the beer revolu wrote: » He might be a Tierney. Rashers Tierney from Strumpet City. I knew a girl called Rachel. All her friends called her rasher.
brevity wrote: » Yea, don’t shorten people’s names without prior permission. It’s Anthony not Anto, Andrew not Andy, Vincent not Vince etc... It’s really annoying imo and then when you correct the person you come of looking worse. Edit: username does not check out!
Brock Turnpike wrote: » Good morning. How do you all feel about this? A friend of mine once asked a good friend of his, whom he one prior to working with him, to call him by his full name in work. Is this acceptable? Should I start asking work colleagues/friends to call me Brockleton in professional environs?
lawred2 wrote: » full name? as in first name and last name or just his complete first name? if the latter then that's perfectly acceptable.
EmmetSpiceland wrote: » Why is he called “Rasher”? The last time I heard that term, when not talking about the food, was in relation to a woman “jilling” in a very fast fashion. “Rashering the kipper off herself, she was”, was the phrase I believe. Doesn’t sound very pleasant.
Brock Turnpike wrote: » It's the latter. What difference does it make if he is referred to as the shortened version of his name?
BDI wrote: » You come off looking worse because you can’t handle not having control. You think there is some sort of onemanupship based on what people shorten your name to or because everyone else is an idiot.
Ray Palmer wrote: » Actually it is you who comes off worse. You address the person how they wish to be addressed. My real name is 4 letters but 2 syllables so one person decided to make it one letter, not the first letter of my name and one syllable. He thought this was great because and said it saved him time. I politely asked he didn't after 2 days. He kept doing it saying he got used to it and would "try" to stop. After another 2 days I just started ignoring him until he used my name. If he referred to me in a meeting with it I would ask who was he talking about. Other people started giving out to him as it was very clear I didn't like it and had asked him to stop publicly. The boss eventually gave him a written warning without me saying a word as it was obviously intentional belittling. He had to write me an apology.
Brock Turnpike wrote: » Again, I think you have failed to grasp the story in the OP. If the person is known to you before you start working with them, then do you think it is acceptable for them to ask you to call them by their full name rather than the shortened name you have always known them by. Do people actually believe that having your full name used in a professional setting is of benefit? Genuine question.
Cornelius Crow wrote: » ........ What boils my piss though is either in real life or here on boards when people take it upon themselves to address you simply by the first letter of your name in a cloyingly matey way..
Cornelius Crow wrote: » ......... It’s hideously over-familiar and I wish people wouldn’t do it. Then again it’s a fairly immediate way of someone demonstrating that they’re a bit of a knob so perhaps it’s best to know that at the earliest opportunity.
ohnonotgmail wrote: » Doctor, even though I dont think they technically qualify for the title. Though i am open to correction on that.
BDI wrote: » Good Jaysis you must have a skill set that nobody else has or you wouldn’t last two days where I am. People with that attitude get cigarettes put out in their coffee round here.
Stevieluvsye wrote: » Ye, so it turns out the correct term to address them as is as Doctor. No wonder my dentist didn't look impressed when i called her a "tooth mechanic" You'd think they'd have a bit of a sense of humour the amount of money they make
Ray Palmer wrote: » People who do that kind of stuff are fired straight away everywhere I work. Where in a work place would people be allowed intimidate people like that? Do you work in a factory in something? He was the ass and it was other employees who took issue with his repeatedly doing it after being asked and then told to stop.
EmmetSpiceland wrote: » A, supposedly, high suicide rate though, S.
Stevieluvsye wrote: » Interesting. They tend to work in relative isolation from my experience. I won't surmise though
EmmetSpiceland wrote: » Yeah, heard it’s to do with the stress from being the sole bearer of responsibility. But that shouldn’t excuse the “gouging” some of them are up to.
Stevieluvsye wrote: » So was it a written warning or was he fired straight away? Get your bleedin story straight Razor, or am i allowed to call you that?
Ray Palmer wrote: » He didn't put a cigarette out in my coffee. That was what I was referring to because the post said there would be retaliation in his work place. You would be fired for gross negligence for trying to intimidate somebody like that. My story is completely straight. I see you think being this is funny but it is no way acceptable to behave like that in a work place. Some of us work with multiple nationalities with names that are unusual to Ireland. You can't be making fun of people's names as if you are in school. You are no longer children and have to treat people with respect.
branie2 wrote: » If a person is in the medical field, I call him or her doctor or nurse
BDI wrote: » Ray it sounds from this you were made fun of in school and therefore see any sort of joking or terms of endearment as bullying. In human contact light ribbing and nicknames is a way for a man to show another man that he may grow to love him as only two men can. Is there some sort of problem with you accepting affection from a man. You say workplaces are filled with foreign nationalities, do you struggle to accept affection from foreign men?
Stevieluvsye wrote: » Ye, you are on boards, chill the fcuk out. The poster was joking about the cigarette in coffee
Ray Palmer wrote: » How do you know? It is not outside of what people have done before ro people they started bullying.
Cornelius Crow wrote: » I’ve a colleague who took to calling me by a diminutive and in their accent it made it sound like a Fair City character so that had to stop immediately. There’s another different shortened version that I’m quite happy to be called in work though, I even told a patient to call me by it to differentiate from her daughter who had the same name as me.What boils my piss though is either in real life or here on boards when people take it upon themselves to address you simply by the first letter of your name in a cloyingly matey way. It’s hideously over-familiar and I wish people wouldn’t do it. Then again it’s a fairly immediate way of someone demonstrating that they’re a bit of a knob so perhaps it’s best to know that at the earliest opportunity.
