Wompa1 wrote: » It's great! In Galway the city switched from hourly charges at most of the public car parks to a flat charge of 5 euro. So if you only need to park for an hour, it's 5 euro. All day? 5 euro... If you go there in the afternoon and park up, inevitably someone will run over to your car and give you their parking pass. People's soundness is killing the city council's revenue ��
Mervyn Skidmore wrote: » Maybe OP is having some sort of culture shock even though he refuses to let us know where he's from, how rude of him.
Enter name here wrote: » Absolutely correct OP. The Irish are some of the rudest, racist and most unprofessional people I have ever met. The Irish thrive on corruption, consider themselves above others and what is completely astounding is how well educated the Irish consider themselves when nothing could be further from the truth. The Irish thrive on handouts and and believe everyone owes them a living and a free house next to their mam. With a bit of luck and an ever increasing rental and housing market there shouldn't be many Irish left living in Dublin soon and us foreigners can get about having a good time again.
beauf wrote: » We have this thread saying Irish are not friendly another thread somewhere else saying Irish are too invasive of people's privacy.
Manach wrote: » MOD Note: This discussion is now verging on troll teratory. Should this continue, the thread will be locked/users will be carded.
.red. wrote: » One of my pet peeves is snooty people who call themselves "middle class" Maybe it's not the Irish, maybe it's you?
Duke of Url wrote: » It was a genuine answer. If you don’t like where you are why stay? Do you think everyone should conform to the happy go lucky Irish stereotype?
New to Ireland wrote: » Very accurate I think, thanks
maninasia wrote: » Dublin seems quite stressful these days and a 'big city', I could imagine people have less time than before for each other.
ayzeb123 wrote: » Hi New to Ireland Sorry you're struggling to settle in here. I'm Irish and I've lived in different European countries for long periods and always settled in well and made friends easily. However when I started dating a man (whom i later married) i found it harder to feel accepted and to fit in. I found the more i made an effort the more awkward i felt. I'm pretty easy going and would talk to anyone, I wanted to fit it and join in but i felt like i didn't, this wasn't because people were horrible to me but was due to cultural differences and the fact that i missed Ireland & our ways. Like you i started to find fault in lots of everyday things i experienced there, albeit small silly things but they would really get under my skin. I think I was homesick for the first time. My husband moved to Ireland with me and we made our life here. He loved Ireland when we came on holidays but living here was a different story. He also struggled with many of our ways. And honestly, the Ireland i missed so much and was homesick for was not the place i remembered. We caught the tail end of the Celtic Tiger and i couldn't get over how changed the Irish people were. Ireland became very Cosmopolitan, the humble people were no more, replaced with overconfident sometimes cocky people, there was lots of money, everyone had new cars and were building bigger houses than the neighbours. We had supermarket snobs(seriously:) your car couldn't be seen at LIDL or ALdi or people felt sorry for you (back then). After a few months, when the novelty wore off, My husband also got very down/depressed for a while with little things that bugged him. Some things still irk him but they are the things that annoy everyone. We are here 18 years now and very happy and wouldn't go back even though i really love going back to his country and family & friends for holidays. I suppose my point is, you made a big decision to move to Ireland, you're only here 6 months so are still in a transitional stage. It seems that you may be Homesick and just miss what you are used to. Irish people are generally friendly, polite and love a chat. You just need to give yourself time to settle in and don't try too hard with people, it'll happen naturally when you feel better yourself and are content with your decision to move here. Think of yourself and do things you and your wife enjoy. Only you are in control of your thoughts. The mind is a powerful thing. I hope you settle in and meet some genuine Irish people. Good Luck.:)
worded wrote: » Arriving in Ireland is like adjusting to a new job and has three main phases ... Spring lamb phase ...Everything new Apathy ... Discontent slowly arriving Madness .... My advise is don’t fight it, embrace it. Welcome to the asylum OP
looksee wrote: » The OP is obviously a native speaker of English and North American would seem to be the most likely so I agree with the others about the whole culture shock of finding that not everyone will hope that you 'have a nice day' at every opportunity. Either that or its someone we may have met before (no idea) who is on a bit of a wind-up. However this is Humanities so there should be a bit more of a ... what? Academic? approach to this question. First OP you are asking us to agree with you that 'all Irish people are rude'. Just on the general law of averages not everyone in the country is rude. In fact the vast majority are not, quite the reverse. Especially if you happen to have an accent that could be construed as Tourist $$!! Have you considered that maybe your approach may be considered rude? The Irish approach to conversation, even with officialdom, is to phrase your question in a roundabout sort of way, kind of approach the topic from the side rather than head-on. So you don't say 'what time is the train to Wherever' you smile and say 'I wonder would you happen to know what time etc' or 'could you help me please, I need to get the train to X, what time would that be, do you know? Ok I am laying it on a bit thick, but the general idea is there. If you are used to snapping demands then you might expect to get snappy replies. I came to Ireland some half a century ago, and I will admit that it took me just about 5 years to fully realise that just because we were all speaking English it didn't mean we were all speaking the same language. Life got a lot easier after that.
New to Ireland wrote: » for me manners and conversation are a very clear thing which is not in line with the typical Irish way at all. I know I have to adjust and this takes time.
Wompa1 wrote: » My wife moved here with me in June. She thinks the opposite. She thinks people are very friendly and genuine. Are you in Dublin? Or the proper Ireland? :pac: Sorry, I see others made the Dublin part. I don't think it's because people in Dublin are a-holes. Some of the nicest people in my life are born and raised in Dublin. It's just that it's a large city and things move faster there. New York, London, Paris, Berlin etc. all have reputations for cold, rude people...it's just the rat race in a city. My wife is from the US. She doesn't find people rude... Ok, I read through more of the replies about things like immigration services. My guess is the OP is American. There's a very different pace to life in Ireland. If you don't get something right away or if someone doesn't answer the phone, it's not them being rude. As others have pointed out, when you walk into a shop or even go through a drive thru, no one's going to give you the over the top "IT'S A WONDERFUL DAY AT CHICK FIL A my name is Abraham, what can I get started for ya!?" Ireland hasn't been a service based industry for a long time. You're also in the midlands which is certainly not a haven for tourists. I suggest you spend some time in Galway. See if you notice a difference. Maybe that would be a good compromise for you and your wife. The only thing though, don't expect speedy service or the over the top stuff anywhere but the quality of service is a bit better there than in the midlands and you'll be more likely to have the chat with people than in Dublin. Also, a word of note. We don't treat people who work in retail or the service industry as lower stock like they do in the states. If you are asking for help or need something be courteous. Don't just say "Hey, where's the toothpaste!?"
