Lyan wrote: » It's evolutionary science, not feelings.
Lillyfae wrote: » My parents were strict to the point of abusive until I was a teenager, then I was alone from the age of 15. My older sisters would have been stalked by my father at that age but they had run out of steam because there were too many of us I’d say. Mortifying for them when I moved out and dropped out of school to support myself because they liked to be perceived as respectable. I always think it was a miracle that I never ended up on drugs, pregnant or worse but I was quite ambitious about having a normal and calm life so I need to take credit for it myself. I had far more freedom than my peers but used it to work and put a roof over my head in sh*tty houseshares so that I could get back to education ASAP. Left the country not long after I did the LC and worked myself through a BSc and MSc. Having a child myself now, I would never return to Ireland. There are far too many issues in and around cities, and no accountability. Where I live now would have been considered working class (with actual jobs I mean) but in the 15 years since I moved here has changed considerably due to housing prices and a change in demographic all over the city. The difference I see is that there is a level of respectability whether working class or middle class that just doesn’t exist in Ireland. The majority of people want to raise their children to be happy, decent members of society. Of course there is crime but it’s confined to certain known areas and is mitigated by effective policing.[/quote I think you’ll find the majority of people in Ireland want the best for their children as well. Ireland is one of the safest countries in the world.
mcgucc22 wrote: » I think you’ll find the majority of people in Ireland want the best for their children as well. Ireland is one of the safest countries in the world.
Lillyfae wrote: That may be true now but this is changing and will continue to do so as long as a certain demographic (growing by the day) have children as a lifestyle choice, without having the desire to raise them.
Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: » Easily. I’m from Drogheda, minutes walk away from where young Keane lived. It’s always been a rough area. I turned to sport, and later, education to get out of it. I still go to Mountjoy a few times a year to visit friends who weren’t so lucky.
maninasia wrote: They made their own bed too. Nobody forced then to commit crimes.
Montage of Feck wrote: » Designer track suits don't appeal to me, pure scuzy looking. Maybe if a more style conscious gang along.
Deleted User wrote: » Definitely. There were around 160 kids in my year in secondary school. At the last count, around 30 are dead from drugs/accidental deaths/ suicides. I turn 40 this year. And I'm from an ok area. My house was in a council estate and every 5th neighbour or so was into dealing. One poor lad hung himself (he was part of a gang) but he hung himself because he was gay and thought suicide was easier than what might have happened had he come out to the gang. He was only 17. I got into youth theatre and music and slowly edged away from my estate. Services for young people work, and it's why I'm a big believer they need investing in properly. You wont save them all, but some is better than none.
Raconteuse wrote: » Don't know if anyone said anything about feelings. Yes it is about personality and choice of course but there is hardly absolutely no influence from environment. The kid who has been in and out of foster homes because of drug addicted parents is obviously far more likely to be a violent criminal than the one who has a stable, happy, loving home. Yeah the reverse can happen, but which is the more likely?
Lyan wrote: » Bull**** is a feelings argument to me. I don't think the family life explanation ever stands up to scrutiny. You always seem to get into a neverending cycle of broken families. Why was Johnny bad? Johnny's Dad was bad. Why was Johnny's Dad bad? Well Johnny's Dad's Grandad was bad... as so on back to the Cambrian period. I actually don't deny that environment has zero influence, but honestly if we are talking about a kid in a criminal gang then the genetics are most definitely of the unsavoury variety. We aren't talking about some simple playground misbehaviour.
the beer revolu wrote: » There's a very unsavoury tone to some posts here. A real sense of superiority and smugness. Essentially saying that they didn't and wouldn't have gotten into crime because they are so fcuking brilliant.
Doctor Nick wrote: » When I said Bull**** it was nothing to do with feelings. More so that my own personal experience and observations with others most definitely was not due to genetics. I grew up in a loving family. Traditionally Irish at the time in that my father worked to provide and my mother stayed home to watch the kids. There was never any criminality in my family when I was younger. As I stated, after being nearly drowned, stabbed and kicked to death by multiple people on too many occasions by a gang of scumbags getting with another group of people who the original scumbags feared meant I no longer had to worry about being battered. That sense of security and protection means a lot to a terrified child who thought they were going to die at the hands of these animals. So yes, bull**** to your genetics argument.
iamwhoiam wrote: » We reared three kids , we put time effort and energy into them . We drove them to clubs and sports and activities , we took them to parks and up thr mountains on a weekend . We sat with them and talked to them about everything . We went without so they had what they needed We showed by example that to work hard is satisfying , we encouraged friends to come here and gave them space . So call me smug or superior if you like but Yeh my kids wouldn’t dream of getting into crime because they are actually brilliant . And call me anything you like when I say “ yeh I did well “ Proper parenting is the absolute key to preventing a child being bad
the beer revolu wrote: » I obviously wasn't referring to you as you hadn't posted in the thread. But now that you have....... Thinking that your children are brilliant is charming. Thinking that it is all down to you, is extremely smug and arrogant.
Lyan wrote: » Personal anecdotes are not an argument against evolutionary psychology.
iamwhoiam wrote: » At no stage did I say it was “ all down to me “ !
the beer revolu wrote: » You didn't need to.