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Being called love in a senior position - Mod warning post 1; read if you posted here

BBFAN

Hi All,

I've recently started a position in a very senior position and there's a person who is on the same level as me who calls me love.

Pisses me right off, I'm not his love, a lot older and a lot more qualified.

I've told him and he keeps correcting himself and throwing the eyes up to heaven like "ah you're making a big deal". Really pissing me off.

What do you all think?

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punisher5112

BBFAN wrote: »

I've already done that as stated in the OP and he continues to say it and throw his eyes up to heaven.

Possible he is doing it for kicks.

Why not play the game.

Be condescending towards him but maybe you already are and he is getting back at you.

If you continue the way you are it will only get worse.

Peter Denham

Why is it only relevant to being in a senior position? You shouldn't speak down to people either.

BBFAN

punisher5112 wrote: »

What makes one professional though as I see many that have qualifications and believe they are professional but far from it ...

If you don't like it pull him to one side and say it's not on.

Give him a chance and tell him you are willing to let it go for now but you aren't that type and won't put up with it.

I've already done that as stated in the OP and he continues to say it and throw his eyes up to heaven.

punisher5112

What makes one professional though as I see many that have qualifications and believe they are professional but far from it ...

If you don't like it pull him to one side and say it's not on.

Give him a chance and tell him you are willing to let it go for now but you aren't that type and won't put up with it.

BBFAN

punisher5112 wrote: »

Makes you sound old

That's fine by me, rather be considered as old rather than unprofessional.

punisher5112

BBFAN wrote: »

I'm trying to be ironic, sorry if that went over your head.

But let m explain simply.

If someone who thinks that that it's okay to call someone who is equal to or above them on a professional level "love", then they shouldn't have any problem whatsoever with being called "son"". Am I right?

Makes you sound old

BBFAN

blindside88 wrote: »

You believe someone is talking down to you by calling you love yet see no issue in clearly speaking down to someone in a derogatory manner (who may well be at a much higher level than you in their career) and calling them “son”.

Fair enough

I'm trying to be ironic, sorry if that went over your head.

But let m explain simply.

If someone who thinks that that it's okay to call someone who is equal to or above them on a professional level "love", then they shouldn't have any problem whatsoever with being called "son"". Am I right?

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dartboardio wrote: »

Better.
It’s on an equal level. Love is something you generally say to someone younger and less experienced.

youre projecting this tbh

its not exactly appropriate language, but that doesnt mean that you can just decide it means whatever you want it to either

that said, if youve asked him to stop he should be checking himself. maybe a slightly patronising nickname for him in response isnt an awful idea.

blindside88

BBFAN wrote: »

A lot senior than you will ever reach son.

You believe someone is talking down to you by calling you love yet see no issue in clearly speaking down to someone in a derogatory manner (who may well be at a much higher level than you in their career) and calling them “son”.

Fair enough

punisher5112

dartboardio wrote: »

Better.
It’s on an equal level. Love is something you generally say to someone younger and less experienced.

Not necessarily....

I get called son by peythe same age so can be just a saying.....

dartboardio

punisher5112 wrote: »

Hey sugar would that be better or worse ...

Better.
It’s on an equal level. Love is something you generally say to someone younger and less experienced.

punisher5112

Hey sugar would that be better or worse ...

limnam

splinter65 wrote: »

Each and every time he calls you love you say “sure Dickie””good idea Dickie” “not today Dickie” heavy emphasis on the Dickie. As loud as you like.

You'd make a very odd senior...

rob316

I don't think hes trying to annoy ya it just comes out naturally. My boss would call most females "girl" after talking to them like "alrite girl no problem". That's just a cork thing

splinter65

Each and every time he calls you love you say “sure Dickie””good idea Dickie” “not today Dickie” heavy emphasis on the Dickie. As loud as you like.

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BBFAN wrote: »

Hi All,

I've recently started a position in a very senior position and there's a person who is on the same level as me who calls me love.

Pisses me right off, I'm not his love, a lot older and a lot more qualified.

I've told him and he keeps correcting himself and throwing the eyes up to heaven like "ah you're making a big deal". Really pissing me off.

What do you all think?

I'd not respond when addresses as such. Wait until he addresses you by your first name. He'll eventually get tired of it. Don't give him any other reaction.

duffman13

If you've only started in a senior position I'd focus more on your job and making an impact. You can make a stand against this twat but establish yourself first

smelly sock

BBFAN wrote: »

Hi All,

I've recently started a position in a very senior position and there's a person who is on the same level as me who calls me love.

Pisses me right off, I'm not his love, a lot older and a lot more qualified.

I've told him and he keeps correcting himself and throwing the eyes up to heaven like "ah you're making a big deal". Really pissing me off.

What do you all think?

Get over it. Nothing to get worked up about.