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Gaslighting

Away With The Fairies

Has anyone ever had this done to them?

Just horrible behaviour thrown at you and when you point out how hurtful and nasty their behaviour is they make up excuses that don't make sense and no genuine apology. Or an apology but no change in the behaviour. Then if you react badly at all, they blame your reaction and turn it around on you.

What is wrong with these people?

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TuringBot47

Are you sure you're not imagining it?

HAMMERCURRENT

They probably have mental health issues or a personality disorder and cannot control this behaviour.

COVID

Ignore them, they're away with the fairies.

Away With The Fairies

TuringBot47 wrote: »

Are you sure you're not imagining it?

Such a gaslighting question.

.anon.

Away With The Fairies wrote: »

Then if you react badly at all, they blame your reaction and turn it around on you.

You need to calm down. Total overreaction, as usual.

chrissb8

Away With The Fairies wrote: »

Such a gaslighting question.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Absolutely. More than once. Best reaction is to call them out on it directly. You just sit back and ask, "tell me, do you gaslight people often, or am I the first?". Of course, they'll deny it, at which point you say, "the fact that you don;t recognise it indictaes it's the former".

Done.

Sky King

That oul gaslighting went out when the electric came in.

TuringBot47

In fairness, I had to look up what "gaslighting" meant... I thought it was when people ignite their own farts.

[Deleted User]

The routes of it are probably poor self-esteem and jealously along with no insight into themselves.

Away With The Fairies

mariaalice wrote: »

The routes of it are probably poor self-esteem and jealously along with no insight into themselves.

Absolutely

JeffKenna

Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »

Absolutely. More than once. Best reaction is to call them out on it directly. You just sit back and ask, "tell me, do you gaslight people often, or am I the first?". Of course, they'll deny it, at which point you say, "the fact that you don;t recognise it indictaes it's the former".

Done.

Or the fact they don't recognise it could mean you're gaslighting them?

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

JeffKenna wrote: »

Or the fact they don't recognise it could mean you're gaslighting them?

Wouldn't rule it out

- the trick is to get them on the defensive.

irishblessing

Toxic people are the worst.

Alejandro68

How did they come up with this term gaslighting?

valoren

Alejandro68 wrote: »

How did they come up with this term gaslighting?

From a play and the movie adaptation of it.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light

ILoveYourVibes

Yes ....but it backfired on them BIG TIME.

Don't worry about it op ...karma sorts those people out. Just move to a happier climate.

ChikiChiki

Away With The Fairies wrote: »

Such a gaslighting question.

Username is apt.

valoren

Milhouse: Remember when he ate my goldfish, then you said I never had a goldfish? Then why did I have the bowl Bart? WHY DID I HAVE THE BOWL?!

An exemplary example of gaslighting.

ILoveYourVibes

ChikiChiki wrote: »

Username is apt.

Then she is happier than most.

ILoveYourVibes

valoren wrote: »

Milhouse: Remember when he ate my goldfish, then you said I never had a goldfish? Then why did I have the bowl Bart? WHY DID I HAVE THE BOWL?!

An exemplary example of gaslighting.

Look goldfish are easy to kill.

Kids don't stand a chance.

There is a gaslight at the end of the tunnel.

gigantic09

valoren wrote: »

From a play and the movie adaptation of it.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gas_Light

The original British movie from 1940 is on u tube. Well worth a look for any fan of old black and white cinema.

Kylta

Alejandro68 wrote: »

How did they come up with this term gaslighting?

Named after a film with the same name, which contains the actions of what gaslighting is all about. An old movie too if im not mistaken

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

valoren wrote: »

Milhouse: Remember when he ate my goldfish, then you said I never had a goldfish? Then why did I have the bowl Bart? WHY DID I HAVE THE BOWL?!

An exemplary example of gaslighting.

Well if that is what you think, I've got something to tell you. Something that may shock and discredit you. And that thing is as follows: I'm not wearing a tie at all.

katiek102010

Alejandro68 wrote: »

How did they come up with this term gaslighting?

It's from a hichcock film. The husband tries to make the wife think she is insane. He starts by turning on and off lights and trying to convince her that she has done it.

The lights were gas, hence the phrase. Its the first time psychological abuse was publicly addressed as a form of domestic abuse

COVID

katiek102010 wrote: »

It's from a hichcock film. The husband tries to make the wife think she is insane. He starts by turning on and off lights and trying to convince her that she has done it.

The lights were gas, hence the phrase. Its the first time psychological abuse was publicly addressed as a form of domestic abuse

Hitchcock didn't direct 'Gaslight'.

Alejandro68

It just makes me think of a person lighting the gas lanterns in the 1800's.That you see in the old films. I was just curious how that meant something more modern and political.

Mad_maxx

my father was very adept at " gaslighting "

katiek102010

COVID wrote: »

Hitchcock didn't direct 'Gaslight'.

My apologies, I was convinced it was Hichcock

COVID

katiek102010 wrote: »

My apologies, I was convinced it was Hichcock

No probs, it was a 'psychological thriller', so his type of film.