Brregzit wrote: » How do you feel when a feminist asks you this question? For some reason I feel they are trying to bait me. As in if you answered yes, the next question could be "does that happen often with you?" I remember Ciara Kelly of Newstalk recently asking this question to a man on the radio. He was talking about his hurt after his girlfriend took his child from him and left the country without him ever seeing him again. She asked 'did it make you angry?'. He actually said 'yes' and she left him aloe after that. But never the less, I'd be weary of it.
kippy wrote: » I don't think I know any feminists and I don't think, if I did, any of them would go around asking those types of questions.
Effects wrote: » How can you not know any feminists?
kippy wrote: » I can't say I know anyone that has told me that they are feminist.
Effects wrote: » I don't go around telling people that I'm a feminist. It doesn't mean I'm not a feminist.
Sonics2k wrote: » I literally don't see the problem with that question? It's safe to say he'd be angry. I'd be angry. Hell, I was angry when my ex left and took the kids across the country.
Deleted User wrote: » Whether a feminist or not, it's a classic domineering trick out of psychology 101.
breadmond wrote: » What planet do you live on where you think that psychology undergrads spend their time learning to one-up each other in conversation?
Brregzit wrote: » And you'd be even more angry if you were baited with such a question.
seamus wrote: » What are you talking about? It's a question. The person is being interviewed about themselves and their personal experiences. In order to make them more sympathetic to the listener, the interviewer will seek to establish what their emotional state was at the time. This allows the person listening to connect more deeply with the interviewee.
Dimitri Early Bullfighting wrote: » What are you talking about? Why focus on the negative emotion of anger? Why not ask if it made him sad, lonely, depressed, relieved even. Who wouldn't be angry if their OH took their child, never to be seen again.
seamus wrote: » There must be some weird dog whistle I'm missing here. Something about the word "angry" that's making you people get all worked up. Why is asking whether he was sad, lonely or depressed, better than asking if he was angry?
Brregzit wrote: » It is a classic domineering trick though. Maybe it's not from psychology 101!
Deleted User wrote: » Those of a lesser footing than yourself?
Deleted User wrote: » Let me clarify, before you extrapolate incorrectly again. 'Psychology 101' referring to obvious transparency. My point being that the interviewer is employing a tactic of control, steering the conversation to their advantage. I have encountered this, and don't allow questions to develop that lead one down a cul de sac.
seamus wrote: » More cryptic statements. There are clearly a few people on this thread for whom it seems outrageously offensive that a man being interviewed about a negative experience in their life, would be asked how it made them feel. More specifically, you're outraged that he would be asked "did it make you angry". I'm confused as to why this is so offensive.
Brregzit wrote: » How might you handle this question? if I may ask. I remember thinking that I could have answered "it made me sad", because it would be hard to fault that.
Deleted User wrote: » Who said it was offensive? There is no outrage, merely the question itself and underlying motive brought into focus. I concede on radio it might appear considerate, but in other contexts it could (in my opinion) be construed as manipulative.
seamus wrote: » Why is that better than "yes, it made me angry"? Why would you fault that? As above, still doesn't answer the question of why "sad" is superior to "angry"?
