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Anybody have a sibling who's a complete waster?

MichaelKnee

Over Christmas all five siblings were back. We're all professionals, paying rent, mortgages etc. And there's a middle brother who is a complete waster. He's been on the dole since graduation, but a very clever guy, who talks incessantly about all these great ideas, but does none of them. Still living at home and my parents are more or less at their wits end with him. It's infuriating.

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Still waters

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Good question. Nothing qualifies me. I am not a psychologist, a doctor, psychiatrist, or educational specialist. However I have a degree in Computing, studied Biomedical engineering, city and guilds in plant processing, Acupuncture, Chinese Medicine spent two years as a psychologist assistant (not to be read as an assistant psychologist), and 20 years searching for my own diagnosis. Currently pursuing immunology.

What qualifies you to question that I have a theory that I have not discussed? Are you some sort Autism specialist or Psychiatrist?

I don't think the scientific community take theories seriously from anyone just because they've a city and guilds in acupuncture or Chinese medicine, or anyone that can diagnose autism on the internet, might be worth a shot though

skooterblue2

JayZeus wrote: »

A bit of common sense is enough to see that there is no real way you have enough information about the OP’s brother to make anything other than an odd speculation that autism may be a factor. It could be. So could all sorts of things though. Cart before the horse stuff.

Well You see a lot of psychologist reports and meet and greet a lot of clients as an assistant. What are your qualifications?

skooterblue2

Still waters wrote: »

I don't think the scientific community take theories seriously from anyone just because they've a city and guilds in acupuncture or Chinese medicine, or anyone that can diagnose autism on the internet, might be worth a shot though

I dont have a city and guilds in acupuncture. I have a city and guilds in Plant processing. What if my theory was that ie was genetics? Load of people believe it is that or that it was due to some exposure to toxins or to trauma? Arent all those valid theories, held by valid experts in the field like Dr Temple Grandin and Professor Simon Baron Cohen?

misterme123

Still waters wrote: »

I don't think the scientific community take theories seriously from anyone just because they've a city and guilds in acupuncture or Chinese medicine, or anyone that can diagnose autism on the internet, might be worth a shot though

Unfortunately, professional diagnosis of autism is not very scientific anyway.

skooterblue2

misterme123 wrote: »

Unfortunately, professional diagnosis of autism is not very scientific anyway.

Have you got a more scientific approach that is better than the DISCO 10 or DSM 5 model. Please tell us. and your qualification as well please? All Attwood and Baron Cohen families are eagerly awaiting to find out what Sacha Baron Cohen has been doing wrong all his life.

Still waters

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Well You see a lot of psychologist reports and meet and greet a lot of clients as an assistant. What are your qualifications?

I have problematic psoriasis on my legs and hands, i wouldn't let my doctors secretary have a look at it and make a diagnosis, you should stop the pretence that you're in a position to diagnose a very complex medical/psychological condition and i only hope in real life you don't carry on like this

skooterblue2

Still waters wrote: »

I have problematic psoriasis on my legs and hands, i wouldn't let my doctors secretary have a look at it and make a diagnosis, you should stop the pretence that you're in a position to diagnose a very complex medical/psychological condition and i only hope in real life you don't carry on like this

Actually I am qualified to treat psoriasis as an acupuncturist, people who psoriasis have unaddressed psychological issues from a chinese perspective, particularly anger. I am not diagnosing anyone, I am however suggesting that they pursue a diagnosis. Which is something entirely different. Still waiting on your qualifications.....

misterme123

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Have you got a more scientific approach that is better than the DISCO 10 or DSM 5 model. Please tell us. and your qualification as well please?

I don't have to have my own alternative theory to say something isn't very scientific. Aspergers and Autism used to be classified as distinct disorders until very recently (in DSM I think, I'm open to correction). Now Aspergers is on the same spectrum as Autism, which is a developmental disorder. I'm just pointing out that diagnosis is subjective. These lists of symptoms will invariably be subject to future reclassifications, because they are still not well understood.

LollipopJimmy

Well there goes what could have been an interesting thread to read

Always Tired

Some people can be very smart, which can lead them to study something lofty and impractical, and then they have a degree which doesn't help you with employment.

So you end up with a smart, educated person whose only employment options are low paid menial jobs. And someone with intelligence isn't going to stick at tedious jobs that dont engage their brain. Especially since thse jobs tend to have bosses that aren't educated and don't respect their workers (like in hotels, takeaways, factories etc.)

Just because they don't fit into the rat race nonsense that you swallowed hook line and sinker doesn't make them a waster. But you calling him a waster makes you a bit of a pr*ck tbh.

Still waters

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Actually I am qualified to treat psoriasis as an acupuncturist, people who psoriasis have unaddressed psychological issues from a chinese perspective, particularly anger. I am not diagnosing anyone, I am however suggesting that they pursue a diagnosis. Which is something entirely different. Still waiting on your qualifications.....

What do you need my qualifications for, you're the one making dangerous assumptions online, i don't think pseudo scientific Chinese medicine or acupuncture is valid qualifications to assume autism online

skooterblue2

misterme123 wrote: »

I don't have to have my own alternative theory to say something isn't very scientific. Aspergers and Autism used to be classified as distinct disorders until very recently (in DSM I think, I'm open to correction). Now Aspergers is on the same spectrum as Autism, which is a developmental disorder. I'm just pointing out that diagnosis is subjective. These lists of symptoms will invariably be subject to future reclassifications, because they are still not well understood.

But you are free to question my theory that I havent shared.
It is not subjective, it has distinct criteria and we are not "all on the spectrum". This is a myth dispelled by experts. You may have traits but a formal diagnosis is made by someone with over 10 years experience. Trust me you dont want to take one of the Registered Psychologist or Psychiatrist on, they will put you in your place so fast. Its been over 5 years since DSM 5. Its been almost 20 years since DSM 4. Still awaiting your qualifications........

khalessi

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Actually I am qualified to treat psoriasis as an acupuncturist, people who psoriasis have unaddressed psychological issues from a chinese perspective, particularly anger. I am not diagnosing anyone, I am however suggesting that they pursue a diagnosis. Which is something entirely different. Still waiting on your qualifications.....

Well i wouldn't attend an acupuncturist who had city and guilds same as attending someone who did a mini course and set up to be a doctor.

Proper studying of acupuncture takes years. And youve taken a very selective view of the causes of psoriasis . I do sense a strong case or projection of your own issues onto people

branie2

[Deleted User]

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Actually I am qualified to treat psoriasis as an acupuncturist, people who psoriasis have unaddressed psychological issues from a chinese perspective, particularly anger. I am not diagnosing anyone, I am however suggesting that they pursue a diagnosis. Which is something entirely different. Still waiting on your qualifications.....

Eh... No.

I have actual qualifications in emergency medical care and have provided care in a wide range of circumstances to those experiencing traumatic injuries etc etc. Not street level first aid, real emergency care.

So as far as irrelevant qualifications go, mine are at least as good as yours.

Stop digging that hole. It’s only going to be harder to climb out of it later on.

[Deleted User]

I spent a lot of time as a child hanging around the dispensary of a pharmacy, so I guess I can prescribe medication on the internet.

skooterblue2

Still waters wrote: »

What do you need my qualifications for, you're the one making dangerous assumptions online, i don't think pseudo scientific Chinese medicine or acupuncture is valid qualifications to assume autism online

ohhhh I love this argument. Chinese Medicine has been perfected over 8000 years. The earliest text is about 2000BC (The yellow Emperors Classic of internal Medicine). It is proven and is incorporated into an Asian GP course (approximately one sixth). You want to put your trust in Western GP who isnt qualified to diagnose anything more than a common cold and is prescribing things he doesnt even understand but the sales rep cut him a sweet deal.
In Chinese Medicine, half your course is studying psychology and a third is studying western medicine. My poor GP, I am impressed everyday I meet him that he has his feet in the correct shoes. The man asked me what did my previous Doctor prescribe for autism.... Jesus wept.

Well you are maintaining that I dont understand anything but you havent established your credentials. What gives you the authority to dismiss my theories? You obviously have some great qualification to look down on me.

skooterblue2

JayZeus wrote: »

Eh... No.

I have actual qualifications in emergency medical care and have provided care in a wide range of circumstances to those experiencing traumatic injuries etc etc. Not street level first aid, real emergency care.

So as far as irrelevant qualifications go, mine are at least as good as yours.

Stop digging that hole. It’s only going to be harder to climb out of it later on.

Ahh health and safety officer then. All full of pomp authority while filing paperwork in the office. That first aid qualification is great to have on the CV, go Team You!.

Musefan

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Irish is particularly difficult language to learn if you are on the Autistic spectrum, unless it is your speciality (I know one and he is untreated and undiagnosed and has lead a trainwreck life). Hence new early diagnosis get exemptions from Irish.

Please ask more questions if you like, I have no problem answering.

An ASD diagnosis doesn’t entitle you to an Irish exemption

skooterblue2

khalessi wrote: »

Well i wouldn't attend an acupuncturist who had city and guilds same as attending someone who did a mini course and set up to be a doctor.

Proper studying of acupuncture takes years. And youve taken a very selective view of the causes of psoriasis . I do sense a strong case or projection of your own issues onto people

ahhhh ..... once again the city and guilds was in plant processing and the acupuncture is another course. I am now qualified 4 years thereabouts and practicing. I never claimed to be a doctor, that is your idea.

skooterblue2

Musefan wrote: »

An ASD diagnosis doesn’t entitle you to an Irish exemption

"A school will only grant an exemption if the principal is satisfied that learning Irish is causing undue difficulties on a pupil's language development in an English-medium environment." ASIAM.ie

Yeah it will you just have to push the right buttons. Psychologist can easily have a word with the principal.

[Deleted User]

It’s the internet and we’re all strangers. Anyone’s qualifications are irrelevant.

I have a car that breaks my heart, squeeks and rattles, throws up warning lights and codes and which I’m always paying people to diagnose and fix for me. As long as I’ve been driving, I’ve lived with the perpetually suboptimal operation of the machine. I’m very experienced in that regard.

I’m not a diagnostician, technician or mechanic. Someone elses car making a noise that sounds like the ones mine makes does not mean it has the same issue.

Some people buy snakeoil additives that serve as a placebo, helping them tolerate the issue a while longer, until a mechanical intervention is mandated. Others skip the pubtalk, the forums, the workmates ‘expertise’ and their amateurish diagnoses and just go get a professional to sort it out.

That’s a sound practice.

All the other rubbish is pointless. No amount of observing and paying to have things done for you has any value to another, when the machines are not the same. People who tell you otherwise are mistaken or delusional.

khalessi

skooterblue2 wrote: »

ahhhh ..... once again the city and guilds was in plant processing and the acupuncture is another course. I am now qualified 4 years thereabouts and practicing. I never claimed to be a doctor, that is your idea.

Well I never said you were a doctor, however a city and guilds qualification in acupuncture is akin to reading the introduction on Chinese medicine. To be qualified in acupuncture requires as I said years of study. If I misread your qualification it is only because you yourself did not describe properly.

How long did you study acupuncture then? What are your qualifications in acupuncture? Where did you study it/

I derive from your very selective understanding of psoriasis from a medical and acupuncture point of view you are very naive and not as educated as you think.

[Deleted User]

skooterblue2 wrote: »

Ahh health and safety officer then. All full of pomp authority while filing paperwork in the office. That first aid qualification is great to have on the CV, go Team You!.

You think a heath and safety officer provides frontline pre-hospital emergency medical care?

Well, there goes your one trick pony, as you clearly have absolutely no idea what you’re arguing against. Clueless.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

cryptocurrency wrote: »

Sandhurst, great network, great career, during and afterwards.

Not saying it isn't, but it tends to require a certain conformed mindset not really engineered for clever thnking.

Musefan

skooterblue2 wrote: »

"A school will only grant an exemption if the principal is satisfied that learning Irish is causing undue difficulties on a pupil's language development in an English-medium environment." ASIAM.ie

Yeah it will you just have to push the right buttons. Psychologist can easily have a word with the principal.

Psychological reports are not required for Irish exemptions as of 2019. The criteria for an exemption is an assessment score below the 10th percentile on a literacy assessments. Children with ASD are not entitled to an assessment. Many principals grant the exemption based on ASD and anxiety in Irish classes or the need to do other subjects but this is not in line with the department of education criteria.

Re the OP. I wonder would some additional responsibilities around the home be helpful for your brother?

khalessi

skooterblue2 wrote: »

"A school will only grant an exemption if the principal is satisfied that learning Irish is causing undue difficulties on a pupil's language development in an English-medium environment." ASIAM.ie

Yeah it will you just have to push the right buttons. Psychologist can easily have a word with the principal.

That is out of date information and any child with a difficulty with Irish will be assessed appropriately as not only do people with autism have difficulty with Irish and in my experience they are minority, dyslexics also do and other educational diagnosis so should we assume he has dyslexia rather then autism?

skooterblue2

khalessi wrote: »

How long did you study acupuncture then? What are your qualifications in acupuncture? Where did you study it/

I derive from your very selective understanding of psoriasis from a medical and acupuncture point of view you are very naive and not as educated as you think.

I have a diploma in acupuncture from Ireland. Three years in Dublin. And ONCE again ITS NOT FROM CITY AND GUILDS!!! Its the same one that is in recognised in Ireland.

lainey_d_123

skooterblue2 wrote: »

poor time distance skills and shifting the blame onto others.

Sure but is that autism or is it the actions of a narcissist who has been indulged?

[Deleted User]

skooterblue2 wrote: »

I have a diploma in acupuncture from Ireland. Three years in Dublin. And ONCE again ITS NOT FROM CITY AND GUILDS!!! Its the same one that is in recognised in Ireland.

Where in Dublin? I mean at what educational institution and who were the accrediting body for this 3 year diploma?