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When will men get liberated from gender roles?

mr_fegelien

60 years ago, any woman who would have worn trousers would have been laughed at like a man wearing skirts in modern times. Today, women wearing pants elicits no response.

Women also can take up STEM subjects, don't have to get married, can act masculine, are leaders of countries etc...

Yet men are still ridiculed for wearing feminine attire, choosing careers like nursing, etc..

Why is this? When will men "women up" and not be afraid of showing their feminine side?

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s7ryf3925pivug

I'd be more concerned about what happens to fathers in the event of separation.

[Deleted User]

My concept of gender is fixed, not fluid. Thanks for asking.

One eyed Jack

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Yet men are still ridiculed for wearing feminine attire, choosing careers like nursing, etc..

Why is this? When will men "women up" and not be afraid of showing their feminine side?

Because men in women’s clothing look ridiculous, and people aren’t afraid to show their disdain for such nonsense. Men are ridiculed for taking low-paying ****e jobs because they’re expected to be capable of more. Men don’t have a “feminine side”, they’re men - masculine. Men are expected to behave like men and not behave like women. Why should men who want to behave like women expect people to accept that sort of behaviour?

I don’t think anyone is “afraid” to show their feminine side or their masculine side. I think they’re fully conscious that there are social standards expected of them and nobody in society can simply be who they want and expect other people should just accept that. Society has no time for selfish individuals.

Leg End Reject

Women campaigned for change and equal rights.

I hope you're going to lead the way for men to have the right to wear skirts without ridicule, Mr_F.

But a quick point, I don't think any normal person mocks male nurses in this day and age.

[Deleted User]

Leg End Reject wrote: »

Women campaigned for change and equal rights.

Actually, quite a few men were there with them during those campaigns. My father marched with my mother for equal rights throughout the 60s/70s.

whisky_galore

Which pretty frock are you going to wear today, OP?

ILoveYourVibes

They have always been free to do this. They just don't want to. They look down on feminine men.

The only people keeping men oppressed in a way that has anything to do with gender is MEN.

Leg End Reject

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Actually, quite a few men were there with them during those campaigns. My father marched with my mother for equal rights throughout the 60s/70s.

I was wasn't suggesting they didn't, nor trying to score points. I'm just not sure feg understands the issues men should be campaigning for, skirts are either a very low, or nonexistent, issue.

Fair play to your father though.

ILoveYourVibes

Valentino Old-fashioned Spacecraft wrote: »

I'd be more concerned about what happens to fathers in the event of separation.

Do you not think that is a cultural by product of these gender roles?

[Deleted User]

Any time something at work needs carried it's the men called on to help. Even though it's often light stuff. The office is very warm so you end up back at your desk all sweaty. Pisses me off.

ILoveYourVibes

Deleted User wrote: »

Any time something at work needs carried it's the men called on to help. Even though it's often light stuff. The office is very warm so you end up back at your desk all sweaty. Pisses me off.

You are physically stronger. Be mature.

[Deleted User]

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

You are physically stronger. Be mature.

Its light stuff easily carried by men or woman. Some of the women could do with the exercise too.

I'm going to be refusing from now on. Bad back will be the excuse.

johnmcdnl

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Any time something at work needs carried it's the men called on to help. Even though it's often light stuff. The office is very warm so you end up back at your desk all sweaty. Pisses me off.

How about next time someone asks you for help carrying something, ask me or some of your other male (or female) colleagues to do it instead if it's that big of an issue for you.

[Deleted User]

Leg End Reject wrote: »

I was wasn't suggesting they didn't, nor trying to score points. I'm just not sure feg understands the issues men should be campaigning for, skirts are either a very low, or nonexistent, issue.

Fair play to your father though.

Sorry, I wasn't trying to suggest that you were. It's just a fairly common thing to see where males are excluded from any involvement for women's rights. It's something that they needed to do in the face of male resistance.. yadda yadda yadda (irrespective that a lot of the resistance came from other women).

I would agree that men's rights should be more concerned with actual rights. Equality in the workplace/society, the removal of gender quotas, fathers rights, better funding for male related health concerns, educational problems for males in schooling.

TBH, I think campaigning for male rights is pretty useless. Feminism has momentum built in that area, and male rights are generally perceived as being opposed to female rights. You can't have one without taking away from the other, which means there will be serious resistance regardless of how reasonable the argument is.

Instead, males should be pushing for egalitarianism. Equality of opportunity, and a society that stops placing so much emphasis on gender.

suicide_circus

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

They have always been free to do this. They just don't want to.

and its a good thing too. we can thank all the traditional male types for our warm dry homes with plumbing and electricity, every time our waste is collected, every time we get on a plane, train or automobile.

[Deleted User]

johnmcdnl wrote: »

How about next time someone asks you for help carrying something, ask me or some of your other male (or female) colleagues to do it instead if it's that big of an issue for you.

Ask you?

One eyed Jack

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Do you not think that is a cultural by product of these gender roles?

To be fair, it’s more commonly known as empathy. For that poster, of greater concern to them is how separated fathers are treated, than men who choose to wear women’s clothing.

Fathers separated because they want to wear women’s clothing might present something of a conundrum as to how far their empathy goes :pac:

[Deleted User]

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

You are physically stronger. Be mature.

Maybe. That's an assumption based on outdated stereotypes. Many males these days aren't particularly strong. I have very little muscle on my upper body. I'm 192 cm tall, and I can use my height/weight in terms of strength, but I don't have much strength for carrying things. My sister is half my height, carries three children around daily, and is far stronger than me.

In a fight, I'd win. In terms of carrying things, she'd win easily.

jimgoose

I don't know about you lot, but I am such a basic bitch sometimes. OMG I can't EVEN!!!

Your Face

Kilts.

So now what?

[Deleted User]

I don't mind carrying items for an old woman or if something is particularly heavy. Often its old files and they are light enough but there can be lots off them. Its sweaty work in a warm office.

s7ryf3925pivug

ILoveYourVibes wrote: »

Do you not think that is a cultural by product of these gender roles?

It results from perceived gender roles, which is why I posted it. However I don't think a man needs to come across as feminine in any way to be a good father or be kind or gentle etc. I don't care whether a guy wants to be effeminate or dress in womens clothes or anything else. I just think it's irrelevant to whether or not he possesses nurturing traits. Hence I'm more concerned with what happens to fathers when they separate. In general they are assumed to be the lesser parent just because they are male.

Peatys

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Yet men are still ridiculed for wearing feminine attire, choosing careers like nursing, etc..

Why is this? When will men "women up" and not be afraid of showing their feminine side?

Think you're 30 years behind the times. I don't know anyone who would think twice about a male nurse.

What sort of ridicule have you seen?

Alf Veedersane

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Why is this? When will men "women up" and not be afraid of showing their feminine side?

Because I can't sit with my legs closed for too long and if I wear a skirt, i have to wait until the warmer weather for less ridicule...

chrissb8

Be whoever you're comfortable being. Anyone who cares about anyone else's business is a pathetic loser who needs to get a grip of themselves.

That said, societal behaviours are distinct. In that, they have been around and changed over 100's of years. So when a person is born and raised they are presented with a "how to" in terms of how to act. For both genders, there is a general way to act and be. It's a logical way in which people can construct their personality around it, or even against it.

I don't think this is a bad thing as you can discover who you are when you have a framework to work off in how to construct identity. So you end up with men who adopt purely masculine traits and come out as a very masculine person than you have others who adopt predominately from the feminine side and have less masculine traits.

Gender norms are in society for a reason because they give structure. How each person formulates their identity from these or even against them, as I said, is upto them. This could all change in years and most likely will but the admonishing of men being men makes no sense. That is who they are comfortable being.

There's just idiots out there who would believe us all to be one or the other. Which would be incredibly boring. Just embrace each other.

ArchXStanton

When men abandon them

One of the bonuses of feminism was liberating men from chains they didn't know they had

Brian?

[Deleted User] wrote: »

My concept of gender is fixed, not fluid. Thanks for asking.

Who says you have to belieb gender is fluid to wear a dress?

I think the question in the OP is a good one. Men get ridiculed and judged for wearing women's clothes, but not vice versa.

Brian?

Valentino Old-fashioned Spacecraft wrote: »

I'd be more concerned about what happens to fathers in the event of separation.

You know you can be concerned by multiple things at once?

Fr_Dougal

Do your research a bit better, OP.

Google “bell bottom trousers’, you’re way off.

Mad_maxx

mr_fegelien wrote: »

60 years ago, any woman who would have worn trousers would have been laughed at like a man wearing skirts in modern times. Today, women wearing pants elicits no response.

Women also can take up STEM subjects, don't have to get married, can act masculine, are leaders of countries etc...

Yet men are still ridiculed for wearing feminine attire, choosing careers like nursing, etc..

Why is this? When will men "women up" and not be afraid of showing their feminine side?

Soc Dem voter eh