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Employer cost me new job with false reference.

stormlover27

So I work for a family run business, I work a minimum wage job, in the food industry so nothing serious.
The job has got to a point where is damaging me mantally and physically as the bosses are just so toxic and undermining. They always have something to say. Have even threatened to fire me over tiny ridiculous things. Like too much chicken in a wrap type ridiculous. I needed to get out for myself, it's no debate. I've even had to go to the doctor because Im havinh sever panic attacks every morning! My boss is a bully. My Co workers all feel the exact same and we all want to leave
My coworker had handed in his notice a day prior, keep in mind. This wasn't planned, he just happened to get an interview and be offered a new job that was in his preferred industry, so he took it.
So I handed in my notice last night at the end of my shift and my boss literally lost it. She started laughing and accusing me of conspiracy. She said I had planned it with my other Co worker just so they would be left stuck and would have to close early. She got really personal, calling me selfish and saying I only think of myself and that It was extremely ****ty to do.
The horrible thing is I had to ask for a reference. Which my new job is subjet to...
When I asked she laughed and said to use her that she knows my new employers well.
She ended up dismissing me, telling me to leave or else she won't stop.
She made this job living hell for me! She can't be surprised I'm leaving!
Just the other day I had forgotten to display a name tag on one of our ingredients and she said if I didn't cop on, me and my Co worker (who left) can feck off and find new jobs!
To say I'm shocked would be an understatement. What can I even do here. I need to work here for the next week and I'm scared to go in today and meet her husband, who I'm sure is going to have it out with me.
What can I do if they make my last week living hell? I can't afford to walk out. There's too much money at stake.
Can they give me a bad reference out of spite? If so is there anything I can even do about it?
All replies appreciated.

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touts

stormlover27 wrote: »

So I handed in my notice on Thursday, another person from my department handed theirs in on Wednesday and my employer has become resentful. I had a job offer, lined up ready to go. She said it was pending on my employers refence, which should have been perfect since I worked my ass off and never called in sick, took days off or even booked any holidays the entire time I was there! I was dedicated. And my employer loved me up until this point.
But since my potentially new employer spoke with my current employer, the potentially new employer has decided to take back their offer based on the reference I was given.
This is slander right?
Also, my employer is trying to force myself and the other employee to work past our notice dates, to cover them so they don't have to close early. She said '' I don't care where you are, what you have going on or if you think you're not legally obliged to. One of you is finishing the week'' obviously I'm not going to. She bullied me and cost me my new job. The other employee isn't going to either as they start their new job almost immediately.
She said some really nasty things to us both about how everyone is disgusted with us and how our parents would be ashamed and how ungrateful we are etc etc.
How can we get out of this? We need to work until the end of our notices to get our holiday pay and first weeks pay. I feel like she's trying to bully us into walking out so she doesn't have to pay us.
What can I say to her to tell her no without an explosive argument erupting?
I'm scared to go to work today and face her but I really need the money.

A job that relied on your current employer giving you a reference? That's odd. Anyway you should have asked for the reference and locked in the new job before handing in your notice. And it seems you and your colleague basically want to leave immediately which would probably completely screw up her business. I'd love to hear the employers side of the story.

Either way valuable lesson learned. Don't set fire to your bridges until you are sure the bridge you are on has been completed.

JeffKenna

You need to think of your next job here. Do you have other references you could use or someone else in the company you could use as a reference in the future? This would impact any course of action you take.

stormlover27

So I handed in my notice on Thursday, another person from my department handed theirs in on Wednesday and my employer has become resentful. I had a job offer, lined up ready to go. She said it was pending on my employers refence, which should have been perfect since I worked my ass off and never called in sick, took days off or even booked any holidays the entire time I was there! I was dedicated. And my employer loved me up until this point.
But since my potentially new employer spoke with my current employer, the potentially new employer has decided to take back their offer based on the reference I was given.
This is slander right?
Also, my employer is trying to force myself and the other employee to work past our notice dates, to cover them so they don't have to close early. She said '' I don't care where you are, what you have going on or if you think you're not legally obliged to. One of you is finishing the week'' obviously I'm not going to. She bullied me and cost me my new job. The other employee isn't going to either as they start their new job almost immediately.
She said some really nasty things to us both about how everyone is disgusted with us and how our parents would be ashamed and how ungrateful we are etc etc.
How can we get out of this? We need to work until the end of our notices to get our holiday pay and first weeks pay. I feel like she's trying to bully us into walking out so she doesn't have to pay us.
What can I say to her to tell her no without an explosive argument erupting?
I'm scared to go to work today and face her but I really need the money.

_Brian

Your getting a poor reference now no matter what.

I’d walk. I’ve been in management 20 years and what’s happening there is madness.

You’ve literally nothing to loose

OMM 0000

Sounds very rough stormlover.

Try to keep some perspective on your last week. They can't physically hurt you. All they can do is make fools of themselves and further reveal how sick (mentally ill) and unhappy they are. Pity them. Realise they are failures.

They may give a bad reference in the sense they give very plain, unenthusiastic replies to things. There's not much you can do about this except not use them as a reference. Can you use someone else?

Jim2007

stormlover27 wrote: »

Can they give me a bad reference out of spite? If so is there anything I can even do about it?

It's a crappy situation to be in, but keep in mind it will soon be over...

The last time someone made a suggesting that I'd get a bad reference... I just said 'Hmm legally, that could turn out to be very expensive for you if I don't get a new job'.... After a few hours thinking about it he decided that helping me find a new job was now his priority... you could always make a similar comment if it comes up again.

PukkaStukka

OP, you should have gotten a reference elsewhere and had a firm offer in the bag before handing in your notice.

But hey, you cannot put a price on your mental health and dignity. F**K them.

dubrov

It's a tough situation but your best chance is to be honest with your new employer about the situation

Misguided1

Talk to your new employer and tell them that because 2 of you resigned at the same time, your employer has reacted badly and is unlikely to give a reference. Offer a character reference. It won't be an issue so don't worry. Good luck in the new job.

Potatoeman

If you’re that stressed don’t go in. Leaving out an ingredient is actually pretty serious in the food industry. If someone has an allergy they could die. Use a reference from a previous job if need be.

Del2005

antimatterx wrote: »

They legally can't give a negative one.

There are many ways to give a bad reference without it being negative.

I'm surprised that the new company has offered the OP a job and is looking for a reference after the offer, especially since most companies only give a basic reference these days.

Mrs OBumble

antimatterx wrote: »

They legally can't give a negative one.

They can, provided they tell the truth.

If your new employer knows her, then s/he probably knows what she's like.

seamus

antimatterx wrote: »

They legally can't give a negative one.

They can. There is no law prohibiting a bad reference.

You can sue for defamation if what they say about you is untrue (or can't be proven), but there is no law which makes it illegal to give a bad reference.

antimatterx

SmartinMartin wrote: »

They will not give you a glowing reference anyway, so finish up now by going sick with stress from bullying. That'll keep them quiet.

They legally can't give a negative one.

SmartinMartin

They will not give you a glowing reference anyway, so finish up now by going sick with stress from bullying. That'll keep them quiet.

dennyk

You've already given notice; your boss no longer has any power over you whatsoever. Go in, do your job, be calm and professional, and don't respond to or feed into their drama. Don't worry about the reference; if your boss is that type of person, she's going to take your leaving personally no matter what, and there's nothing you can do to change that regardless, so there's no sense in getting worked up about it.

[Deleted User]

Pull a sickie for the last week. Fúck her. Sounds like she deserves to be left up shít creek.

Also. Get another referee.

Odelay

Just move on, those type of people love chaos and drama. You’ll find another job with a reasonable employer easily.

Samuel T. Cogley

Just explain, politely and calmly that you were told to 'feck off and find a new job' so you did.

Don't let bullies get you down, it's only words. I know that's easier said than done.

If they do give you a bad reference, consider taking legal advice re defamation, although it does sound as if you've made mistakes / not taken the job overly seriously.