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IAPI leads by example with its gender balancing act
I haven’t read the full article but noticed this:
Thanks to the support of Diageo, IAPI runs an annual leadership coaching programme, Female Futures Fund, (link here Female Futures Fund) that enables 25 high potential women to learn the skills and overcome confidence issues that might otherwise prevent them from becoming industry chiefs.
Seems sexist:
So it was nearly a relief to find herself in need of a job. For the next decade, she juggled home responsibilities and part-time work in law firms, until a chance meeting in 1984 with an acquaintance who happened to mention “they were looking for a female judge” for the District Court bench.
https://www.irishtimes.com/life-style/people/2022/09/10/judge-gillian-hussey-certain-male-judges-saw-women-as-playthings
(Pay-walled)
“Ask Allison: My fiancé earns four times my salary but insists we split everything 50/50. Should I marry him?”
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”We don’t do any activities together that we can’t afford 50/50 — for example, there were a group of our friends renting a house and because I couldn’t afford to pay 50pc of our costs, we didn’t go even though he could well afford to cover me. I have numerous other examples.”
From the therapist:
”Be specific — explain how it felt when you didn’t go on the trip. Did you feel embarrassed, how did it trigger you?”
This seems quite an emotive way at looking at. The woman might have been able to afford it if she had a better paying job or did overtime; or alternatively spent less. Also it’s hardly the first thing she hasn’t been able to afford in her life. But that is not mentioned.
“When you ask, ‘Is he controlling me with money’, I don’t know — what I do know is that it isn’t working for you and how you want to live going forward. The research on a happy marriage isn’t about it being equitable. In fact, nearly the opposite — the ability of a man to allow his wife to influence him is correlated with a happier marriage.”
“Is he controlling me with money?”
Seems to be an odd way to define being controlled with money (their finances are separate).
Question: My husband and I separated eight years ago and divorced last year.
We were essentially leading separate lives in the years leading up to our divorce and I didn’t apply for maintenance because we both run our own businesses and our children were young adults when we split.
We have ploughed our own furrows for a long time, but now our daughter is getting married and he has suggested we split the costs. This doesn’t seem fair to me as it’s traditional for the father of the bride to pay and also because he has always made more money than me.
I’m thinking of putting my foot down and refusing to pay, but I don’t want to cause animosity in the lead up to the wedding. What should I do?
https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/modern-morals-i-think-my-ex-husband-should-pay-for-our-daughters-wedding-as-father-of-the-bride-41954648.html
So suddenly non-equal traditions there were set at a time when women often didn't work are being sought to be maintained.
I also have to wonder whether the woman might have got the family property in the settlement in which case the ex-husband now has to pay for a second property
A fairly rare story that mentions concern for boys/males specifically
Education
Plan to move parts of Leaving Cert exams to end of fifth year trigger warnings on impact on male students
SEC tells Norma Foley proposal to have first Irish and English papers sat a year early would ‘significantly disadvantage’ male students
https://www.irishtimes.com/ireland/education/2022/08/29/plan-to-move-parts-of-leaving-cert-irish-and-english-exams-to-end-of-fifth-year-trigger-sec-warnings
Why is men dyeing their hair a societal grey area?
When Liam Gallagher posted a selfie on Instagram last week, appearing to sport new blond locks, all hell broke loose.
The snap, taken in Australia, where he’s on tour, and captioned, “Ey, blondie”, was quickly splashed across the tabloids and mocked on social media. It was as if the former Oasis frontman (49) was personally responsible for Ireland’s looming recession.
The politer comments compared him unfavourably to Boris Johnson or a late-1990s Robbie Williams, and said he’d spent too much time Down Under. The next day, Gallagher responded by calling his fans “lunatics” for even imagining he’d actually dyed his hair — it was, he said, “just the light n the sunshiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine ffs”.
The fact remains that, in 2022, when you can choose your pronoun or change your gender, a man merely changing the colour of his hair still causes so much consternation.
https://www.independent.ie/style/beauty/hair/why-is-men-dyeing-their-hair-a-societal-grey-area-41904316.html
Two out of three men will not live long enough to gain from deferring their retirement age to 67
People who defer taking their state pension at 66 under radical plans being worked on by the Government would need to live for decades to get any payback from the move.
The Government plans to keep the state pension age at 66 – but people who continue working beyond that age and put off drawing on the state pension, will get a higher pension when they do eventually retire.
But the payback period for deferring taking the state pension, even for a year, is likely to take decades.
Despite getting a higher pension at age 67, it will take 21.1 years for person to get back the one year’s worth of pension that has been given up.
This means these people would need to live into their late 80s and early 90s to get any value from deferring taking the state pension, according to calculations by a pensions industry expert.
https://www.independent.ie/business/personal-finance/pensions/two-out-of-three-men-will-not-live-long-enough-to-gain-from-deferring-their-retirement-age-to-67-41898846.html
A new one for me in a long line of "women worst affected" claims:
Action needed as inflation hits women hardest
https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/2022/08/01/opinion-remedial-action-required-as-inflation-hits-women-hardest
Your Family
‘There’s nothing like holding your baby in your arms for the first time’
https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-family/2022/06/21/theres-nothing-like-holding-your-baby-in-your-arms-for-the-first-time/
The imbalance in how dads are heard
[..]
https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-family/2022/06/28/imbalance-remains-in-how-dads-are-heard
Online abuse: ‘I was waking up every day to malicious messages from men’
https://www.irishtimes.com/politics/2022/06/28/trolling-of-female-politicians-in-north-depressingly-routine
Only talks about female politicians being victims.
Here's information I once saved:
A significant body of research shows that male politicians receive more abuse than women
https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/perspectives-on-politics/article/three-dimensions-of-gendered-online-abuse-analyzing-swedish-mps-experiences-of-social-media/F52E7389E355C1C78335B44B9E66811E
https://epjdatascience.springeropen.com/articles/10.1140/epjds/s13688-020-00236-9
https://eprints.whiterose.ac.uk/145982/1/1904.11230v1.pdf
While the abuse is different in nature it’s no less pointed or vile- surprisingly, the impact is often greater on men.
We’ve seen this in the protests outside (male)politicians homes. Protests that certain media commentators have sought to shamefully justify. The author of this piece had the opportunity to shine a light on a very real problem, instead they decided to dive into an identity politics sewer. Once again the IT manages to shoot itself in the foot in chasing clicks
look at this artical about teaching about domestic violence in schools
Secondary school curriculum to be updated to address issues like domestic violence and consent (msn.com)
only mention of men and its on the prevention side ,
“We all have a role to play here in the delivery of policy and services and the direction that we can provide, but it’s each and every one of us: each individual, each man, each woman, making sure that we play our part.
then out withe the men bad women victims speech again
Speaking at the launch, the Taoiseach said that misogyny has “no place” in Irish society.
“We all have to be clear with each other, that there’s simply no place in society for misogyny,” adding that there are plans to double the amount of women’s refuge spaces around the country.
so no plans to help men at all
Here's the latest batch of gender-related hashtags/items I have noticed trending for anyone interested (I know some are not)
(Aside: I'm not on Twitter 24/7 of course and don't look back at lists for when I wasn't on)
I also threw in some other posts as I didn't want to post too frequently.
#DomesticViolence
#nowomanleftbehind
#SaveWomensSports
#MuslimWomensDay·
March 27 marks #MuslimWomensDay
#NotOurCrimes
Telegraph Life
Spain is to become the first Western country offering 'menstrual leave'
#MenToo
#AbuseHasNoGender
On Father's Day no less:
Platform by Metro.co.uk
Neither my wife or I have relationships with our dads - so when we married we took our mums' names
#HeForShe
Didn't trend but I thought I would mention:
Twitter ad:
https://twitter.com/bpfinews/status/1489493928411869185?s=21
https://twitter.com/theeconomist/status/1499715657910435846?s=11
#ReadIrishWomenChallenge22 (this may have trended?)
#OUTBELIEVE
Sky are a proud partner & supporter of our Women's National Team
Promoted by Sky Ireland
Women-only initiative:
The Loyola Institute TCD has announced the details of two scholarships for women interested in studying theology.
https://www.jesuit.ie/news/scholarships-for-women/
International Day of Girls and Women in Science
Groups for men and women I came across:
The Defence Forces Women’s Network
Irish Women Lawyers’ Association (IWLA)
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‘There is an awful lot more we can do to make the RNLI more welcoming for women’
https://www.independent.ie/life/there-is-an-awful-lot-more-we-can-do-to-make-the-rnli-more-welcoming-for-women-41737402.html
Gender pay gap reporting is coming into effect. Here’s what you need to know
https://www.irishtimes.com/sponsored/department-of-children-equality-disability-integration-and-youth/gender-pay-gap-reporting-is-coming-into-effect-here-s-what-you-need-to-know-1.4882796
Sponsored by Department of Children, Equality, Disability, Integration and Youth
An Post has taken a number of actions on foot of the data. These include the introduction of software to eliminate gender bias in job descriptions and working towards having gender-balanced shortlists for senior management roles.
Eleanor Nash of An Post: ‘You have to be fully committed to the bigger picture and to dealing with more difficult issues and full transparency around those issues’
The organisation also introduced skills training for all employees preparing for interviews internally. And it has launched Aspire, its female talent acceleration programme to support women across the business in career planning and network building.
“This builds confidence and helps women further their careers,” says Nash. “We also launched our internal mentoring programme for female managers to support them as they continue their career at An Post. These initiatives are now business as usual for us and we are focusing on building better representation of females in postal operative roles across the country.”
So a scheme by a company helping only women is being held as being good. And I wouldn't be surprised if there is some "positive" discrimination.
Women seem to be their own worst enemies when it comes to closing gender pay gap
Lower salary expectations and poor negotiating skills, even among students, mean women are accepting gender pay disparity as a given
https://www.irishtimes.com/business/work/2022/06/17/whats-holding-women-back-when-it-comes-to-closing-the-gender-pay-gap
Though men perhaps have lower expectations of the working conditions they may have e.g. the expectation that they might have to work long hours, work in a dangerous and/or dirty environment, etc.
The State’s human rights watchdog has again accused An Garda Síochána of engaging in racial profiling.
https://www.independent.ie/irish-news/an-garda-siochana-engages-in-racial-profiling-un-told-in-report-by-human-rights-watchdog-41746196.html
The latest claims by the Irish Human Rights and Equality Commission (IHREC) were made in a report recently submitted to a UN committee.
It contains over 100 recommendations and raised concerns over many issues.
These include “the ongoing failure of the State to take full accountability for Ireland’s long and dark history of institutional abuse, the continuing and widespread discrimination faced by Travellers, [and] ongoing deficiencies in the State’s response to gender- based violence”.
IHREC also recommended the extension of gender quotas for elections, to ensure at least 40pc of election candidates are women, and measures to support the political participation of under-represented groups.
Modern Morals: I’ve kept a ‘runaway fund’ secret from my husband. Should I give it up for life-saving treatment for his sister?
Should I tell him about it and help out?
https://www.independent.ie/life/modern-morals-ive-kept-a-runaway-fund-secret-from-my-husband-should-i-give-it-up-for-life-saving-treatment-for-his-sister-41738229.html
I can't remember the specific details but I recall it being suggested that men shouldn't have a fund like this.
Yet in this article all sorts of good reasons are given why it is acceptable for a woman to have one.
Might have posted this before but when my firs son was born my wife suffered complications, she's fine , and so I was always a very active father; bribgbing the kid to doctors and generally having him hanging out of me 24/7.
One day I was doing the shopping in Dunnes and smelled a nappy change was in order. Went up to the toilet block expecting the usual disabled/baby changing toiled and finding nothing of the sort. I went down to the customer service desk and enquired for the baby changing areas location. "It's in the ladies toilets "
I changed him in the back of my Jeep after telling them they were treating me unfairly due to my gender.
Also
As a Doc who delivered babies for 25 years, I was always vague about blood type discrepancies. My motto was always that the man at the delivery is the Daddy. 😊
yeah, my dad is a retired genetic counselor. He often worked with families where it was impossible for the dad to be the father. awkward indeed.
https://twitter.com/rsneedphd/status/1532901431757398017?s=21&t=yf3HNQVeWNsR9WlVuza7bw
My teacher friend had to stop doing blood typing in class because more than once a kid could not have the blood type they had with their presumed parents’ blood types.
I vote we go back to doing them because if they're old enough to be conducting blood exams they should know if they aren't bio related to their parents!!!
https://twitter.com/radicalvenus/status/1533111433809887234?s=21&t=yf3HNQVeWNsR9WlVuza7bw
My kid is working on genetics. Just did a test on mom dad and kid. Results came back dad is not the dad. Doc said I'll just say that the dad's sample couldn't be run for some reason
https://twitter.com/biervicki/status/1532900087550169093?s=21&t=yf3HNQVeWNsR9WlVuza7bw
I’m a psychiatrist and I’m here to say the direct approach is probably best for most patients. “It’s most likely that you did not father this baby,” and leave it at that. You don’t have to convince them of this but you should say it at least once, clearly and concisely.
https://twitter.com/portorhinosaur/status/1533071007426039808?s=21&t=yf3HNQVeWNsR9WlVuza7bw
Popular thread on Twitter and some replies:
The most awkward situation in urology occurs when a patient who is a few years post vasectomy comes in requesting a repeat semen analysis because their partner just got pregnant & the SA shows zero sperm & the patient is like, "wow I guess the child is a miracle." 😬😵💫
One of the most awkward moments in Pediatrics is when you discuss jaundice and ABO incompatibility with a newborn’s parents, and discover that both parents have the same blood type.
https://twitter.com/danielledunetz/status/1532879163119509504?s=21&t=oWV2wpFXAb_VtlrxEuNucw
This is why my biology prof in college stopped doing blood typing in class. Too many questions.
https://twitter.com/outragedinks/status/1532884480205238273?s=21&t=oWV2wpFXAb_VtlrxEuNucw
Maternity is a matter of fact, paternity is a matter of faith
A forensic dentist working on 9/11 remains said this happened, too, in the early days of establishing protocols for organ donor screening of family members. So, to identify DNA of victims of 9/11, only matrilineal DNA was used. Avoided embarrassing revelations.
https://twitter.com/lauraminer100/status/1532869933222207488?s=21&t=oWV2wpFXAb_VtlrxEuNucw
As we say in our neighborhood: Mommy's baby, Daddy's maybe.
https://twitter.com/auntyalias/status/1532890937038213120?s=21&t=oWV2wpFXAb_VtlrxEuNucw
In my high school biology class we did a simple test to find out our blood type.
That is no longer done because too many children had blood types that could not have come from their biological parents and that led to parental drama and even violence.
True story.
Not nearly as awkward as being required by law to withhold the information that the child is not biologically his, yet he'll be financially responsible for the child for a minimum of 18 years.
https://twitter.com/rationalmale/status/1533098365054947328?s=21&t=oWV2wpFXAb_VtlrxEuNucw
Huge thread so plenty of other tweets on the subject.
https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/parenting/i-m-the-only-man-at-parent-and-toddler-groups-mothers-can-be-odd-about-it-1.4882010
‘I’m the only man at parent and toddler groups. Mothers can be odd about it’
Two fathers discuss what they enjoy most about their role as stay-at-home dads
“I enjoy their company and find them fascinating – the only thing which can be a bit strange is that I’m always the only man at the playground or parent and toddler groups. Some of the mothers can be very odd about it and while most are fine and will at least say hello, there is always one or two, who nearly clutch their children to them as if they think I’m going to do something.
“This makes me sad and angry – I’m a father with my kids and have as much right to be there as they do. I know there aren’t as many dads looking after their children as there are mothers – but those of us who are, shouldn’t be made to feel unwelcome. People need to realise that dads love their kids too and the days of them just being the bread winner are long gone.”
‘Fathers can feel out of place in creches or playgroups’
Child psychologist, Peadar Maxwell agrees and says while the number of fathers in full-time care roles is still quite low and many may feel outnumbered and out of place in female-centric environments, it is important to try and overcome any feelings of awkwardness as their children will
benefit from their involvement.
“Fathers can feel out of place in creches or playgroups but I would advise them to try to get used to those environments and would ask others in those settings to make an effort to be inclusive and welcoming to fathers trying to figure a new parenting role,” he says.
“It is very healthy for children to see their parents embrace some fluidity in their roles and fathers are very capable at fulfilling the emotional and care needs of their children; if they make an effort and if the other parent encourages their partners.
https://youtu.be/mzXkbJwrN38
Fight a bit of old school with some old school
Listening to BBC Radio One earlier on a show presented by Jordan North and Jordan was describing going away on holidays with his parents at some stage and how his mum would complain about people claiming sun loungers and get her husband to challenge people who had done it. He wouldn’t want to do it and she’d say “call yourself a man, do you?”. It’s maybe something that should be taught to boys, how they should respond to such tactics.
Just looking through my LinkedIn feed and this was part one of the top items in my feed with 3800 reactions.
#redundancy #redundant #womeninbusiness #womenentrepreneurs #womenatwork #womenbusinessowners #womenentrepreneur #womanownedbusiness #womanentrepreneur #womanceo #womanbusinessowner
I think if a man had a similar list of hashtags or even one involving man/men he’d get a lot of negative comments.
lord above you need help
A little over 18 months ago, Longford-based solicitors Fiona Baxter and Breege Mimnagh formed the country’s first almost exclusively female law firm specialising in criminal defence.
Baxter Mimnagh Solicitors, which also specialises in medical negligence cases, has already doubled in size since opening its doors in October 2020.
The firm has a staff of nine – four solicitors, three legal executives and a head of accounts, all of whom are women. The ninth member of staff is the only male, a trainee lawyer.
“From early on in my career, when I first met Breege while working in the same courts, she taught me that the most effective approach when dealing with a male client who is agitated and in your face is to use female logic to dial down the situation.
“As a mother with a family, you can see the two sides of the case. Your personal experience colours everything you do and the feminine touch brings that extra degree of empathy.
“It isn’t really an accident that we are an almost exclusive female practice: we all work better together, which is in the best interests of the clients,” Ms Mimnagh says.
https://www.independent.ie/news/glass-ceiling-broken-but-challenges-remain-a-female-led-solicitors-team-on-criminal-defence-volatile-clients-and-abuse-of-the-system-41616068.html
I wonder whether somebody in a senior position of a mostly male practice would get a soft interview like this.
Generally agree. Though I’m not sure we know for definite there are no changes in hours worked for men and women between 5 and 10 years after graduation? But as you say the difference in weekly earnings could be mostly or all due to differences in fields of employment and the like.
It really wouldn’t though, not least because of the fact that the article constantly refers to graduates, without mentioning what the graduates actually studied, or the fields of employment they pursued after graduation. But we can look at the data which explains why the discrepancy of €125 exists between men and women graduates, based upon their course choices, and their career choices after graduation -
Figure 4.2 shows median weekly earnings for 2010 graduates one to ten years after graduation for male and female graduates. Median earnings among all graduates increased from €425 per week in the first year after graduation, to €660 per week after five years and to €960 after ten years.
In the first five years after graduation, median weekly earnings for 2010 graduates remained broadly similar between male and female graduates. Five years after graduation, male graduates earned €15 per week more than female graduates. However, after ten years this difference increases to €125, with male graduates earning €1,040 per week compared to €915 for female graduates.
https://www.cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-heo/highereducationoutcomes-graduationyears2010-2019/whatdograduatesearn/
There are notable differences for 2019 graduates in the distributions of male and female graduates across the various NACE sectors in the first year after graduation.
For women that graduated in 2019, the most popular NACE sector in the first year after graduation was 'Health & Social Work'. Five times the number of women worked in this sector compared to men, with 2,900 female graduates employed in 'Health & Social Work' compared to just 600 male graduates. There were also twice the number of women employed in the 'Education' sector compared to men, with 2,400 female graduates working in this sector compared to 1,100 male graduates.
Sectors in which there were more male graduates employed than females include 'Finance & Real Estate', 'Industry', 'Professional, Scientific & Technical Activities', 'Information & Communication' and 'Construction'.
The difference in distributions of male and female graduates across the various NACE sectors is a clear reflection of the preferred fields of study for male and female graduates, which are outlined in the Chapter on Background Statistics. For example, 30% of female graduates from 2019 had studied either 'Education' or 'Health & Welfare'. On the other hand, these fields of study accounted for only 10% of male graduates in 2019. Together, these reflect the differing employment rates for male and female graduates working in the 'Education' and 'Health & Social Work' NACE sectors.
https://www.cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-heo/highereducationoutcomes-graduationyears2010-2019/wheredograduateswork/
Nowt to do with career breaks (even involuntary breaks in employment affect both men and women equally in terms of their opportunities to get back into employment), or working part-time or working reduced hours or longer hours. It’s simply that men and women gravitate towards different career opportunities and make career choices that suit themselves and their families.
Obviously an aim of Government is to achieve full employment in the labour market, but whatever way they try to introduce measures to force women into the labour market by way of trying to convince them it’s for their own good, generally speaking those ideals only appeal to a tiny minority of a certain type of feminist, who are hell bent on notions of gender equality, with no regard for the fact that in families, parents aren’t competing with each other in employment - they decide what works best for them and their children as a family, regardless of idealistic notions about gender equality.
Yes, my single sentence certainly didn't fully explain my reasoning.
One thing to keep in mind is this is an earnings gap, so if women on average decreased the hours that they worked (with some working similar hours and some with reduced hours) while men did not reduce their hours (or even increased them a bit), that alone could explain an earnings gap at 10 years that didn't exist at five years.
10 years after graduating, many men too will have had at least one, and not infrequently, more than one child. I don't think your intention was to relegate the importance of fathers roles in their children's lives to the status of a mere sperm donor, but that's the effect of what you're arguing as an explanation for the discrepancy in earnings between men and women. In reality of course, beyond the gender wars, both men and women become parents at a similar age - 30 (up 3 years from 27, the average age 10 years ago). The discrepancy in earnings in employment is a tad more complex than can so easily be explained away by pregnancy and motherhood, or fatherhood for that matter - I'm sure you can think of areas where your idea of emphasising thhe importance of motherhood, overlooking the significance of fatherhood, might have a negative impact on decisions which affect fathers and their children...
There are a couple of different factors influencing the discrepancy in earnings between men and women, but the most influential factor is that men spend more time on what are called 'promotable tasks', whereas women spend more time on what are called 'non-promotable' tasks. On that basis it stands to reason that men are more likely to be promoted than women, coupled with the fact that men are more confident in putting themselves forward for promotion than women. It's not because they're men (or fathers for that matter, who out-earn men who are not fathers!), and it's not because they are women, but it's because of the different roles and responsibilities and tasks they take on, leads to opportunities for promotion based upon performance, which is a more valuable and tangible metric for organisations, than any idealistic notions about diversity.
MEN 40 PERCENT MORE LIKELY THAN WOMEN TO BE PROMOTED IN MANAGEMENT ROLES - Engage Employee
Why men get more promotions than women | theHRD (thehrdirector.com)
The Real Reason Your Male Colleagues Get Promoted Faster And How To Fix It (forbes.com)
Women in IT More Likely To Be Promoted Than Men, Study Finds | News & Events (rpi.edu)
