JoChervil wrote: » I think it is more about leaving a space to breathe. I always escaped from men, who were too intense too soon. I felt suffocated...
YellowLead wrote: » Exactly. I think it’s the same across both genders. If somebody is trying to be too intense too soon you worry why they are so full on - I hate to say the word desperate, but it can come across like that. Now sometimes of course there are a pair in it and when one of them cops on the other is left thinking wtf.
Johnnytractors wrote: » Thanks for your reply and sorry to hear you have been ghosted in the past. Something happened but I would love to know what? I have got burnt in the past and I don’t want it to happen me the future again. Hope you are doing well after it happened to you
pgj2015 wrote: » Ghosting is a good reason never to get married. people loose interest very easily these days. I could never commit to someone, who knows how they will feel in a year or 2. I don't love you anymore, see ya, then you loose the house and end up in a tiny flat. fcuk that.
Oops! wrote: » Can i ask what part of the country this girl is from?
Wallet Inspector wrote: » Because that's a guarantee?
Hammer89 wrote: » Here's your problem OP: The country is locked down and therefore there's quite a lot of limitations when it comes to traditional first date options. A walk along the pier is nice and so is a hike of some description - I don't know where you brought her quite honestly - but if your dates happened during the day then that, combined with the fact you did something outdoorsy right off the bat, doesn't lay the foundations for much romanticism I don't think. I think after both of your dates, she probably started viewing you as a friend more than a potential partner. There's two pieces of good news though. 1) She didn't block you on every possible platform, which means she wants you to have a way to get in touch. It wasn't an oversight that you're not blocked on IG.2) When the country opens back up, I think she might agree to go on a real date, but - and this is key - only if you leave her alone from now until then. Don't message her until the second or third week of lifted restrictions. Good luck.
pgj2015 wrote: » No but its not worth the risk. I reckon divorce is going to go through the roof in Ireland in the next 10 to 20 years.
Ubbquittious wrote: » A lot of risk for feck all reward
pgj2015 wrote: » And then what? he should come running? don't let her play you for a mug op, if she ghosted you once, she will do it again.
Hammer89 wrote: » Sure. Why not. It's not like she had sex with his father or stole his car. She blocked him on Whatsapp, which is harsh, but it isn't something I'd consider one last coffin nail in the blossoming relationship, especially considering she hasn't blocked him on Instagram.
The DayDream wrote: » That's way too early and often for someone you just met and a lot of women hate it when a fella is overly keen at the start and will lose interest if you're available to text morning noon and night.
Wallet Inspector wrote: » What reward should there be? It confers kin, family status... if two people really like each other and it's right for them (rather than being resentful and suspicious towards an entire sex).
Ubbquittious wrote: » You are paying for a piece of paper from MeHole's posse. If two people like each other they have no use for such a thing. If they ever wanted to get out of it they stand to lose a lot. Lawyers need to be paid and such. Better to just do without
YellowLead wrote: » Not everybody sucks at picking a life partner.
Ubbquittious wrote: » It has nothing to do with that. If you're so good at it you certainly have no need for MeHole's expensive piece of paper Society has changed a lot anyway since the concept of marriage was invented. Back in the olden days people depended on their partner more heavily. There more chores to do and they took a lot more time. A lot of people would have been well and truly stuffed without someone to bring in the turf, cut logs, do the washing and cook the dinner. Now you can happily sit behind your laptop ordering all your food online, house heats up at the press of a button, there's a machine to do all the cleaning. So now the partner only exists for the shag and a bit of company.
YellowLead wrote: » The shag and the bit of company not to mention the sharing of parenting (if that’s what people are doing) is exactly what people sign up for. Not to mention mortgage. Everyone is entitled to do what they like and I don’t care if people want no wife or 10 wives - but it’s a bit ridiculous to say marriage has no place in society, just because it’s not something YOU want. Anyway...this is majorly off topic.
