holliehobbie wrote: » Don't buy lunch at work. Make sandwiches. Have you been back to court re getting the maintenance looked at. Do you need a car?
Loveinapril wrote: » Go back to court and have the amount of maintenance you pay looked at. It seems a lot based on your income. Was the initial figure court ordered? Edit- Oh I just saw it is for two children. You may just have to look at cheaper rent and a better paying job.
Dalomanakora wrote: » You can apply for HAP yourself if your income isn't enough to pay your rent. Your ex partner is on 260 a week, plus C.A, plus 120 from you. So the guts of 400 ish a week? So less than you. And while she'd be paying less rent, she has the kids full time and has to pay higher food, clothing, electricity costs etc because of the higher number of people in the home. If you genuinely can't afford the maintenance, ask the court for a variance. But realistically you need to get a better paying job, or move somewhere cheaper, or move somewhere within walking distance of a job. Begrudging 480 a month for your kids and saying she spends it on booze is nasty. Kids cost an absolute fortune to raise and if she's surviving on welfare, life is no picnic for her either
Evd-Burner wrote: » In my opinion you are not earning enough money to be paying 120 in maintenance a week, if it is court ordered then you need to go back into court and do up a statement of means and allow a judge to decide an amount that has to be paid. You have a duty of care for your kids and if you keep going down the road you are now you will end up in a position where you will be no good to anybody! Also when you do go to court, only focus on your finances and your ability to pay. Do not insinuate that she goes out every week when you have the kids as it will not go down well with the judge.
Ultimate Seduction wrote: » If she can afford to go on the lash two nights a week money isn't that tight for her. I don't mean a few drinks either its a right bender. Not begrudging her a night out at all, its tough looking after the kids all week but money is the only problem. There is nowhere cheaper to rent for me, ans definetley not closer to work,please read what I am typing! I feel my only hope is to quit work an sign on, or the long rope! Feel for every other bloke in this position or worse when mortgage involved!
troyzer wrote: » Don't have kids? Me and my girlfriend are making okay money and we agree we couldn't afford kids.
Ultimate Seduction wrote: » Ah! Genius aren't you? We could actually afford the kids when we were living together, quite comfortably actually.
troyzer wrote: » No you couldn't. Assuming both of your incomes were the same, there's no way you were comfortably able to afford two kids
Ultimate Seduction wrote: » Who said I'm begrudging my kids warmth and a roof over their heads? Talk about jumping! Im the bad guy here busting my balls to help pay for them?
[Deleted User] wrote: » This is RI, a place for people to seek advice, not ideas on changing the past. Shut up.
troyzer wrote: » I'm not talking about changing the past. The poster feels hard done by and is expecting to pay less. I'm saying he's being unrealistic and agree with the other posters that he needs to get a better job. They're his kids. They need more, not less.
Ultimate Seduction wrote: » I'll know not to post again anyway. Thanks for the genuine replys.
troyzer wrote: » The genuine reply is to stop pitying yourself. Man up, be responsible and look after your kids. And that means getting a better job.
eviltwin wrote: » Maybe you should stop posting now and leave it to the people with actual advice. The OP is looking for advice not judgement and immature drivel.
troyzer wrote: » That is the advice!! Get a better job!! That's the only solution here. He might very well to court and get a reduction in his payments but then his kids lose out. The "genuine" responses here amount to pats on the back and telling him to shaft his kids?
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