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Have you texted your ex?

bitofabind

I thought this was just a funny instagram meme at first. And then I started hearing from random guys I've had everything from a relationship to a "thing" with in the past. All along the lines of "hey, how are you? Thought I'd check in to see how you are during these strange times..." It's been three so far.

So like, what's the dealio with this? None of them were what we'd call acrimonious breakups, each grand enough lads, but it would just quite simply never occur to me to get in touch with any of these fellas, leave the past where it belongs in the past like. I could be in solitary confinement with just one number in my phone and it could be one of them and I'd still be like, nah you're grand thanks.

Anyone else heard from their ex / exes since lockdown? What's the craic with this? Boredom to the point of scaling through your dating history to see who you can have a pop at?

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andekwarhola

Ashleigh1986 wrote: »

Mate there's no such thing .

There actually is. We can just agree to differ.

The White Wolf

bitofabind wrote: »

Anyone else heard from their ex / exes since lockdown? What's the craic with this? Boredom to the point of scaling through your dating history to see who you can have a pop at?

Fair play to those lads if they're genuine, it's nice to be thought of I guess.

I've been tempted but I tend to leave the past where it is these days. There's one in particular who I'm worried about as she's a nurse, but ah....when I look at it with the blinkers off, personally for me it's bit of a cringey thing to do. That's just me.

Purple Mountain

rapul wrote: »

Haha touché, and I hear from my ex everyday, sharing a child has that effect!

Snap.
The rest had their numbers deleted long ago.

Idbatterim

Yeah texted her , told her several seconds of fun, is better than no fun ...

Idbatterim

Yeah texted her , told her several seconds of fun, is better than no fun ...

Ashleigh1986

andekwarhola wrote: »

I'm on friendly terms with a handful of my significant exes. Not actively hanging out, but interact sometimes on social media or drop the odd email or text.

I'd be far more wary of my wife telling me who I was allowed to talk to then her being in occasional innocent contact with exes.

Occasional innocent contact with exs ...???
Mate there's no such thing .
There's a reason why one ex all of a sudden contacts another ex .
You cannot be that naive .
Like i said ... " major red flag " .

andekwarhola

Ashleigh1986 wrote: »

No chance .
Don't beleive in " just been friends " with exs .
It's one of my major red flags if I start dating a girl .
If she is still in contact with her exs .... Fxxk that !!!
Life is way to short for their mind games .
Drama queens still in touch with their exs is my idea of hell on earth .

I'm on friendly terms with a handful of my significant exes. Not actively hanging out, but interact sometimes on social media or drop the odd email or text.

I'd be far more wary of my wife telling me who I was allowed to talk to then her being in occasional innocent contact with exes.

Widdershins

Ashleigh1986 wrote: »

No chance .
Don't beleive in " just been friends " with exs .
It's one of my major red flags if I start dating a girl .
If she is still in contact with her exs .... Fxxk that !!!
Life is way to short for their mind games .
Drama queens still in touch with their exs is my idea of hell on earth .

I tried to be friends with my crazy and dangerous ex. I just thought we could do things differently...instead of harbouring bad feelings.

My ex boyfriend still "kept in touch" withhis exes-on the site he met them on

I think that is a bad sign. They're greedy.

Ashleigh1986

No chance .
Don't beleive in " just been friends " with exs .
It's one of my major red flags if I start dating a girl .
If she is still in contact with her exs .... Fxxk that !!!
Life is way to short for their mind games .
Drama queens still in touch with their exs is my idea of hell on earth .

the.red.baron

Grab All Association wrote: »

My ex fiancée probably texts me more than my new girlfriend does. 3 year relationship where she was unfaithful twice. Despite blocking her numbers (same phone number since 1997 so I’m reluctant to change it and why should I?)

Despite numerous complaints made, An Garda Síochána only care if it’s a man harassing a woman in this country. Great sexist little country where you are a 3rd class citizen for health, housing(home owner thankfully), discrimination etc because you have a penis.

I just block block block these days and my phone is always on silent anyway. Takes her longer these days to accumulate SIM cards. Narcolepsy and excessive sleep helps too. And there’s the reason why she was unfaithful.

assuming it's true

i'm sure the po po are going to take you very seriously when you can't be bothered changing your number, so it can't be that bad

they hardly take death threats from men to women seriously here, so you will be well down the list

jesus wept you have a terrible time with the sexism

job seeker

No! I’m still on read from that Facebook message I sent on the 8th of October 2019..

PoisonIvyBelle

I've texted "exes" who I'd normally be in touch with anyway, I use the term loosely as I mean people I dated and ended up being friends with. But I haven't text any of those exes you might have in your phone under "do not text!" - thankfully! There's one my mind always comes back to now and then but I only have to remind myself of our last encounters to stop myself from contacting them.

I've had 2 texts from exes that I wouldn't normally talk to, asking how I'm doing. One was an obvious bid to reel me back in, but the other was genuine enough and just checking in.

I've friends getting these texts left, right, and centre though, so it's definitely a thing.

Widdershins

No, I'm deliriously, ecstatically in love with my fiance.
Sent ex an email just before lockdown, though.
Needed to exorcise some demons of his creation.
The silly fecker.

Actually come to think of it, texting your ex doesnt have to be about wanting them back.

B.A._Baracus

Augeo wrote: »

Bursting for their hole. Willing to venture over the 2km.

This :pac:
100% this.

It's when someone gets horny and thinks well I was shagging them before. Maybe if I threw them a sly message I might be on for a ride.

PmMeUrDogs

cj maxx wrote: »

All three were looking to get laid !

The last one wasn't, we've been on very good terms in the decade since we broke up! His fiancee checked in on me, too!

[Deleted User]

I have checked in with my most recent ex. We broke up before Christmas. I don't have numbers for the rest of them and I haven't heard anything and don't expect to.

cj maxx

PmMeUrDogs wrote: »

Three checked in. Two were looking to get laid, one was just checking in cause he's a nice man.

All three were looking to get laid !

Grab All Association

My ex fiancée probably texts me more than my new girlfriend does. 3 year relationship where she was unfaithful twice. Despite blocking her numbers (same phone number since 1997 so I’m reluctant to change it and why should I?)

Despite numerous complaints made, An Garda Síochána only care if it’s a man harassing a woman in this country. Great sexist little country where you are a 3rd class citizen for health, housing(home owner thankfully), discrimination etc because you have a penis.

I just block block block these days and my phone is always on silent anyway. Takes her longer these days to accumulate SIM cards. Narcolepsy and excessive sleep helps too. And there’s the reason why she was unfaithful.

[Deleted User]

Yes, but we're still friendly and I'd have texted a few friends to make sure they were getting on okay. Particularly those living far from their families.

Jenneke87

No. I don't have numbers and not a lot of exes so.....There is someone I'm still very fond of and would like to text, but his level of disinterest is such that I'd only be embarrassing myself so, no. No texting and no-one texting me..

Your Face

I avoid these scenarios by making sure my break-ups are as harrowing as possible.

Bang and the dirt is gone.

Feisar

I've txtd one but she's in the same boat as myself, married with a baby. Would speak to her on and off anyway.

Trigger Happy

All my Exes live in Texas.
And there is no phone coverage there.

jimgoose

Oh Jesus no, talk about a sleeping dragon... :pac:

Immortal Starlight

I don’t text psychopaths.

Pherekydes

Nope. Don't know her number. Mind, she did leave me in 1989, so probably not much point.

andekwarhola

Still waters wrote: »

Why would anyone do this

Alcohol

Leg End Reject

Like Bertie, the past is a foreign country, and one that doesn't merit a second trip.

I'm indifferent to my exes and wouldn't like to hear from them again.

Still waters

Why would anyone do this, it seems a little desperate to me, are people that much in need of a pat on the head and a little ego bump

[Deleted User]

I haven't texted any exes, and don't intend on doing so. The past is a foreign country, possess the tiniest bit of resolve to leave it there. Catching up with friends and acquaintances from the present however. Perhaps a little more than usual, however it's good to have a natter now and then with traditional social outlets cut off.