Discussion on sexism

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

I see that comment as talking about 2 people who are scamming a system that’s there to help those who have nothing. I don’t see it as a comment against all women.

No one agrees with anyone scamming a system, but speaking about people using crass sexually derogatory terms are not in the spirit of discussions and add nothing to the forum.

Princess Calla

Just putting a theory out there.

It is entirely possible that you have a group of male friends in the 18-25 yr old bracket give or take, who all know each other's users names....they could all be sitting in the same room.

When these topics come up they have a competition within the group as to who can come up with the best insults cause the most drama in the thread.

The more they see people getting wound up the bolder they become.

They thank each other's post, quote each other's posts giving the perception that this is "society" speaking when really it's probably a group of wind up merchants having a few cans getting a kick out of the indignation of posters.

There's a mantra of "don't feed the trolls" for a reason.

Personally I think if you don't like what someone is saying don't quote it, just report it and move on... once wind up merchants see they aren't getting a reaction they will get bored , especially when their "witty one liners " get deleted without a fuss.

Tokyo wrote: »

No problem. it can be done here.

With respect to an update on the actions to promote inclusivity - if you are asking if there is a mission statement that I can simply cut and paste from and say "this is what we're doing now" - there isn't.

That being said, Boards should never be a place where people have free rein to torment others. We wish to foster an environment where everyone is welcome to engage, discuss, argue and share. It's obvious that we can - and should - do more. Conversations such as the one you describe in TLL do get carried across to the mods forum, and the admins forum. We (posters/mods/admin) may not get agree all of the time on every aspect of how the site is run, however the most important aspect of Boards is that we are a community. The conversations that take place on sexism, misogyny, racism, transphobia and so on may not result in an instant list of bulletpoint rules, but it does mean that we can no longer say we didn’t know how many of our community, directly or indirectly, have been affected by these issue. So the moderators decide to take a stricter line as to what is unacceptable.

I have seen evidence to support this as of late, particularly in CA given the nature of the threads it attracts. We're nowhere near 'there' yet, and the conversation is an ongoing one, as it should be. That may not be the exact answer you came to this thread looking for, and I am happy to post on it further tomorrow (it's just gone 11pm here and I've spent the last few hours addressing this thread alone). I'm certainly open to further discussion though.

No, I do appreciate your feedback.

To be honest, I havent seen the same evidence as you've referenced - the woke thread for example is still used to bash minorities, but that is not to say it's not happening. Again, comments could be removed before people even know they are there, so that could be part of it.

When you've posters as seen here who view the gravel donkey type comments as juvenile or just a different opinion and ok to post without actually acknowledging they are toxic, sexist, offensive, then it is clear that there is still quite the way to go.

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anewme wrote: »

You think it's ok to desk about women like this?

F***ing gravel donkeys need new faces and bodies never mind tits.the state of them.fannies like a punched lasagne prob

I see that comment as talking about 2 people who are scamming a system that’s there to help those who have nothing. I don’t see it as a comment against all women.

Strawberry Milkshake wrote: »

As a woman I didn’t take offence at the posts.

You think it's ok to desk about women like this?

F***ing gravel donkeys need new faces and bodies never mind tits.the state of them.fannies like a punched lasagne prob

anewme wrote: »

@Tokyo, thanks as well for the feedback on this thread.

I’d also like an update on the actions to promote inclusivity as a result of TLL thread and the concerns raised there.

Can it be done here or is another thread needed?

No problem. it can be done here.

With respect to an update on the actions to promote inclusivity - if you are asking if there is a mission statement that I can simply cut and paste from and say "this is what we're doing now" - there isn't.

That being said, Boards should never be a place where people have free rein to torment others. We wish to foster an environment where everyone is welcome to engage, discuss, argue and share. It's obvious that we can - and should - do more. Conversations such as the one you describe in TLL do get carried across to the mods forum, and the admins forum. We (posters/mods/admin) may not get agree all of the time on every aspect of how the site is run, however the most important aspect of Boards is that we are a community. The conversations that take place on sexism, misogyny, racism, transphobia and so on may not result in an instant list of bulletpoint rules, but it does mean that we can no longer say we didn’t know how many of our community, directly or indirectly, have been affected by these issue. So the moderators decide to take a stricter line as to what is unacceptable.

I have seen evidence to support this as of late, particularly in CA given the nature of the threads it attracts. We're nowhere near 'there' yet, and the conversation is an ongoing one, as it should be. That may not be the exact answer you came to this thread looking for, and I am happy to post on it further tomorrow (it's just gone 11pm here and I've spent the last few hours addressing this thread alone). I'm certainly open to further discussion though.

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As a woman I didn’t take offence at the posts.

@Tokyo, thanks as well for the feedback on this thread.

I’d also like an update on the actions to promote inclusivity as a result of TLL thread and the concerns raised there.

Can it be done here or is another thread needed?

banie01

@Tokyo,
Appreciate the effort to provide feedback re: the thread deletion and the mod actions.

The effort the mod team put in on that thread is to be commended particularly over a holiday weekend.

The discussion of live cases is a long standing rule and it's a fair way to avoid the Dubai too until judgement is passed.

Regarding the sexism, it's not a fight I have or want a dog in.
But, be prepared to be accused of just kicking the can down the road.

The thread has been deleted as it's still before the courts - the parties involved were remanded to appear at the District Court at the Criminal Courts of Justice on Friday 9 April.

That being said, I spent the last couple of hours going through the thread and the reported posts that resulted from it to see where we could perhaps do better.

In all, there were 61 reported posts generated by that thread. Out of that 61, 30 of those posts had a mod action applied to them to some degree. The majority of the reported posts had been dealt with by 6am and I actioned another 7 that were presumably generated since then. Two posters received straight up bans - 1 permabanned from the forum for the 'gravel donkeys' comment and the other banned from the site for being a straight up troll. Of the remaining 24 reported posts that weren't actioned, I 100% concur that they were spurious reports, the vast majority from a poster who themselves received a mod action in the thread and was presumably being petulant to the point where I'm considering further action for abuse of the reported post function.

To summarise:

61 reported posts
37 actioned
2 users banned.
21 remaining unactioned RPs predominantly from one pissed off poster.
91% of which was taken care of before 6am.

I'm not denying that sexism exists on boards (or indeed society as a whole) and we can all do better to make boards a more welcoming place all round. There's a much bigger conversation to be had on that, but starting a thread on the topic predicated on the premise that mods aren't doing anything to deal with this is unfair to say the least on the mods who are trying to do precisely that.

Based on the OP I have to admit I was expecting to see that mods had been busy IRL due to easter weekend - the numbers above say otherwise. So the complaint then becomes one of not being happy with *how* the offending posts are being dealt with and seemingly you can't keep everybody happy.

What I can say from an admin perspective is that I went through every one of the reported posts in that thread to date and I have no issue with the mods decisions to delete certain posts, card others, combination of delete and card yet others. Would I have made exactly the same choices? Across 61 reported posts, absolutely not, and that is to be entirely expected. The broader issue of sexism notwithstanding, I'm kinda baffled as to what more people are expecting from a volunteer team of moderators in the middle of the night?

pwurple wrote: »

I report umpteen posts, some are deleted , some not, none carded, no comment or censure on the thread. My own posts remain, leaving me looking like a lunatic complaining about fresh air.

Respectfully, your 'own posts that remain' were having a crack at moderation of the thread. Which is not allowed sitewide. Perhaps don't do that in future.

banie01 wrote: »

Has that whole thread just been nuked?

Yep, just checked my posts and they're gone. It seems us women are sacred cows.

ETA: It's been clarified that the case is before the courts, so I got my udders crossed.

banie01

Has that whole thread just been nuked?

pwurple

That thread is not the only example, you can also note the thread I started in LL on the same topic, and a few concerns raised with moderators on the same topic on each of their fora.

In each case I have been told there is a discussion ongoing in the background.

I’m simply asking for the results of that discussion. What is the policy now?

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sydthebeat

I think the boards wide policy of moderators deleting posts without notification or indication is a terrible action for this whole forum.

Posters who have had posts removed are not notified that their posts are removed (I've experienced this myself).
Therefore I don't see the point, as the posters behaviour wont change...

Also, posts which are replies to "fresh air" look off Topic and ridiculous.

Who came up with this as an acceptable moderation action???

It's obviously not a full thought through policy

Dr Turk Turkelton

Dublin Lad2021 wrote: »

To be fair to OP this happens a lot, the posts about the Girl that ran from the cops were similar and disgusting

Is that the same girl that set up an only fans page and when it was leaked across all the porn sites on the Internet the man who had no clue as to what she was doing with their intimate videos was unwittingly unmasked?
Hopefully the new revenge porn laws that were brought in are used to their fullest extent against her.
As a matter of interest what is your opinion of her?

Bubbaclaus

Dublin Lad2021 wrote: »

To be fair to OP this happens a lot, the posts about the Girl that ran from the cops were similar and disgusting

To be fair, if that had been a male that had set up an OnlyFans like a day after a garda chase, and proceeded to sell videos of themselves having sex for a tenner, plenty of comments would be made about it too.

Dublin Lad2021

To be fair to OP this happens a lot, the posts about the Girl that ran from the cops were similar and disgusting

Leg End Reject wrote: »

We just have differing opinions, it doesn't mean that one of us right and the other is wrong. Discussions wouldn't happen if we all agreed.

We have different opinions agree, but racism/ sexism/ homophobia have clear definitions and the example I posted clearly is sexist.

anewme wrote: »

No, they are 100 percent misogynistic and sexist.

Excusing them as juvenile is as good as condoning them.

We just have differing opinions, it doesn't mean that one of us right and the other is wrong. Discussions wouldn't happen if we all agreed.

Leg End Reject wrote: »

But just are there are differing opinions they are different reactions upon reading posts.

To me they're juvenile comments rather than misogynistic and sexist comments.

No, they are 100 percent misogynistic and sexist.

Excusing them as juvenile is as good as condoning them.

But just as there are differing opinions they are different reactions upon reading posts.

To me they're juvenile comments rather than misogynistic and sexist comments.

Theres different opinions and then there is abuse. This is one post I reported, which was subsequently deleted.

F***ing gravel donkeys need new faces and bodies never mind tits.the state of them.fannies like a punched lasagne prob

Above post thanked by other posters who share that view.

Loads of posts about tits, their looks, they should be minding their kids etc.

These posts are not different opinions, they are misogynistic and sexist. Removing them is allowing it to look like people are imagining things.

Many of the women who posted in The Ladies Lounge thread are not posting in the Dubai thread. I wonder is it for the reasons outlined in TLL thread and Ladies fashions thread?

For balance it should be noted that many of the posters on that thread are women, and do not share these concerns.

So, some women see misogyny and sexism, while others see criticism of the actions of the 2 women involved, but not that the criticism is linked to their gender.

Any discussion forum requires differing opinions to remain viable, otherwise it will become a safe space where dissent isn't allowed. An oft-used response by feminists is that women "Do not have a hivemind", yet it seems differing opinions are unwelcome.

Point noted on the timestamps Tokyo.

The bigger issue how this thread is allowed to stay open. Constant references to tits, diddies, Micky money, social welfare, bashing and many other derogatory comments about their looks.

Some of the posts are downright disgusting.

I doubt it anyone agrees with the actions of the women in question. But the thread is used to push hatred.

I would also like to have an update on the admin review following the concerning number of women who came forward on the unfettered sexism thread in the Ladies Lounge.

Also maybe more as a question in general on moderation, some posters get cards, while other posts are just deleted as if they were never there, do the posters get cards when their posts are removed. It appears on the thread pwurple referenced, that the people highlighting the poor behaviour get carded, while the bad posts get deleted with no record. In the interests of transparency is there a record of posts deleted?

I'm also asking for the policy as per Pwurples request.