The Infinite Fart wrote: » Very similar experiences?? Really? You mean like as an uncle/aunt/teacher etc. After having carried the baby in your ever expanding body for 9 months while puking endlessly into the loo, attended every scan and felt it wriggle about and heard it's heartbeat for the first time, saw it take it's first breath, to spend endless hours awake every night as it wakes up demanding food/nappy change every three hours with the accompanying sleep deprivation, seeing it's first attempt at a smile or a giggle, feeling the vomit soak into your clothes after your baby pukes on you for the 7th time today...I think not...It's probably the most intense but rewarding experiences I've ever had in my life and though I have other kids in the family, nothing will ever compare to having your own in terms of similar experiences. As someone who has had other kids around before having my own I suppose I have the benefit of having both experiences and I really do think it's mad to draw parallells between both. As regards bad manners having a baby is an enormous life change and many struggle with the transition. It can be really hard to strike a balance between baby and friends. In saying that not into the whispering craic either though. I don't think we invited any around at all at that stage cause it was just so bloody exhausting.
GreeBo wrote: » The child's world revolves around their nap time. The child is not self sufficient, hence my world revolves around them at the moment. boo hoo to you having to wait 90 minutes for someone with a newborn. Maybe you are just cranky because you soiled yourself?
How Soon Is Now wrote: » Im sure you tell everyone about all of this in detail a lot right?
How Soon Is Now wrote: Im sure you tell everyone about all of this in detail a lot right?
Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: » Is this a recent phenomenon or has it always been the case? I'm beyond this phase in my life but I have friends/colleagues/acquaintances who seem to think that the world revolves around their kids nap or feeding times. I was invited to a christening and at 11.30am, the mother a child left the christening to bring the baby home because nap time was between 12 and 2pm. So what was the point in having a Christening if you're just going to go home! A friend invited themselves over to the house to introduce their new baby, she turns up 90 minutes late with the explanation that the child was asleep and couldn't be woke!!! So I have to organise my life around when your 6 month old child decides to wake up??? A new colleague has joined after moving back to Ireland from Australia where the baby was born. She's married with one child and is living in her parents while the house they bought is being renovated for the past year. Anyway, I can hear her chewing the balls off her father and snarking down the phone at the mother if the child isn't asleep at nap time or had it's arse wiped a certain way! Another one was when we were INVITED over to a friends house, everybody had to whisper because the baby was having their nap and couldn't be woke. Do they not realise that it's a self fulfilling prophecy, if you tip toe around the house then you are creating an environment where the child will wake up whereas if you proceed as normal the kid will adapt to the noise? What is the matter with these people that their kids are so precious where everyone has to tip toe around their timetable and sleeping habits or God forbid that a child might hear a loud voice!?!
The Infinite Fart wrote: » No. I don't actually. But I'm discussing it now, on a discussion forum about this topic. Imagine that
Ilovethe bonesofyou wrote: » I'm sure you look down your nose and judge people who you think aren't at your level of coolness a lot right?
Muckka wrote: » I find it funny watching some of these parents in their late 20's up until their 40's trying to look after kid's. It's a complete shock to their system, they were so used to the fancy free and easy lifestyle. Then along comes baby, everything else goes out the window. As for younger parents they just seem to cope way better and are well able to compartmentalise their lives. My lad was born when I was 23. I just had to make sacrifices and let go of my night's out when I had him He came first and some of my friends had kids too so we had that in common. Would I recommend having kid's younger ? Definitely. Would I go again ? Definitely not. Life is good when you're in your 40's and no more tears...
Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: » Another one was when we were INVITED over to a friends house, everybody had to whisper because the baby was having their nap and couldn't be woke. Do they not realise that it's a self fulfilling prophecy, if you tip toe around the house then you are creating an environment where the child will wake up whereas if you proceed as normal the kid will adapt to the noise?
Alf Veedersane wrote: » I'm not sure if you meant to come across as smug as you did...but some people choose to wait and it works out better for them. Some people have kids younger and it works better for them.
Muckka wrote: » I find it funny watching some of these parents in their late 20's up until their 40's trying to look after kid's.
Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: » Unlike you I don't make decisions for other people on whether or not they should have children
oLoonatic wrote: » Times change, parenting styles change. Perhaps you need to change too.
retro:electro wrote: » What?
Blakely Quaint Sand wrote: » Or maybe don't leave me waiting 90 mins or invite me over to your house.
Savannah Gray Laborer wrote: » Didn't you get the memo? People in their late 20s and early 30s (i.e. the age of most new parents nowadays - the majority of whom are doing fine) are past it for raising children - past it! And it's "funny" - like a comedy.
Mrsmum wrote: » Sometimes people have no choice regarding when they have children. It doesn't always happen to plan.
Muckka wrote: » There's an app you can get if you've problems reading a post, and sometimes if you read further down, you'll get more of the story. There's a lot of different ways you can read into a post. If you translate your version, I'd be more than delighted to give you mine.
retro:electro wrote: » I was wondering if I misinterpreted your initial post and surely you didn’t actually mean to be that patronising, but I see now that it’s just your style. Carry on.
Muckka wrote: » I'd buy that for a dollar lol I never said they're past it, I said they find it more difficult. But sure you're entitled to add a bit here and there.
Cienciano wrote: » This one is the funniest. You think it's weird and precious being quiet around a baby that's asleep? What terrible parents! They should have a noisy atmosphere for a baby to sleep in!? Christ, you should be a child psychologist. You also are moaning about the world revolving around newborn babies and not you? Because it upsets you? The ignorance and irony is amazing, I actually hope this is a troll.
Jack Gorgeous Fishhook wrote: » They really don’t. Theyre more likely to have a stable income, a house so they’re not beating a path to the council for assistance. They’ve got to enjoy their youth, gone to college, settled down and had time to grow up. Sounds like you’re just trying to console yourself to be honest.
