Bannasidhe wrote: » And this is why I don't go to weddings. Son - if you are reading this - you have been warned. Mammy of the groom will be washing my hair that day. What ever date you decide. Hair washing. :cool:
Hoboo wrote: Poor planning on your behalf OP. You should have been upfront and not send intvites, but instead sold tickets.
Suckit wrote: » I was at a wedding last year (two nights in Kilkenny). Cost a fair bit as it was on the same time as Kilkenny Arts festival. Anyway, on the 2nd night, the bride approached me and said that she hadn't got my card. I had met the groom in the street the day before and had given it to him as I had it on me (after getting the card in the shop) and he put it in his car. I told her I gave it to him. 30 minutes later she came back to me and said he says he never got it (everyone was fairly cut) We had to go to him, and I was asked in front of him and about 5-10 other people "did you give him the card yesterday?" The groom stared straight at me in kind of shock (as he wasn't expecting to be confronted and knew I wasn't). Long story short, we got the card out of the car, but the thing that shocked me most, was that she had already gone through the cards and was working out who hadn't given anything and decided that the best thing to do was confront them all the night before we all went home.
teednab-el wrote: » I got married in the first few weeks of 2019 and going through the wedding cards and gifts there were at least 15 couples out of 300 people who didn't give a gift. And to those who say guests don't have to give anything. Have you got married recently and if so did you mind the experience of forking the bill for guests that didn't cough up the cash?
teednab-el wrote: » I got married in the first few weeks of 2019 and going through the wedding cards and gifts there were at least 15 couples out of 300 people who didn't give a gift. On the day we had a system in place that the groommen and bridesmaids give the cards directly to the mothers of the bride and groom and all people involved here were very responsible people and all cards went directly to the bride and grooms safe in the room. The system of cards going missing didn't occur because everyone was on the ball and I know that with the bridesmaids and groomsmen and both mothers. However there were 15 couples in total that gave no gifts. Out of these 15 couples, 5 of them said they had gifts for us, which we haven't received yet (not going to, receive now). 1 or 2 guests turned up on the day with just picture frames (10 euro job) . I am not trying to sound like I'm miserable but it's bad form that 17 couples couldn't even cover the cost of having them there. People know the cost of things these days. At the end of the day we paid for them. They don't have to give anything I know but most people know thats pretty miserable thing to do and rude especially if they are going to drink eat and enjoy the entertainment at the bride and grooms expense. Anyone have similar experience? And to those who say guests don't have to give anything. Have you got married recently and if so did you mind the experience of forking the bill for guests that didn't cough up the cash? I'm sure there are many people on here who have experienced this and I know exactly what I'm talking about. What did people do as a result as a matter of interest?
twowheelsonly wrote: » Seriously though, that's just sad.. I'm picturing all these couples sitting down on the laptop with their spreadsheets and marking off all the cards and gifts against their guest lists.
Third_Echelon wrote: » You pay for your guest's dinner and entertainment! That's how it works.... If you didn't want to pay for their dinner, why did you invite them? .
Paddy The Pirate wrote: » This post would make me take second thought as to the intentions of anyone who invited me to their wedding. As previous posters have said, many of your guests may have already forked out decent chunks of cash. Are you genuinely so petulant and shallow, that you would go as far as to figure out each guest who didn't contribute adequately to your feast? Genuinely felt sick reading your post. How could you call yourself a friend to these people ? If they saw this post, how would they feel?
teednab-el wrote: » How was I to know they wouldn't pay for their dinner?
lbc2019 wrote: » Is the OP a wind up?
teednab-el wrote: » There is alot of foolish people on here. The same people would act the same if They found out some of their guests screwed them over. Oh you should enjoy your day because the people who turned up without gifts turned up to celebrate your day. The irony. There are some really stupid people in here I must say. Jump on the bandwagon.
Pawwed Rig wrote: » You kinda have to do that though as when you're writing the thank you letters to everyone it might look petty to thank someone for a gift who didn't give one.
Midnight Sundance wrote: » I wrote cash beside my list - the people who gave 50 were thanked and appreciated just as much as those who gave more. I wrote the gift down just so i could mention it in the thank you card. Not to compare who gave the best gift. I really only cared that people came and enjoyed themselves. I would hate to think that I’d invited people so they’d pay for my wedding.
ted1 wrote: » Op your attitude stinks. However you only got married within in the past ten weeks. Many people give presents after the wedding. Sometimes up to a year after. In our group when people first started getting married presents were very generous, however once kids starting appearing couples found money much tighter. And only couple less couples could afford to keep giving generous gifts. You choose to get married in the new year when people are broke after Christmas, probably hadn’t even got paid yet. I’m sure people spent a fortune to meet your Dress code , travel, fuel , possible pay for accommodation . Give them a break and get over yourself
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