KIDS USED AS WEAPONS I stayed in an abusive relationship with my wife because she threatened to not let me see my kids if I left – and there are plenty of other men like me Matthew Wrightson was subjected to coercive control by the woman he was married to for seven years
A new study found that more than a third of men in the UK have admitted being a victim of such a relationship, which strips the victim of their liberty and sense of self and became illegal in December 2015. Separate research suggests the reasons men don’t leave abusive relationships are varied, but for 89 percent it’s because of worries about their children. The fear of never seeing their kids again keeps 68 per cent with their partner.
Fianna Fáil councillor Gobnait Moynihan said that if a woman from Macroom wants to escape an abusive relationship, she is faced with moving herself and her children either to the city or Tralee. This isn’t ideal, she said, adding that women want to try and keep some normality in the lives of their children and moving so far away would be uprooting their from their school and friends.
iptba wrote: » https://www.irishexaminer.com/breakingnews/ireland/cork-council-to-discuss-refuges-for-women-as-councillor-reveals-her-domestic-abuse-hell-920648.html Quote: Fianna Fáil councillor Gobnait Moynihan said that if a woman from Macroom wants to escape an abusive relationship, she is faced with moving herself and her children either to the city or Tralee. This isn’t ideal, she said, adding that women want to try and keep some normality in the lives of their children and moving so far away would be uprooting their from their school and friends. With no services from men, if men depend on siblings for example, the distance could be further again.
FishOnABike wrote: » Is there any good reason why a gender neutral approach cannot be taken to the provision of refuges / emergency accommodation for domestic abuse suffers? Why should there be a blatent double standard when it comes to the provision of such an important service? Any sporting organisation would be refused government sourced grant aid if it discriminated based on gender.
eviltwin wrote: » It would be very hard to manage and would put staff and service users at risk. . You have people going to refuge for genuine reasons and then you could have their spouse arrive trying to find them. I used to work in DV services and we had issues with women from a certain ethnic background doing this to find and threaten victims. There is no way to verify a persons identity until they arrive, I'd want some reassurance that the man or woman at the door is not going to be violent towards me trying to find their partner.
FishOnABike wrote: » Is this not somewhat self contradictory? Why would it be any harder to screen for a male spouse trying to find their partner than 'women from a certain ethnic background doing this to threaten victims' or even a same gender partner? Even Erin Pizzey, founder of the first domestic abuse shelter has said women regularly had to be refused due to their own violent behaviour and, though she was ostracized for saying so, that domestic violence is not a gender issue and men are as much victims of domestic abuse as women. In this day and age shouldn't the same supports be provided to all domestic abuse suffers, female or male, in a non discriminatory manner?
Men's Health Forum in Ireland 14 May at 09:50 · You are invited to the launch of the 'Male Advice Line' for male victims of domestic abuse in the Republic of Ireland. This will take place on Monday 20th May 2019 in Dublin ...
The Men's Development Network 25 November 2018 · Abuse is a reality for far too many and needs to stop.Play your part and take the pledge to never commit, excuse or remain silent about men's violence against women and girls. The shared post is highlights from The White Ribbon Ireland Seminar on Gender Equality which was run by The Men's Development Network for International Men's Day 2018. Help to support this campaign by buying a white ribbon on November 25th or text WHITE RIBBON to 50300 to donate €4. #WhiteRibbonIrl #MakeThePledge #EndMVAWG #NoExcuse
At the time of the attack, they had been living separately for 1 year. She attacked him because he was seeing another woman. She attacked him with a hammer and hit him 20 times.
iptba wrote: » I just saw a piece on Sky News, where it is said 10 women in the UK who killed their male partners are hoping to be either freed or have reduced sentences following a ruling during the week where a woman who had supposedly suffered years of psychological abuse had her conviction reduced from murder to manslaughter, resulting in her release. Whatever about the pros and cons of such cases, it's unclear to me why only female perpetrators of killings could benefit from reduced sentences. It seems to be based on the view that domestic violence is something done by men to women. Edited to add: I just read elsewhere a commentator describe some of the details of what happened in the case where the woman was freed:
"Women's Aid has been providing training for An Garda Síochána and we are seeing good responses. We hope that with these new units we'll have a higher level of awareness of the dynamics of domestic violence," she says.
iptba wrote: » https://www.independent.ie/opinion/comment/lorraine-courtney-johnsons-neighbours-feared-for-someones-safety-of-course-they-had-to-call-the-police-38250544.html I'm afraid I don't trust them to give unbiased training that domestic violence is often mutual and also is also female-on-male and to provide training for such scenarios.
Press release Increased jobcentre support for women experiencing domestic abuse Every jobcentre in the UK will have a trained domestic abuse point of contact by the end of summer, Work and Pensions Secretary Amber Rudd will announce today. Around 600 DWP staff across the UK are currently undergoing specialist training from expert organisation Women’s Aid. The newly assigned points of contact will be trained to identify and support the needs of anyone experiencing domestic abuse, and will work closely with local services to share knowledge and signpost women to additional, external support.
Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) Questionnaire 7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes or often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit over at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife? Yes No If yes enter 1 ________
Laura says June 13, 2018 at 6:53 pm Number 7 is flawed because it only applies to those would witness their mothers being abused, but how about those who witnessed their father, sibling, grandparent, etc, being abused? My father was abused by my step-mother, and I had to endure watching her act violently to him, both physically and verbally. She has even kicked him out of his place several times during their relationship. I have also seen her abusing my brother too. Why is it only traumatic or horrifying when applying to one example of family abuse, but not the other. Hell, even if you were to want it to only apply to parents, then why not just say “witnessing a parent being treated violently by their partner”? It is things like this that keep people from taking the abuse my father endured seriously.
South Africans and women in particular, are becoming increasingly infuriated by the rampant violence being perpetrated against women and children. Highlighting this anger, a petition calling on the death penalty for those committing crimes against women and children, have garnered almost 250000 signatures, in less than 24 hours.
iptba wrote: » https://twitter.com/menhealuk/status/1149613184745033729
What is being done? The toll is increasingly catching the attention of French officials, who have begun taking more urgent steps to combat the trend. On Tuesday, the French government opened national debate in an effort to stamp out what some lawyers and prosecutors call femicide to underscore the particular nature of the crime. The term femicide was first coined in the 1970s to refer to gender-related killings. Femicide is not recognised in the French criminal code, but junior minister for gender equality Marlène Schiappa said recognition would be discussed in the coming weeks. The consultation process started on Tuesday and is to continue until November 25th, International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women. Over the course of those 12 weeks, 91 conferences will take place across France to discuss how to prevent femicide, protect the victims and punish offenders. – New York Times
iptba wrote: » So looks like a a non-gender-neutral approach/initiative to tackle domestic violence in France:https://www.irishtimes.com/news/world/europe/femicide-in-france-he-killed-me-she-said-with-her-dying-breath-1.4006943
Padraig Mor wrote: » I'm taking from that that it's currently legal to kill your wife in France so? I mean, if they need to introduce a law against it, surely there isn't one already?
LCTD wrote: » Under the Dunedin studies project which is a mass study from birth in New Zealand, it was revealed that women are just as likely to abuse men in a relationship as the other way around, they said the study received a lot of criticism for revealing this...
LCTD wrote: » I think with female to male it can take the form of psychological abuse much more and so be more difficult to verify, also with men less likely to report it for fear of not being believed. Historically certainly it was male to female abuse in relationships which was more prevalent but that has clearly changed...
Silentcorner wrote: » The feminist movement has seen to it that it (female on male abuse) is not even considered, it forms part of the central tenets of Feminism theory that suggests domestic abuse can only be male on female, it is consequence of patriarchal oppression ....I can't believe sometimes that we are living in a time as dark as this.The feminists have even thrown their lesbian sisters under the bus...Lesbian relationships are way more abuse than gay relationships, how can the patriarchy be blamed for that? Life-time prevalence of IPV in LGB couples appeared to be similar to or higher than in heterosexual ones: 61.1% of bisexual women, 43.8% of lesbian women, 37.3% of bisexual men, and 26.0% of homosexual men experienced IPV during their life, while 35.0% of heterosexual women and 29.0% of heterosexual men experienced IPV. When episodes of severe violence were considered, prevalence was similar or higher for LGB adults (bisexual women: 49.3%; lesbian women: 29.4%; homosexual men: 16.4%) compared to heterosexual adults (heterosexual women: 23.6%; heterosexual men: 13.9%)https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6113571/
