeeze!!
I don't dwell on it really but it makes me think that no one is really your friend, those so called friends are just users really I think.
Thinking illogicaly is better?
Go with your first impression as the thread title suggests, dude.
Is that too difficult to get your head around?
Good
You would have not kept a friend at all by saying anything against the love of his life.
Look, it is shxxy behaviour not to at least keep in some contact, full stop. I see people who ditch their friends the second they start going out with someone.
They are no loss, believe me, but its very hurtful. In time they will realise that they burnt that bridge, but they mightn't give a damn, because that is who they are.
Those that try to come back and make it up, forgive and move on.
Life's too short.
Being called dude does it for me.
He is gone the minute he gets married anyway so its the same result.
No fcuk that, there is no coming back with me. My best friend took his own life and so my circle of friends should know not to ignore a friend when they reach out, its unforgivable in my book.
My reply to you was more messing than anything. I didn't take any notice of it.
I think people on the Christmas forum are a tad eccentric about Christmas.
If you're a fella and your best pal gets married it's a given your relationship will change. You will spend far less time with your married friend.
The marriage becomes the fella's priority. If there are children they take a lot of time from babies until they leave the nest. Even the amount of time driving them to athletics, football etc. Both training and competitions, games. The married parent is jaded tired most of the time. If you, the single person, can't see this and takes the hump it's pretty narrow minded. Your best friend never made vows with you!
I think single people just put more importance in friendships for obvious reasons.
This is bitter. And not true. You need to look at your expectations of those people.
At the end of the day you are your own best friend. Nobody can make you happy, or sad. That comes from within you. Don't give anyone power like that.
Go back to basics .
Meet one good friend that you know you can talk to, and talk it out, but listen to them as well.
Other people do have needs for someone to listen and accept them, just as you do. Thats not using. But it should be mutual.
Goid luck.
Haha, back at you!
I was thinking you were messing alright but you know the way wires get crossed!
I take every individual on their merits, if they have honesty, kindness and general decency it overcomes practically all the other bits of strange behaviour we all have 😊 Life is too short to be building up negativity about minor things. If Christmas is no.1 for someone, what about it. Shur I love spreadsheets!!
It is bitter but is true I think. A so called friend went to a stag party over his friends funeral.
I wouldn't agree with that. Bad form.
It's more the commitment to your wife and family is going to take precedence. You'll ring the bestie to catch up when you come up for air!
