Rylan Puny Knickknack wrote: » I see your point, but I believe we can easily fall victim to the "You can do it!" strain of positive thinking. Many people pursue careers in areas like music, acting, art, creative writing, and so on, telling themselves that they can succeed if they just have the right attitude — even if the number of aspiring actors, artists, or novelists who end up becoming big names, or even making a decent living, is infinitesimally small. There was a thread recently about a young woman who spent her 20s pursuing a music career in New York, waitressing on the side, only to wind up back in Ireland, about to turn 30, with virtually nothing to her name and struggling to figure out a way forward. Positive thinking, following your dreams, etc., is all very well, but it can also blind people to an objective, realistic appraisal of their talents, abilities, and prospects. That's when it becomes dangerous.
Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: » I may have mentioned it before, but mindfulness based mediation is a transformative way of being able to slow down and observe the way you are thinking. We seem to live in a world where people are becoming increasingly afraid of being bored, or actually 'checking in' with themselves to take note about how they are feeling. Negative thoughts aren't actually a bad thing, and meditation is a phenomenal way of being able to recognise them, how they sit in your body, and how they come and go in awareness. Most of you should also recognise that you are hopelessly addicted to your smartphone, and that it is making you tremendously unhappy. Morning is the best time to meditate, and ease into the day , and my routine is as follows: 5:15 am - My Sonos is programmed to wake me up to the latest podcast from the monks of the Abbeye du Barroux. They publish the chants of the Divine Office on a daily basis. I'm not particularly religious, but I am a deeply spiritual man, and find the Gregorian chants to have an extremely profound and almost hypnotic effect on me. I'm considering taking a 3 day retreat there early next year. 5:30 - Meditation - Mindfulness. I've tried other types, but find it to be the most effective for those of us who live a busy life. I use a meditation stool, and have an area set aside in my apartment for my meditation practice. I don't use any of those guided meditation apps anymore, preferring just a simple bell to begin and end the practice. 5.47 - Brush my teeth. 5.50 - Exercise. My favourite way to exercise is to get outside and go for a run, but I recently bought a Peloton bike and will sometimes take a spinning class instead. I always cool down with a yoga-inspired stretching regime. 6.30 - Shower, shave, sauna, shower. 6.50 - A cup of coffee. None of your Nespresso rubbish, but a bean-to-cup Jura machine. 7.00 - My newspapers, fresh bread, free range-eggs, and laundry are delivered. 7.05 - Freshly squeezed orange juice, prepare breakfast, listen to the radio, browse the headlines in the newspapers. My midweek breakfast usually features eggs, tomatoes, greens from my balcony, mushrooms, some pickled vegetables, and bread. 7.40 - Check my iPhone or iPad for the first time. Usually start by seeing how my personal portfolio is doing. My emails are scheduled to start arriving from 7.45 in the morning.
Aongus Von Bismarck wrote: » 7.00 - My newspapers, fresh bread, free range-eggs, and laundry are delivered.
Potential-Monke wrote: » And the hardest part of it? Other people telling me how wrong I am with how I'm dealing with it. Telling me that living at home with my parents at 36 is wrong. Telling me my pastimes and hobbies are childish. Even worse are the people, including those on here, who are telling me that being single is bad and unless I find a wife and have kids my life will be incomplete. That's the most damaging, and people don't even realise they're doing it (recent Emma Watson thread as proof).
anewme wrote: » Who are these people though and why do you even care one bit?
Potential-Monke wrote: » They're everywhere. Family, friends, random people on boards. It's not until you're happy being single that you see the anti-single comments and people stating that having a partner/kids is the way to happiness. And I did care, so much that it negatively affected me. Thankfully, i'm over that, but it took a long time and lots of mental anguish to accept that yes, I actually am happy being single, being a gamer, etc. Why did I care? I wish I knew, like someone addicted to smoking, I couldn't just flick the switch and turn it off. I had to surround myself with people who didn't judge or pass (albeit sometimes in jest) comments which don't immediately appear damaging, but the more you hear it the more one would rightly expect to start believing it, when it's near constant. As a result, I'm fairly negative about life, but i've found happiness in my own little bubble which works for me. It's like any idea, if it's reinforced by enough people, others will start to believe it and think if they're not achieving it that there's something wrong or missing in their life. Dangerous words touted from people who don't know any different unfortunately.
anewme wrote: » Glad you've found what works for you. I just smile at the anti single comments. For me I could look at it two ways: Negative: 50 year old woman, no husband, no children Positive: 50 year old woman, no husband, no children
PTH2009 wrote: » A few years ago I felt depressed and was prescribed anti depressants along with some other anti anxiety medication which I was on previously. Not once did it make me better and made me balloon in weight along with waking up in a bad mood. I was told by my doctor these would make me feel better. It took me 2 years to lose the weight these caused me and refuse to take any more. The sedation they cause is bad and i feel you get the same feeling/sensation off drink as you do them. I dont to be walking around a zombie thanks to a doctors advice Waiting rooms in public mental health services are torture
Midster wrote: » Only drug out there that does actually makes you feel happy is extacy. All the other drugs that you can get legally that are on prescription from your doctor only attempt to lift you from sadness
