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Housemate making food and noise late at night

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I posted not too long ago about my housemate behaving erratically. That has calmed down a lot and I believe it was due to stress. So all has been well and she’s been totally normal, so to speak.

However, she is still up late at night making food. I asked her if she could maybe not cook at 3am as we have a small apartment and it wakes me. She confided that she has “a bit” of an eating disorder, and she sometimes binges. But she won’t cook late at night anymore.

But she still is, and it drives me absolutely mad.

It’s her apartment too though and I’m taking her binging into consideration, so am I out of line expecting her not to be up making food and washing dishes (along with banging doors) at 2 and 3am?

It just doesn’t feel very fair when I’ve to be up at 7am and I’m becoming really annoyed about it.

Thank you.

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Tork

You aren't obliged to help or like your friends' friends. How many of us can honestly put our hands up and say we like all of them? You are looking for every excuse under the sun not to give this woman her marching papers but it's not going to solve this problem. This woman is not a good flatmate and if the rental situation was different, she'd be better suited to living on her own. Maybe that's why she comes to life when you're in bed - it gives her the chance to live as if she has the place to herself. Your relationship with her sounds like that of a primary school teacher repeatedly telling their class to be quiet. It works for a while but the noise always starts back up again.

If your mutual friend was saddled with a flatmate like this, do you think they would tolerate it for long?

Big Bag of Chips

If your friend doesn't know what this friend is like to live with, then she'll understand, and probably apologise for asking you to let her move in.

If she does know, and didn't tell you, well then she's not much of a friend

Rubberchikken

She's more trouble than she's worth. If you want a peaceful night in your home then do the sensible thing and ask her to leave.

You don't owe her anything. Yes probably tough having an eating issue but the sheer lack of awareness for anyone else is inexcusable.

Galbin

I have a sleep disorder and used to have an ED too. So I do eat later than other folks. However, I would never disturb anyone by cooking that late. She can put a microwave in her room or get a mini fridge. You shouldn't have to be kept awake.