sporina wrote: » OP sorry that this has happened to you.. you deserve better - this reflects badly on her - not you! Shame on her. I really think you should just delete her from your phone and move on. I would not be giving her another chance.. your better than that - and she won't respect you for it either.. Maybe you need to be a bit more assertive. You said you have been burnt in the past.. well she has burn't you once - don't give her the chance to do it again... I'd say that she has just chose someone else or something.. you said she has you blocked from chat etc.. that speaks volumes.. implies its deliberate.. Hold you head up.. realise you deserve better and move on.. go easy on yourself And yes, as someone else said, when dating on line, you gotta have a tough skin.
YellowLead wrote: » Oh and please un follow her on Instagram!!!
Johnnytractors wrote: » Hey, all form on contact has been deleted. Last year I was with one who was 33 and was seeing her for 4 months, she wanted a child, site build a house, car and get engaged all within a year. I didn’t know her well enough to settle down just yet to commit to all that in life so she got the bullet
YellowLead wrote: » Well fair play to you. Jesus Christ no wonder guys are freaked out dating women in their 30s lol. I went on a date recently and the guy said to me you are the first women in her mid 30s that has not asked me whether or not I want kids on the first date!
Leg End Reject wrote: » I'm going to post this but don't want you to reply, just think about it. Are you inexperienced or have you been single for a long time? Do you live alone? Farming is solitary by nature and all our social outlets are restricted. I think you've gotten too invested in this woman, and far too soon. You were texting a lot, but very few in person meet ups. She obviously didn't feel the same way. Her way of cutting ties was awful, but you shouldn't feel this upset after a few dates. Maybe take a break from online dating and work on your self esteem, you need to stop letting others decide your worth. You'll only sell yourself short.
pgj2015 wrote: » some women in their 30's will settle with absolutely anyone.
Normal One wrote: » Maybe she's dead.
YellowLead wrote: » Do you really see the not blocking on Instagram as a positive??? A - she might have forgotten he followed her. B - she doesn’t want to lose a follower, it’s a numbers game for some people, esp if they want to grow their list and start earning. Blocking somebody with no word of explanation after a few weeks of daily chats and even a few in person meetings is unbelievably childish and disrespectful. I’d nearly forgive the having sex with the father thing over ghosting/blocking!
Johnnytractors wrote: » As you say, more than likely I got invested too soon. Lesson learnt and she obviously didn’t see it working out. Lesson learnt for the future
B.A._Baracus wrote: » Little apples and all that. Just think with your brain and not your head if she ever gets back to you. Many, and I mean many a man has been ghosted only for her to message later when she wanted a pick me up - then thought he could work for a shag rather than just saying on your bike.
[Deleted User] wrote: » WhatsApp is private as well. So she’s stopped him from talking to her except publicly.
Ubbquittious wrote: » You are paying for a piece of paper from MeHole's posse. If two people like each other they have no use for such a thing. If they ever wanted to get out of it they stand to lose a lot. Lawyers need to be paid and such. Better to just do without
Johnnytractors wrote: » Not boasting but I have always been in a relationship growing up. I see my friends of mine who after school stayed at home to stay farming are gone as odd and quare as there own parents now.
Mango Joe wrote: » Sorry to hear that OP - Being ghosted after a good few dates is a real kick in the teeth because by then most people would be all starry-eyed and making plans for the future in the warm romantic glow etc. Of course you feel terrible in the aftermath and wonder what you did, or should have done etc. The reality is that you've dodged a bullet and thankfully are never going to have a house, mortgage, children and overall inseparable life with a piece of %&£* human being that's as shallow as saucer of piss and has the integrity of a Slug. Start working on meeting a decent Woman who'll stand by you through thick and thin and have your back when you need support.
Mimon wrote: » Don't think you've read the room very well. OP doesn't come across as the sort of person just out for a shag.
Johnnytractors wrote: » Hey you are right. Never had I had a one night stand. I have more respect for women so I do. Maybe it’s the fact I have 7 sisters and I would hate if they got abused or used... I dunno
[Deleted User] wrote: » Hopefully you didn’t ghost her.
Leg End Reject wrote: » These bits stood out to me. Are you self-conscious about being single or viewed as odd? Do you rush in relationships because of this? You should enjoy being single and meeting women for the experience, rather than where it might go. Worry about the latter after a few months.
YellowLead wrote: » Do you really see the not blocking on Instagram as a positive??? A - she might have forgotten he followed her. B - she doesn’t want to lose a follower, it’s a numbers game for some people, esp if they want to grow their list and start earning.
Hammer89 wrote: » It is a positive. If she wanted to cut off contact with him forever then she would've blocked him on every possible platform. She didn't forget that he followed her and she isn't scared of losing a single follower. Neither of those theories carry much weight I don't think.
Ubbquittious wrote: » It has nothing to do with that. If you're so good at it you certainly have no need for MeHole's expensive piece of paper Society has changed a lot anyway since the concept of marriage was invented. Back in the olden days people depended on their partner more heavily. There more chores to do and they took a lot more time. A lot of people would have been well and truly stuffed without someone to bring in the turf, cut logs, do the washing and cook the dinner. Now you can happily sit behind your laptop ordering all your food online, house heats up at the press of a button, there's a machine to do all the cleaning. So now the partner only exists for the shag and a bit of company.
Ubbquittious wrote: » Ah shur tis a bit of an outdated romantic notion, invented with the best of intentions of course but sadly society has become a lot more shallow. People like the €30,000 party, the romantic idea behind the whole thing... God bless em. Then split up in a years time when it turns out yerman wasn't finished tindering yet. Maybe they can fully automate the process where you can get married by each scanning a QR code and divorced by scanning a different one. Would save a lot of heartache and prevent a lot of the legal profession from getting easy money
yourdeadwright wrote: » No offence OP but the whole fact that thread is here probably vindicates her in her actions Sounds like you came on to strong and scared her off, Maybe she thought you seemed desperate She possible thought the easiest thing to do was ghost you and seen as you where that upset over it you started a thread she may have been correct, Learn from and next time take it easy and don't go in head first so quickly Its ok to be enthralled with someone it happens to us all but sometimes it helps to keep that to yourself at the start creates a bit of intrigue , Of course I could be talking total nonsense but you will know yourself if you came on a bit to strong ,
YellowLead wrote: » Fair play. We’ve all had one experience like this no doubt - and once we learn from them it just makes us more resilient going forward which is a very good thing.Don’t invest too soon is absolutely the best piece of advise with online dating so once you have copped that you’ll be grand.
California Dreamer wrote: » Did you bother to read the previous 14 pages?
badabing106 wrote: » Have a few beers on weekend and then start sending messages to see if you can rekindle anything
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